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July 26th, 2010, 08:29 AM
jillylicious's Avatar mom always liked you best
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So, the rational part of my brain KNOWS I have to gain weight for a healthy babe.

But OMG, I HATE stepping on the scale and seeing the numbers go up. I knew I would. But I didn't realize how much I was going to hate this.

We were on holidays over the weekend and as it always seems to go over holidays, with a few too many rich meals and snack foods, I am up 2lbs from when I left. I'm likely retaining water due to salty stuff so I'm hoping some flushes out here over the next couple days as I get back onto my regular eating habits. But if it doesn't, it means that by 11 weeks, I'll have gained five pounds.

There is absolutely NO reason for me to gain five pounds in 11 weeks. I'm not even out of my first trimester. I am so frustrated.

I work out 3x a week on the treadmill and do free weights. On weekends we ride our bikes and do lots of walking.

I'm just so afraid that after working so hard to lose 75lbs after Jack was born that I'm going to be fat again and it's not going to go away. I hated being fat so much. Losing that weight made my life different. I am really trying not to clown it this time and have an unhealthy heart and gain too much weight.

Last time they wanted me to gain about 15-20lbs because I was big to begin with - I stopped counting at 30lbs. I hate feeling so flabby and unattractive and jiggly.

I just have to keep trying to eat right and exercising... at least this won't be forever, and once baby is born and I'm okay to exercise hard again, hopefully my body will want to go back to where it was.

Okay, whine over. Sorry guys - I'm being a real baby today.
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July 26th, 2010, 08:34 AM
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O Jilly please don't worry about it! I know easier said then done but remember if you only gain 5lbs every 11 weeks. You will only gain around 18-21lbs total. Which will all fall of once you have your baby! Just keep doing what your doing. And remember you will have to gain atleast the 20lbs to be doing what is right for your munchkin. And that weight will literally FALL off once he/she is here!!!
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July 26th, 2010, 08:40 AM
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Oh sweetheart, hugs to you! I know how much you fought to lose the weight, but this is GOOD weight. You know how to eat right and how to take care of yourself; do it and you'll be just fine. I went way gangbusters during my pregnancy with Eric and gained 50 pounds - FIFTY! And I managed to lose it all, without even half of your willpower and dedication.

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July 26th, 2010, 08:42 AM
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OMG you guys are going to make me cry. I'm a total emotional pregnant lady today. Thank you.
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July 26th, 2010, 09:03 AM
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I'm with Kel! You know how to eat right and you're doing great exercise! Just keep doing what you're doing!
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July 26th, 2010, 09:36 AM
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Awww! I remember feeling worse the second time around and up until just recently (6 months after giving birth). Your body WILL want to go back. I gained almost 10 or more lbs in my first trimester with Adi. But I also ate a lot of cake and ice cream.

Kel said it right - it's GOOD weight you are gaining

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July 26th, 2010, 09:56 AM
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Hugs! Please don't be hard on yourself. I think a lot of women struggle with weight gain during pg for different reasons. You're not alone! I can definitely see how it would be extra hard to watch the scale go the other way with all of the hard work you've put in to lose weight. I must admit that with all three of my pg, I've been a bit afraid once I started gaining weight...and it were a friend instead of me, I wouldn't understand why I felt this way. Even if you have gained five pounds, remember that there is extra blood and fluids and that doesn't mean you've gained five pounds of fat. It sounds like you are taking really good care of yourself. Keep up the good work!
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July 26th, 2010, 10:11 AM
KellersMom517's Avatar Emily-Mom to Keller Henry
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Be gentle on yourself sweetie! It sounds like you are eating the right things, and exercising! That means that any weight that you gain is weight that your body NEEDS to make the baby healthy and also weight that will come off easily once you deliver. It's the excess crazy weight that sticks around, not the essential stuff! Just think of it this way - when you deliver this baby you won't even be at the weight you were when you CONCEIVED Jack...that should make you feel pretty darn good!!

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July 26th, 2010, 04:50 PM
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Jill, if you are eating healthy the majority of the time and staying active, then don't worry about it! Just tell yourself that your body must want you to gain that weight since you're doing everything you can to take care of yourself. *HUGS*!

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July 26th, 2010, 05:45 PM
dream2bemommy22's Avatar and baby makes 5
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Well, i gained 20lbs with both of my kids, and honestly i didnt have that hard of a time getting it off. After Charlie i had a bit harder of a time, but that was becuase i was starving the first 4 months while BFing and i had to lose all the weight i gained from that. I lost 10 right after he was born, then gained it right back, so ive pretty much had to lose 20lbs since he was born. Ive got about 7 to go.

I wouldnt stress over it though hun. Gaining weight is normal, some gain tons in the first trimester, some gain none. Its just how your body handles being pregnant. And honeslty in the grand scheme of things, 5lbs in 11 weeks isnt bad at all. You might go a few weeks where you dont gain any, and some where you gain 2. Try not to let the weeks where you gain more, deter you or make you feel bad about yourself.

You will lose the weight after your munchkin is born. You are very good about diet and exercise and i have faith that you will have this all under control.

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