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Though I'm not here as often, I do read while NAKing. I saw that many of you are feeling as if you shouldn't hold your baby too much or you worry about spoiling him/her if you do. Don't worry about it, really. It's good for a baby to be held as much as they want to be. It helps them to feel connected and loved. If it's difficult, find a carrier that works for you.
I've always held my babies as much as they want me to. Yes, there are times they cry for a few minutes while I wrap up what I'm doing, but for the most part they have all been held as much as they want. None of them are spoiled and all found their independance as soon as they could start moving around on their own.
So try not to worry too much about spoiling them and just love on them while you can. Believe me, they'll be running away from you before you know it and you'll long for those snuggly days again.
This is sooo correct! God has given use such a special gift, we need to cherish every moment of it. Truthfully, I was in a hurry for my oldest to be independent, and he grew up so fast. He is now 18 and I can never get that time back. Enjoy your little one and give them all the time they need, its our gift to them.
I know there are times when it just isn't possible, that is ok, we do the best we can!!
this is one thing that stresses me out about leaving my baby with anyone. even DH and my mom will leave him fussing and crying and will only pick him up when he's full out screaming. they think if you pick them up you'll spoil them. everyone always comments on what a calm baby he is and I swear it's because I respond to him before he hits screaming level. my theory is that if you respond to his needs before he gets upset he will be slower to hit that level of extreme upset. not only that but the crying and screaming really makes his throat stuff worse (he has a soft trachea) and makes it harder for him to breathe.
I'd like to add though that not all kids are adverse to cuddles, hugs and kisses when they are older. My 8 year old still loves being held, carried, kissed, hugged and snuggled. Good thing she only weighs 46 lbs!