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i was just wondering....when my BF and i were registering, we hadnt ever discussed pacifiers before and i was pleased to find out that neither of us want to give the baby a pacifier. so we didnt register for any in hopes that people will get the hint.
i know that they can be controversial and i was curious whether you planned to give your baby a pacifier?
also, for the BTDT moms...do they just give them to babies in the hospital? is that something i need to write in a birth plan or something?
I never planned on giving Ethan one but in the hospital sometimes it was the ONLY thing that quietened him down. So we gave it to him and now 11 months later, he still takes one. He weaned himself from the bottle weeks ago but he's gotta have his paci!
I know at our hospital they offer one but it's up to the parents whether or not you give it to them.
DD used a pacifier for the first 3 months, one day she just didn't show the need for it so we stopped.... During that time we mostly used it to soothe her and help put her to sleep... I will probably have one or two on hand with this baby, most likely the ones they give you in the hospital for one there free and second I like the fact they don't have an attachment that will latch on to the clothes.
I have read that pacifiers can help reduce the risk of SIDS, and some babies HAVE to have them ( just to satisfy their constant sucking reflexes) and then there are some other kids who DETEST paci's and spit them out and are content without them. We are going to use the orthodontic pacifiers because I have read that those are best. As far as the hospital giving your baby one, you need to let them know that you DO NOT want your baby to have one, and that if you are exclusively breastfeeding, to NOT give your baby a bottle. My friend didnt want to bottle feed her baby, and wanted to exclusively breast feed, and they gave her son a bottle AND a pacifier. She was pissed, but they didnt know WHAT her wishes were about this, because she didnt have it in writing in her birthplan. Just make sure it is in your birth plan and that you have a TON of copies, and let the nursery staff know what your wishes are.
ALSO!!!! I almost forgot this..... MOST babies will get nipple confusion if they are given a pacifier while they are "learning" to latch/breastfeed, so if that is the case, then I would say no pacifier until 4 weeks after birth, when a steady breastfeeding pattern is established.
My DS didn't have one right away, he was probably about 6 weeks old. When he stopped nursing completely (9 months) he had no interest in the soother. My DD was bottlefed after 6 weeks, she just wasn't a good nurser at all and she took one then. By the time she was a year old she wasn't interested in it at all. I have a couple on hand here for Jack just in case, but I'm a feed on demand mama so I'm hoping there won't be much of a need. We'll see!! If he's like DS and wants to nurse for 45 minutes with only a 1/2 hour break in between every time I will be temped to provide the soother to keep my sanity!!!!
I used to be really against them, but I've actually read a lot of positive things about them since. DD never would take one but she was a big time thumb sucker - so much that she had callused thumbs until she was 4 years old. I think I'd rather her had been stuck to a paci. If they are going to suck something it may as well be something designed for sucking.
At Toys R' Us they have a 'trade in' system for little kids to give up pacis for a toy. I think that's a cute idea.
I'm not against them and will probably use them if it helps soothe the babies. I read the latest studies about the reduction of SIDS risk, plus, "sucking" is one of the 5 S's from "Happiest Baby on the Block."
I try to stay away from them in the beginning to establish breastfeeding, but I think they're beneficial. Only 2 of my kids really took to a paci. The longest was Josh, and he just gave his up a couple of weeks ago(and doesn't seem to care).
I think they are more trouble than they are worth. We tried it with DD#1 and she would just howl when they fell out and we'd hunt for them. It
drove us nuts. We stopped using it after 3 or 4 days. Both kids ended up not needing anything, thumb or paci.
I think I'll follow the ladies suggestions who mentioned staying away from them until a breastfeeding pattern is established. After that I guess I'll just play it by ear and see what happens.
Lauryn refused a paci, the only time she takes one is if she wants something to chew on, she doesn't use them to suck or comfort. I am not against them, I have read some SIDS things about them possibly helping prevent it (lord knows they don't know what causes it for sure, so take that with a grain of salt). We did try them with Lauryn when she was battling colic, but she just would never take it.
If this baby has colic again, we will probably try one, but I am not going to offer it from birth. I have enough road blocks with BF to offer any possible nipple confusion to the mix. (Although I know some babys dont' have issues with that at all...)
IMO each child is different. If you have one that is completely unable to be calmed a paci maybe a lifesaver. I cannot speak for all kids but I truly think that if you have a paci lover and can take it away when they first start getting mobile, its not as bad b/c they have so much more going on to concentrate on.
Kam used a paci here and there for about six or seven months but never as an all the time thing. Only if she was really fussy when she was really young and then wanted it at night to go to sleep. At around seven months she was only using it at night and when I would check on her about fifteen minutes after I put her to bed at night it was on the floor so we took that as a sign she was not needing it and stopped the paci completely. She never protested it at all.
IMO, braces are much more of an expense and hassle than a paci for a year. If you have a baby that needs to satisfy that sucking reflex to calm down then I would give a paci and wean from it b/c its much harder to break them from thumb sucking than the paci.
On a side note : I try really hard to not use the word "never" when talking about my children b/c you just never know, but one thing that seems to drive me nuts is to see a child two or three or older walking around with a paci still. Regardless of whether mine want it or not I will break them of it by a year. I just think the paci beyond that inhibits talking and communicating and all that.
Oh and for the new moms: I read above that one of you was planning on a certain kind of paci to use. Sometimes they will only take a certain one. I wanted to use the orthodontic type but Kam would not have those at all. And I tried the cute little MAM ones that they have at BRU.. Nope. The ONLY one she would use was from Walmart by The First Years. Just a plain old paci. She had to have those particular ones but when she needed it, it was a lifesaver for a fussy baby.
My DD wouldnt use a paci until after she was about 4 months old... that was when i was trying to get her off of eating at night.. so id pop in the paci to distract her, and she still uses it at night and for her naps.. Never around the house for no reason.. I decided im not even gonna worry about it until she's three..
looks like i am the only one in this group with that mentality though!
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I'm not against them and will probably use them if it helps soothe the babies. I read the latest studies about the reduction of SIDS risk, plus, "sucking" is one of the 5 S's from "Happiest Baby on the Block."[/b]
Yes I read that about the SIDS thing too. I have pacifiers for him and 2 in my diaper bag for the hospital. They say to put them to bed with one to reduce the risk of SIDS.My daughter also weaned herself off of hers.
One of my twins uses the other hates them??? We are down to just night and naps for Nathan now and I plan on the paci being gone complely in a few months.
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My DD wouldnt use a paci until after she was about 4 months old... that was when i was trying to get her off of eating at night.. so id pop in the paci to distract her, and she still uses it at night and for her naps.. Never around the house for no reason.. I decided im not even gonna worry about it until she's three..
looks like i am the only one in this group with that mentality though!
~Em[/b]
Em, I hope my comment didn't offend you. I have no problem with kids that still need them to soothe at night and if mine needs it I would be fine with it at night at that age too, however the kids that run around all.day.long with them in their mouth at two, three and more bother me sometimes. Not that it is my place to judge how ANYONE else parents, I just have to wonder if that inhibits them from talking etc. Not to mention I have a cousin who is pushing four and still runs around with one constantly. He fell one day running outside with it and the whole thing was in his mouth. He could have choked.
Gabe used paci's off n on from the begining and weaned himself off them automatically before he hit a yr old, as well as the bottle! :-) I remember I was so nervous because at the daycare he was going to, they preferred the 1 yr olds to be off the bottle/paci's and I thought we would have issues but like clockwork, he moved on around the 1 yr mark to sippy cups with no problems and stopped taking/wanting his paci's before that even so wheewww! :-)
He also had no problems latching or anything.....
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