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April 1st, 2010, 06:21 AM
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How do you answer questions? I've never been able to keep a pregnancy quiet for longer than a week, lol! But for some reason, I have a burning desire to keep this one (if it is one) secret for a while. However, the day David showed up, all my friends were joking about 9 months later. You know everyone is going to be curious. So what do I say? If I do get pregnant, how do I answer point blank questions if I don't want people to know? I don't want to lie, but I know I need some kind of answer, or else I'll stumble, and it will be obvious what the answer is.

I know my situation is unusual. Most women that get pregnant are just living life like normal, so people wouldn't be asking them if they're pregnant on a regular basis.
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April 1st, 2010, 07:23 AM
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I have no idea. I can't lie to save my own life. But I don't have many friends, so no one asks much. And those that did.. have ceased. After over a year, no one inquires much, which is nice. Now I know when it happens I can hide it for a bit.

I do agree with having a standby 'line' to use without blatantly lying.
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April 1st, 2010, 07:34 AM
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honestly if i ever get pregnant again ( god willing) i will tell no one. I mean NO ONE in real life i'll tell you girls , thats a given but im not telling anyone else , i dont want to hear what they will say ... and since it doesnt matter anyways why put myself through it?
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April 1st, 2010, 08:34 AM
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With our infertility, I felt like we were living our lives under a microscope and people were constantly asking about whether or not I was pregnant, etc.

I have found that saying, "It's a work in progress...." works well, and it's not a lie.....even when you're baking a baby, that's still a work in progress
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April 1st, 2010, 08:41 AM
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I kept my pregnancy with Jacob a secret for 12 weeks. It was hard but after having a m/c it was harder telling people we lost the baby than keeping the secret. This time we waited until I was about 7 weeks I think. It was harder this time to wait and I think it was because we were around my family more. If people ask if you are pregnant and you don't want them to know yet, simply tell them no.
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April 1st, 2010, 08:42 AM
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I'm no help, I shout it from the roof tops when I get pregnant.
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April 1st, 2010, 08:50 AM
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We got tired of people asking and saying no, and then they got tired of asking...

But, we didn't tell anyone until about the 12 week mark this time. It wasn't hard... When someone did ask, I'd just shrug my shoulders and say, "we're trying"... cuz we WERE trying (we're) and not we ARE trying (we're) ... That may not work with your situation... You could just give them a look of disappointment and not answer at all... I'm great at keeping these secrets, so saying NO when I was wasn't a problem!
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April 1st, 2010, 09:01 AM
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I'd just say things like "that would be nice' or "wouldn't that be a blessing?" or "God has a plan", etc and then change the course of the conversation.
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April 1st, 2010, 10:52 AM
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oooh I like Cyndee's!

No one really asked me, except teasingly when I didn't have a glass of wine with a meal. I always had a ready made excuse for that one, like "I have a meeting" or "I'm the DD".

I think Cyndee's might work best for your situation
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April 1st, 2010, 11:43 AM
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No one ever asked me so I never had to lie. Plus, I tried to keep myself out of situations where it would be obvious like where there would be drinking. DH did screw me over one time. We went to an outdoor concert at a winery with my family and he suggested that we all go for a wine tasting. Moron. I pretended to sip wine and then got him to finish the glass.
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April 1st, 2010, 03:22 PM
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Cyndee, I like your idea. I could say something like, "Wouldn't that be something?!"

Or even, "If I were, I'd probably know by now."
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