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does my baby only sleep like 45 minutes at a freaking time at night!?
I seriously don't even bother sleeping anymore b/c the tiny naps she allows me is NOT good enough. I need a good chunk of sleep or I wake up worse. Keeping her awake during the day just doesn't seem to work, and sometimes we literally can't even do it! This little miss sleeps when SHE wants to, and I just can't take it. I thought at about a month old they flip their days and nights to normal?
ALSO why oh WHY will she not sleep in her crib? She only falls asleep on us and if we put her down we're lucky if ten minutes go by before she wakes up whining again. I want her to associate her crib with sleeping, I want her to fall asleep on her own and not on us only.
I KNOW I'm not alone here on either of these issues so, what did you guys do to fix it??
Oh I am sorry you are having trouble! I know how hard it is when you cannot get any sleep!
Do you hold her all the time when she is awake or do you put her down and let her hang out awake? Sometimes they get so used to being held, that even when they get put down to sleep, they wake right back up. Maybe she is just going through a phase.
I would try putting her down somewhat awake and talk to her softly, pat her back, rub her tummy etc.. while she is laying in the crib. And gradually work on gettting her to sleep this way. See how that works.... is she gassy or fussy?
I hope some of this advice helps. I hope you can catch some zzzzz's soon!
No usually we can tell if she's gassy and then the second we pick her up she will let out a huge burp all on her own, we don't usually have to work at it but we do if we DO need to. She is always fussy, for no reason. She hardly ever just lays down and 'hangs out', I wish she would do it more! It's like if she's awake she's crying, except for the rare moments when she just relaxes. So that means that yes most of her time is spent being held, but she has to be held totally upright or has to be sat upright facing us, NOT outward, or she gets whiney again... it's so weird how she knows, but she is quite picky! We always try to put her down though so if she WILL be quiet and lay there she does, we don't pick her up until she whines a fair amount.. like, we don't pick her up the second she peeps, we wait until it gets serious b/c sometimes she will actually calm herself down, or it's just a few little cries and she's done..
As for your suggestion, we try to do that but even if it works she is awake and crying again in a few minutes. HOW does she know these things?? lol Mike thinks she's going to grow up to be the next Bill Gates or something, she's already way too smart lol
Aww, I am so sorry she is not sleeping for you hon! What I did with Josiah was take Em's (beginnermom's) advice on how she would wait until Ava was just getting drowsy and looked as if she were getting ready to fall asleep (her eyes close part way) and then place them in the crib. That way they don't associate falling asleep with you, and will be able to learn how to technically fall asleep on their "own". I've been doing that with Josiah for about 3 weeks now and it seems to be working for me. I try to consistently follow it but sometimes you can't help them falling asleep on you, especially if you fall asleep too (but even so the few times that it's happened he usually continues to sleep once I place him in his crib).
I hope you're able to work something out. I understand how frustrating it is to want your LO to sleep when your so tired and want sleep yourself.
PS - I am not sure what your views are on sleeping positions, but I learned too that Josiah won't sleep for more than 10 minutes on his back. So I've been letting him sleep on his side/tummy as well. Maybe Summer is that type too! Its worth a shot..Also I think Kacy mentioned about putting a warm water bottle on where they'll be sleeping in the crib right before you put them in there (the warmth will remind them of you) she said its worked for Landyn every time.
Aww, I am so sorry she is not sleeping for you hon! What I did with Josiah was take Em's (beginnermom's) advice on how she would wait until Ava was just getting drowsy and looked as if she were getting ready to fall asleep (her eyes close part way) and then place them in the crib. That way they don't associate falling asleep with you, and will be able to learn how to technically fall asleep on their "own". I've been doing that with Josiah for about 3 weeks now and it seems to be working for me. I try to consistently follow it but sometimes you can't help them falling asleep on you, especially if you fall asleep too (but even so the few times that it's happened he usually continues to sleep once I place him in his crib).
I hope you're able to work something out. I understand how frustrating it is to want your LO to sleep when your so tired and want sleep yourself.[/b]
Yes! That's exactly what I want - her to associate crib with sleep, but if I put her down while she's still drifting I don't even get to walk away before she wakes up and cries, and if I want until she DOES fall asleep it's like 10 minutes before she wakes up.. We get lucky sometimes though but it's not a sure fire thing yet and that's where we NEED to be. I am up all night and all morning long trying to go back and forth - calming her down enough to put her in her crib, then having to get right back up and calm her down again, repeat repeat repeat!
Aww, I am so sorry she is not sleeping for you hon! What I did with Josiah was take Em's (beginnermom's) advice on how she would wait until Ava was just getting drowsy and looked as if she were getting ready to fall asleep (her eyes close part way) and then place them in the crib. That way they don't associate falling asleep with you, and will be able to learn how to technically fall asleep on their "own". I've been doing that with Josiah for about 3 weeks now and it seems to be working for me. I try to consistently follow it but sometimes you can't help them falling asleep on you, especially if you fall asleep too (but even so the few times that it's happened he usually continues to sleep once I place him in his crib).
I hope you're able to work something out. I understand how frustrating it is to want your LO to sleep when your so tired and want sleep yourself.
PS - I am not sure what your views are on sleeping positions, but I learned too that Josiah won't sleep for more than 10 minutes on his back. So I've been letting him sleep on his side/tummy as well. Maybe Summer is that type too! Its worth a shot..Also I think Kacy mentioned about putting a water water bottle on where they'll be sleeping in the crib right before you put them in there (the warmth will remind them of you) she said its worked for Landyn every time.[/b]
OMG you know what, I think that might work!!! When she sleeps on us she's always on her tummy, I don't know why I didn't think to try her in her crib like that before!! Omg I'm seriously going to try that right now...
If this works I'm going to fly over there and personally hug you.
Aww, I am so sorry she is not sleeping for you hon! What I did with Josiah was take Em's (beginnermom's) advice on how she would wait until Ava was just getting drowsy and looked as if she were getting ready to fall asleep (her eyes close part way) and then place them in the crib. That way they don't associate falling asleep with you, and will be able to learn how to technically fall asleep on their "own". I've been doing that with Josiah for about 3 weeks now and it seems to be working for me. I try to consistently follow it but sometimes you can't help them falling asleep on you, especially if you fall asleep too (but even so the few times that it's happened he usually continues to sleep once I place him in his crib).
I hope you're able to work something out. I understand how frustrating it is to want your LO to sleep when your so tired and want sleep yourself.
PS - I am not sure what your views are on sleeping positions, but I learned too that Josiah won't sleep for more than 10 minutes on his back. So I've been letting him sleep on his side/tummy as well. Maybe Summer is that type too! Its worth a shot..Also I think Kacy mentioned about putting a water water bottle on where they'll be sleeping in the crib right before you put them in there (the warmth will remind them of you) she said its worked for Landyn every time.[/b]
OMG you know what, I think that might work!!! When she sleeps on us she's always on her tummy, I don't know why I didn't think to try her in her crib like that before!! Omg I'm seriously going to try that right now...
If this works I'm going to fly over there and personally hug you.
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It took me awhile to figure that out with Josiah..I know everyone is like "back to sleep" but it just wasn't working for him. So he naps/sleeps on his tummy all the time and I've been getting nice blocks of 3-4 hours of sleep every night - he still wakes for 10 minutes to eat and then is off to sleep again for another 3-4 hours. He'll do this for about 3x! Its not sleeping through the night yet, but its better than getting up every hour when he was on his back!
I hope this works for you! My mom said I was a tummy sleeper too - and DH's mom said the same about him..So even though they associate the risk of tummy sleeping with SIDS, theres a rare chance it'll happen, as DH and I turned out to be fine!
We used to but Mike insists she won't "let" us anymore so he won't do it, and I plain CAN'T. She wriggles her arms free and then it's totally useless. I want him to try again, especially if this sleeping on her tummy idea doesn't end up working.
Aww, I am so sorry she is not sleeping for you hon! What I did with Josiah was take Em's (beginnermom's) advice on how she would wait until Ava was just getting drowsy and looked as if she were getting ready to fall asleep (her eyes close part way) and then place them in the crib. That way they don't associate falling asleep with you, and will be able to learn how to technically fall asleep on their "own". I've been doing that with Josiah for about 3 weeks now and it seems to be working for me. I try to consistently follow it but sometimes you can't help them falling asleep on you, especially if you fall asleep too (but even so the few times that it's happened he usually continues to sleep once I place him in his crib).
I hope you're able to work something out. I understand how frustrating it is to want your LO to sleep when your so tired and want sleep yourself.
PS - I am not sure what your views are on sleeping positions, but I learned too that Josiah won't sleep for more than 10 minutes on his back. So I've been letting him sleep on his side/tummy as well. Maybe Summer is that type too! Its worth a shot..Also I think Kacy mentioned about putting a water water bottle on where they'll be sleeping in the crib right before you put them in there (the warmth will remind them of you) she said its worked for Landyn every time.[/b]
OMG you know what, I think that might work!!! When she sleeps on us she's always on her tummy, I don't know why I didn't think to try her in her crib like that before!! Omg I'm seriously going to try that right now...
If this works I'm going to fly over there and personally hug you.
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It took me awhile to figure that out with Josiah..I know everyone is like "back to sleep" but it just wasn't working for him. So he naps/sleeps on his tummy all the time and I've been getting nice blocks of 3-4 hours of sleep every night - he still wakes for 10 minutes to eat and then is off to sleep again for another 3-4 hours. He'll do this for about 3x! Its not sleeping through the night yet, but its better than getting up every hour when he was on his back!
I hope this works for you! My mom said I was a tummy sleeper too - and DH's mom said the same about him..So even though they associate the risk of tummy sleeping with SIDS, theres a rare chance it'll happen, as DH and I turned out to be fine!
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Yeah, it does kinda scare me but she sleeps just fine on her tummy while she's on us I imagine she should be just fine. (I hope! ) But we shall find out soon if this was the answer all along! I'll start counting from 1.50am and we'll see how long she goes. So far we're at 5 whole minutes - I even got to pee this time!
I was curious though, does the SIDS risk decrease the older they are? I'm hoping her "chances" are very teeny tiny anyway..
I was curious though, does the SIDS risk decrease the older they are? I'm hoping her "chances" are very teeny tiny anyway..[/b]
I was researching stuff online and they said the highest rate of deaths is inbetween 2 and 4 months of age. Tonya mentioned something to be about mattress wrapping and how they've researched that to be successful in reducing SIDS. I googled it and came upon a site, www.babysake.com. Everything on there seemed legit but my DH was skeptical that the company was just trying to make a profit off people. It seems to be true the stuff I read!
I was curious though, does the SIDS risk decrease the older they are? I'm hoping her "chances" are very teeny tiny anyway..[/b]
I was researching stuff online and they said the highest rate of deaths is inbetween 2 and 4 months of age. Tonya mentioned something to be about mattress wrapping and how they've researched that to be successful in reducing SIDS. I googled it and came upon a site, www.babysake.com. Everything on there seemed legit but my DH was skeptical that the company was just trying to make a profit off people. It seems to be true the stuff I read!
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! 2-4 months omg.. mattress wrapping? never heard of that.. i went to that site briefly but all the links freaked me out so i'm going to stay away from it until i'm less tired so it won't give me nightmares lol........
i wonder what it is about those ages that makes them higher risk....
it's 2.16 now and she's still a snoozin! Im going to join her now.. ty everyone for the advice i will update next time, which is hopefully in the morning!
Don't quote me, but I believe SIDS risk decreases with age, but there's no significant drop till around 6months old. I can't seem to find where I read this before so I'm not 100% sure if it's correct.
I know things are tight for you Heather, but have you looked into getting some sort of sling for the daytimes? That way at least you can move around and she is constantly snuggled with you. Most bubs are happy to sleep in them too, so she'll still get her rest.
What you are describing is how Griffin is for about three hours a night. I call it his fussy fuss time. I cannot put him down without him screaming. I don't know how you feel about it, but have you put her down and let her cry for a little bit to see if she can work it out herself? Sometimes Griffin just needs to cry and then he will just pass out sleeping. I did this with DS also and I firmly believe sometimes they just need to cry.
Now, I know his cries and there is a the sucking in air wialing cry that if he does this, I will pick him up. I do not let him cry for more than about 5 minutes at a time, but it also gives me a small break to pee, get a drink, take a breath. If you are comfortable with this, I would try it. You will get to know her "oh my god yuo have to pick me up NOW" versus, I am crying for a reason you cannot figure out but I am ok.
Oh, and I do my little mental check list at this time. Is he hungry? Is he dry? Does he have a fever, is he sick, is he hurt? If I can say that he does not have the above things, then I feel better to let him cry for a while and know he is ok. This helps me mentally.
As my mom says about his fussy time , Oh Griffin, stop acting like a person! haha!
Hang in there, you will figure out what is going to work for her!
awww, it sounds like keeping her up late didn't work last night?? How often are you feeding her.. we always feed Hannah right full more the usual before bed so she sleeps longer. I also give her a bath around 7 using johnsons bed time bath which helps her wind down.. She wont sleep in her crib either.. I usually rock her to sleep then when shes right out either put her in her playpen or i have this fisher price chair thats elevated that she seems to love to sleep in .. I hope you get some sleep soon.. make Mike take her this weekend so you get a good nights rest
JMO I wouldn't put baby to sleep on stomach because of SIDS, I do believe back to sleep worked.
As far as the 45 minute thing I was wondering, does she sleep longer between feeds during the day? Wake her. Feed her more often during the day so she gets more calories during the day.
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Gosh Summer that sucks. I don't know if you are open to this or not...many people are very anti-tummy sleeping, but that's the only way any of my kids have been able to sleep. If Carsten's on his back he screams and screams and wakes up every hour, but he sleeps for 8 hours straight on his tummy. It's really the only advice I can give. Take care and
Gosh Summer that sucks. I don't know if you are open to this or not...many people are very anti-tummy sleeping, but that's the only way any of my kids have been able to sleep. If Carsten's on his back he screams and screams and wakes up every hour, but he sleeps for 8 hours straight on his tummy. It's really the only advice I can give. Take care and [/b]
Yeah, Josiah's the same way..I think she was trying this from what I suggested earlier..I don't see why so many people are anti-tummy..I mean A LOT of us grew up sleeping that way and look at us now.
It sounds like you have a high needs baby, and oh how I remember how tough that is! My DD screamed/fussed 14 out of 24 hours a day around 8 weeks (we finally got curious so we kept track of it one day). Every day begins to feel like you're going in to battle and it is so hard. You may try getting a miracle blanket for swaddling? It is the straight-jacket of swaddling blankets so it might help--my dd had to be swaddled for all naps and night time in order to even sleep the tiniest bit.
I don't have any advice on how to "fix" the situation because the other ladies gave some great ideas. But I do know that when I was going through this myself, I was desperate to find the answer but it was also hard to hear everyone telling me what they did to "make" their baby sleep or do whatever and it began to feel like if I couldn't "make" my baby do the same then I must have been a total screw up. It was so frustrating to hear about all the easier babies while I couldn't even get her to stop screeching, much less to put herself down to sleep at night. I tell you this because its possible that your baby may just be really needy and there may be things you can do to learn to cope with it and tweak little things, to improve the situation but things may just be more of a struggle for you guys--this is not to scare you, but I felt like when I accepted that I wasn't doing anything "wrong" and that Lorna just had more needs than most other babies I at least could relax that it wasn't my fault, you know?
One thing I did learn is that every thing is a phase of some sort and most things seem to work themselves out all on their own. You don't see this until it happens and then you think "now what was I so worried about?" but it truly is how it seems to go. I hope you find some ways to make things smoother for you and I definitely send you a great BIG HUG I did my time in Baby Boot Camp and I'm so thankful it was with my first child so I had the time to really focus on attending to her needs. Now Lorna is a perfectly delightful, although strong-willed, 2 year old and we are so close--I think the early struggles actually brought us closer rather than farther apart. There will come a day when the fog will lift and you'll finally be on the other side of this and I hope for your sake it comes sooner rather than later.
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this is normal! imagine if all you'd ever known was being tightly swaddled in a warm cozy environment with the sounds & smell of your mommy... this was all she knew until birth. as parents I've found over the years that the most valuable asset we posses is adaptability. "giving in" to baby is one of the first of many acts of unselfish love you will give your child. as I type DD is swaddled in her sling on my chest b/c she is just having a day where she will not be put down & honestly, I'm trying my best to enjoy every second of it. Seeing my now almost 12 year old son makes me remember how fast they grow up & don't want or need you as much. I know it's hard, all of my babies have been the same, but this will pass faster than you can imagine.
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to you and your LO. Annabella sleeps well when she is swaddled and we have a white noise machine we play for her at night. I hope the suggestions work and she sleeps soon.
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) But we shall find out soon if this was the answer all along! I'll start counting from 1.50am and we'll see how long she goes. So far we're at 5 whole minutes - I even got to pee this time! 
! 2-4 months omg.. mattress wrapping? never heard of that.. i went to that site briefly but all the links freaked me out so i'm going to stay away from it until i'm less tired so it won't give me nightmares lol........
i will update next time, which is hopefully in the morning!
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