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I had to witness some disgusting parents tonight. We went to the birthday part of one of DH's commrades tonight. His little girl was turning 1. There was a 6 month old there, Charlie, and a little boy who was 2 1/2. The little boy showed up with people that werent his parents..just some one who was watching him. the first thing i noticed was that he couldnt talk hardly at all. Charlie out spoke him hands down...he just kind of mumbled. He was running around like a 2 year old should, getting in to trouble here and there. His parent showed up later...both whom are in the Army. As soon as i walked in from out side i heard his mother screaming at the top of her lungs at him. I ignored it and went and sat on the floor with the kids. Charlie had a toy that he wanted so he came up and took it from her..Charlie could have cared less, but his mother saw this from accross the room and screamed bloody murder, then his dad comes up and grabs him by the hair and smacks him accross the face.. I just stared at DH. It was horrifying. This little boy obviously is neglected and abused. He is acting like a toddler should, and when i did see him retaliate im positive its due to him being mistreated. Im still shooken up about it. Im so sad. I wanted to swoop this boy up and take him home. Just a different class of people that im around, and not use to at all.
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No kidding! I hope to god that he doesn't get treated worse behind closed doors. What did everyone else think of it!? Did they all just shrug it off, was there an awkward silence like "whoa was that necessary?" ... ugh just the thought of a child being raised by abusive/neglecting parents makes me sick to my stomache.
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There was a silence, however the class of people that were there probably might be use to it. I know that sounds horrible. Most of the people there didnt have kids, but the couple that did were very "white trashey". I hate saying stuff like that, but this was my observation. The other super young couple with the 6 month old thought it fine to but there baby to sleep in the other room by giving her a toy and bottle of juice and letting her cry. The baby whose first birthday it was mom wasnt around because she was a drug addict. So the babies 19 year old dad is raising her along on the Army base. Ive never really been around this , or people like this. I defiantly think that a lot of these kids that join the service do so to get out of these hole in the wall towns. A lot of them arent educated...and parents arent educated, and "whipping" kids is normal. It a different breed then im use to, and it sickens me.
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oh wow so sad poor little boy, can you call the social worker at the base
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To be honest, I would call CPS. Although, being a child care worker I am a mandated reporter, at work or not, but anyone can make an anonymous call. They may not do anything about it now, but if they get enough calls to CPS they may go investigate.
That's really just awful. I'm horrified about the baby drinking juice at 6 mos old in another room and crying as well. Ugh.
oh wow that's awful, I agree with Heather I'd be tempted to call as well.
I live in an area where I see this sort of parenting in stores and at the playground all the time, it really gets to me, I hate seeing it and I hate all the ignorance. It's definitely not pleasant at all to be around.
OMG! I agree with Heather I would call CPS. If they are comfortable doing that to him infront of so many people imagine how the poor boy is treated at home. That is shoking!
OMG! I can't believe that Bre. I'm sorry that you had to see that & that the little boy is being treated that way. That is probably why he doesn't talk much. He is probably ignored. Poor little girl.
Poor little boy! I can imagine how he is treated when alone at home, if thats the way they treat him in public! How sickening. I would callCPS also..maybe they would step in.
OMG --- I don't know how I would have handled that --- Of course the first thing you want to do is haul off and smack the crap out of him (dad) and her (mom) because for sure they are idiots...
I probably would have been in too much shock to say anything --- definitely report this for sure --- My heart aches for him (boy)... I hope he finds love somewhere.
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OMG Bre that is Horrible I would call CPS. I mean its one thing to yell. Im defiantly a yeller i mean youve seen me yell at Logan. But Not when he was two and I would never ever ever grab him by the hair and smack him across the face thats horrifying. I think I would have yelled at that dad. He needs the crap beat outta him! Its no excuse to be "young parents" I was 20 when I had Logan and I knew better then that.
I agree, I would call CPS immediately. Like you said, if they are ballsy enough to treat the child that way in public, what the heck goes on at home?? If they live on base, I think you can call the MPs and they will come investigate. If anything, they will let his chain of command know about the investigation and it might encourage other people to come forward about what they've seen.
I won't comment on some of those people, but I will say that I ended up making friends with people in the military that I wouldn't usually get along with. All-in-all we weren't that much different, but just different interests and personalities that wouldnt' usually draw the 2 of us to eachother as friends.
*Edited - I wanted to point out too, just because I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt...I've noticed lately how big of a difference there is between boys and girls verbally. We have some friends with 3 boys, the oldest is going ot be 5 next month, the middle boy is 3 (he'll be 4 in December) and the youngest is a month older than Anna. I can honestly say I have a hard time understanding the almost 5 year old still, he talks in sentences but mumbles a lot and doesn't speak clearly. The same goes with even the 3 year old, his words are still very unclear. They are EXCELLENT parents, very attentive and loving parents - so how they are raising them hasn't had an effect on their vocabularly, they are just more physical than verbal overall. Even another friend of mine pointed out that her son, who turned 2 in the spring, just started putting words together - where Anna has been doing it for months.
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Oh my gosh! I can't believe that. It's worth a cal to CPS. My parents do foster care so I've been around the system a lot and that's what it's there for. They will probably go talk to them and just check thee place out. If there's nothing going on that's great, but I'd feel better being safe than sorry.
I have to say, since being in the military, I have met some of the worst parents. I have witnessed some abuse and had to call cps on three different occasions. I wont hesitate to call. Anyone who knows me well enough, knows that I have a HUGE, HUGE heart for children and I don't tolerate abuse or neglect of ANY kind. I am the woman who has stood up against a guy twice my size in defense of his daughter. He was SOOO mad, but suddenly, there were three men who walked behind me to be sure he wouldn't hit me... he was about to, but I didn't budge.
Call Fleet and Family Services and tell them you would like to report a case of child abuse you witnessed. They will ask you several questions and may come interview you. NCIS is actually the one who will take up the case.. You need to call though. You may be this boy's only voice...
. I just stared at DH. It was horrifying. This little boy obviously is neglected and abused. He is acting like a toddler should, and when i did see him retaliate im positive its due to him being mistreated. Im still shooken up about it. Im so sad. I wanted to swoop this boy up and take him home. Just a different class of people that im around, and not use to at all.
And sad. Were you the only one in the room that saw this?
I hope to god that he doesn't get treated worse behind closed doors. What did everyone else think of it!? Did they all just shrug it off, was there an awkward silence like "whoa was that necessary?" ... ugh just the thought of a child being raised by abusive/neglecting parents makes me sick to my stomache.
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