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but it annoys me to no end that my MIL has not bought one single thing for Hayden. Nothing. She bought TONS of stuff for Kayla. She said she was waiting until after the shower and she'd probably just give us cash. Which is fine, but where's Hayden's crystal bracelet? Where's her personalized sippy cup and expensive Strasburg dresses and blanket? Kayla got all of that stuff so why doesn't Hayden?
I feel terrible for thinking those things but I can't imagine why one grandchild would be more important and special than another.
I really shouldn't be surprised since she bailed on her second son as soon as she divorced his dad. I should have expected this but I figured as excited as she was about Kayla, she would be a least a little bit excited about Hayden...but no, she could practically care less.
I'm sorry Amanda. I'm sure that hurts your feelings, I know it would mine. It's not about the material things, it's about doing the same for 1 that you do/did for the other. My grandma (dad's mom) treats my brother and I totally different so I can understand where you are coming from. I hope she steps up.
That sucks and kind of surprising given how generous she was with Kayla. I can kind of relate because my MIL makes no effort to visit us (we usually have to beg her to come) and she's certainly not one for giving Aidan gifts - and I'm with you, it's the the material aspect of it, it's more just all the good stuff that is behind gift giving. But in my case, she's been like this from the get go and Aidan is her only grandchild (even more reason it puzzles me). But anyway, I can certainly relate to the disappointment. The hardest part in your situation will be trying to protect Hayden from what appears to be favouritism towards Kayla because if she continues with it, that could just be really ****** for Hayden. I'm sorry, I hope she smartens up!
Did she buy Kayla all of that stuff before she was born?
Maybe she's holding back until Hayden is here to see what things she really needs or perhaps hasn't found the right items yet?
or maybe money's tight right now?
I get it and it sucks! She might just figure everything she gave kayla (clothing and toys, not personalized stuff) would get passed down? I'm not defending the lack of gifting and interest, just thinking it could be her rational. Either way it stinks! Sorry babe!