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I am soooooo flippin frustrated right now. What is it with people who think because I stay home to care for my kids that I have nothing better to do than run "this" to this place and pick up "that" from over there for them??? Like I'm sitting around eating Bon Bons and watching soaps or something!!
There is a girl on my team with Tastefully Simple. She hasn't been too active, but I've really bent over backwards trying to help her get her business going. She works outside the home and has a 10 month old son. Because she acts like she's so tired or the baby's cranky or teething or whatever, she's always asking me if I have this product or that and can I drop it off on her doorstep so she doesn't have to drive over to my house after she picks up her son from daycare. I've done this multiple times and haven't really minded, except for today.
Mind you, I'm chasing two kids while pregnant with a third, trying to get ready for my TS party in two days, advertising for another in a week in a half, trying to find a house (which is sucking up all my mental energy on its own) and I simply can't take anymore today!
She texted me and asked if I had some Spinach & Herb dip--I said yes and then she asked if I could take it to her work. I responded that my day is packed today and asked if there was any other way she could get it from me. And she has proceeded to repeatedly text me asking what it is that I'm so busy with today (uhhhh, none of your beeswax), can she meet me somewhere, can I drop it off at her house, etc. Its not really that I physically can't do this for her, but I'm so overwhelmed lately and its really not my personal "emergency" for spinach dip and I think she should make the effort as its her customer that is wanting it, RIGHT? Why do I have to justify myself to that extent?
Now, this is a nice girl and I do really like her. But she seems to be one of the MANY people who think because I stay at home I have all this free time. I'm killing myself here every day and sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind. I know that working outside the home has its challenges, but some days I'd love to run away to work, the land of the grown ups where I can actually reason with people.
I love being a SAHM, but if I hear one more person trying to tell me that their life is so busy because they work and that I should do this or that because I supposedly have all this time I might shank them with a sippy cup valve!!!!!
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I hear ya.. I know a lot of people who think SAHM's do nothing and have all this free time. People need to get their heads out of their butts and realize we are busy too!
People who have never stayed home before will never get it. I am guilty in that I wondered what SAHM's really do all day before I had Maddie, but I never really dwelled on it too much or cared. Their life, not mine, you know? Em put a good quote up there. Maybe she needs to figure out how to cut back some at work so she isn't so busy when she's not at work. It's not your fault or problem that she doesn't have the time.
Pass the bon bons please. It's time for my daily dose of hours upon hours of soap operas and bubble baths.
I only WISH being a SAHM were that fun...I seriously feel like a frickin' maid in my household..its the same thing day in and out..cleaning up messes from my DH & my son, making/baking meals/food, doing the laundry, hand washing all our dishes cause we don't have a dishwasher, caring for the dog, turkeys and baby calves. It is EXHAUSTING...not to mention were you're preggo..
I hope you don't cave into her whims. If it were me I'd prolly be nice a few times but afterwhile I'd kindly let her know that if needs something then she should be the one to come and get it!
It totally pisses me off, I consider myself lucky, I get to do both, I am a part time SAHM and I am a part time working mom. I actually think I am more tired on the days I am with the boys, when I am at work I can eat, I can pee, I can sit down. My husband would agree, he has the kids 3 nights a week for 3 hours and he is exhausted when I get home from work. Staying home and taking care of kids is a JOB, its WORKING.
I am sorry this girl is frustrating you, I wouldnt bend over backwards for her, you have enough on your plate. And the more you bend the further she will ask you to bend
That's frustrating. And I can't believe she has the nerve to keep pestering about it?!?!
My FIL is always throwing in shots about me being home, people just don't get it...AT ALL!
People don't get it! I do find time to be on the computer, but that's pretty much it for me time until after DH gets home. If people saw my cleaning list or the week or spent a single day with me they would no longer feel the need to ask "What do you DO all day" I clean, scrub, wash, organize, pick up, play with, feed, change, entertain, read to, teach, etc. It's not like I don't have anything to do!
Wow, she sounds CLUELESS! Gosh, after 12 weeks of maternity leave I was thrilled to go back to work for a VACATION! It was physically & emotionally exhausting to handle all of those things that go into running a home. And of course, since I was at home, I was expected to take care of everything because I had time. Yeah, I was just lying around chilling out...WHAT?!!
Kudos to all of the SAHM's. You are extraordinary women!
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Man, she's really pushy! I wouldn't cave into her because she doesn't sound like someone who is appreciative - she sounds like someone that will continue to aks for "favors" and try and make you feel guilty when you can't do it. In my experience these people get worse if you let it keep going.
I'm a teacher, so I have summers and vacations off to be a SAHM. Since I can't stay home full time, this is a great alternative for me. I will say though that being home with the kids all day is usually more exhausting than teaching a full day. This age is also so exhausting because many of our kids are walking and getting into everything, but they don't understand enough to always stop when you tell them to so you're CONSTANTLY on the move.
Hugs, don't let her make you feel like you aren't busy!
That is such a shame that she isn't more considerate. She is wrong to assume that you are available to her every beck and call. She sounds like someone who will take advantage and continue to do so. I admire all of our SAHM's even though I am not one of them. I have come to the understanding that just being a parent can be overwhelming at times no matter if you work inside or outside the home. At times it does feelharder to get everything done since I am away from home, but I realize that those things are hard to get done when I am home with her if that makes any sense.
P.S. I love Emily's saying.
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So did you do it? I wouldn't have, I hope you stuck to your guns. I say the same saying as Em all the time.
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When they persisted in questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let the person among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." John 8:7 Sail Back to Me
I might have missed something, but I am making the assumption that you live somewhere in civilization and as far as I know, this civilized world has grocery stores. So, why can't she do what every other civilized human does when they need groceries and STOP AT A GROCERY STORE on her way home from work. Or, if its THAT important, go on your lunch break.
I really don't understand people that can't figure things out or do things for themselves, I really can't.
As for the whole SAHM thing... don't even get me started. All I can say is the next time someone trys to give you the "you're home all day and don't do jack" brushoff, just smile and remember the huge difference in quality of care kids recieve at home from their own parents.
I didn't do it that day, but I did do it a few days later. But that day wasn't so crazy so I didn't mind too much. So, maybe I gave in, but it was on my own timeline on a day that wasn't so packed
Thanks for letting me vent guys--sometimes I think I'm losing my mind!
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I so totally agree with everyone! I've been having a hard time with the whole SAHM thing lately...
On Delilah's birthday, a few of us were discussing JM (Angie was there, as well as my friend Natalie that I know from the digi scrap boards and my friend Kim who I had worked with but is now also on JM) and my mom had a friend over who was another teacher at her school. When the other lady asked what we were talking about my mom answered her that we all chatted on the forum and that it must be nice to stay at home! Which irritated me at the time... but I let it slide... though every now and then I remember the little snarky comment.. and I know why she made it.. It's because she's very self-conscious and was scared that she would be judge negatively for the fact that I stay at home...
Then 2 weeks ago, we went to a barbecue our friends put on and there were many other families there... all very successful highly educated and well snobby people... and They totally ignored me all evening and just talked to DH because I obviously have nothing important to say... I would try to take part of conversations and was COMPLETELY ignored.. I felt like such a moron...
When the other lady asked what we were talking about my mom answered her that we all chatted on the forum and that it must be nice to stay at home!
If I didn't have you girls I would have gone insane being alone all the time. I consider having some time to chat online to be equivalent to chatting over the fence in the backyard.... and no one ever beat anyone up over that "back in the day"!
