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June 10th, 2010, 11:18 PM
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i am nervous to dtd. we dtd the night before my m/c. i know it was just a coincidence, but i just want to see the doctor before we do anything. i feel bad, i mean i'll do other stuff, but i am just not ready. dh is annoyed about it, i can tell, but he gets it i guess.
did anyone else feel like this??

i mean, i don't plan on being celibate my whole pregnancy, but i just need a little more time.
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June 11th, 2010, 07:00 AM
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I totally get it and in fact didn't have sex (well no intercourse anyway) the entire time I was pregnant. I knew logically that there is no correlation between sex and m/c but I was terrified of it, really quite irrationally so.

I recall one of my IVF nurses saying this about activities and m/c early on in my treatments. She basically said if it's something that you think you would go back and "blame" for a m/c, then don't do it. She used the example of flying, but any activity works really.
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June 11th, 2010, 07:29 AM
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I feel ya

*WHEN* I get preggo again, DH and I have already sworn off intercourse (especially since I'm getting a cerclage at 14 weeks)

It's so frustrating, but I would definitely just explain to your DH that it makes you nervous, and after your previous loss, you just don't want to take any chances...I'm sure he'll understand
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June 11th, 2010, 07:34 AM
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I don't think I did too much before 8 weeks. Maybe 2 times?
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June 11th, 2010, 08:08 AM
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I was the exact same way.
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June 11th, 2010, 08:46 AM
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I can understand how you feel and while I don't think dtd can cause miscarriage, I completely avoided it until I was 10 weeks because it had taken me so long to become pregnant, so I just avoided everything potentially harmful. I will probably at least avoid it until 7-8 weeks next time around, hopefully dh will understand your concerns, especially if your still doing other things for him, that should be sufficient for a few weeks.
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June 11th, 2010, 08:55 AM
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I was the same too!
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June 11th, 2010, 09:05 AM
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Sadly for my husband we are at almost 16 weeks here and have only dtd once, I just plain don't feel like it or feel good enough. Poor guy.
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June 11th, 2010, 03:00 PM
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I had the same thing happen with my m/c-spotting right after sex, then at the u/s 2 days later we had no HB, but baby was right where he was supposed to be based on dating.. then add in the fact that the only time we dtd in the 1st tri with Collin I had spotting..... I wouldnt dtd while preg with bailey until like 16-18 weeks, when I started contracting


I totally understand the fear..
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June 11th, 2010, 03:02 PM
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From now on I'm going to be terrified
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June 13th, 2010, 08:07 PM
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I was the same. I had bleeding and a low lying placenta and was told not to. She eventually moved around but I was still too terrified to try.
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June 14th, 2010, 08:30 AM
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I was the same way too and with Kaylee we were told pelvic rest until after first trimester. Hopefully your husband is more understanding than mine!
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June 14th, 2010, 08:27 PM
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after 6 cycles of trying the last thing on earth I was interested in was dtd once we got pregnant! I didn't feel bad about it though.
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