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I KNEW this was coming. I was just really, REALLY hoping to make it to 20 wks. I feel like SUCH a whale. That makes me up, like, 3lbs in a MONTH.
UGH. I HATE gaining weight. I can't wait for February to arrive so that I can go on a serious diet and lose this extra weight! I really don't want to end up with 35lbs to lose like I did with Jack. I am trying SO hard to eat right and be good. I am definitely NOT a happy girl today.
Oh Jilly i really think you need to stop worrying so much. 10lbs is really not that bad. I wouldnt blame yourself for it, i just think some people gain more weights in pregnancy, i think it has more to do with genetics and your starting weight before.
People who start off heavier, dont necessarily have to gain a ton of weight during their pregnancy, but people who start off tiny ( like you did) do need to gain some weight to have a healthy pregnancy for mom and baby.
I gained 22lbs with Mac and 20lbs with Charlie and honestly it fell right off with Mac ( and i screwed up the weightloss with Charlie, so we wont go there) But just becuase you gain the weight doesnt mean it will be impossible to lose. I promise. You have to remind yourself that you started off at a much healthier weight with this baby then you did with Jack, so losing it after is not going to be the chore it was the first time around.
I would honestly reccomend NOT stepping on the scale anymore in between doctors visits. It isnt doing you any good worrying about your weight. 3lbs in a month is NORMAL. Really it is. Also keep in mind your weight gain depends on baby. You might have just had a big growth spurt one week and gain 2lbs, and then the next you might not gain any.
I would sit back and ENJOY this pregnancy, enjoy little cravings here and there and stop worrying so much about every lbs you gain. I know its hard right now too, since your still in the "in between" stage of pregnancy where you dont feel or look pregnant yet. But your only a few weeks off from really showing, and then hopefully you will feel better about it all!!
*hugs* being on either end of the weight gain scale sucks.
Eat healthy, and well, and if you gain a little more than you'd like.. so be it for a while. You could gain 100 lbs and still be adorable, so you're gonna be ok regardless. Besides.. chasing two kids? It'll TOTALLY fall off.
I don't know if you're a stress-eater or not.. but I'd recommend tossing that scale of yours for the moment. Stress makes me eat and stressing over the weight may become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dropping by to give you Jilly. I totally understand how you feel. Many many years ago I lost a ton of weight (130 pounds all up 1/2 my body weight at the time). Being pregnant and seeing that scale creep back up was the scariest thing, and it does play havoc on your self esteem.
I agree with Shannon. Stop stepping on the scale if it makes you feel bad. While I was pregnant with Jas my dr gave me some wonderful advice. If you eat right and exercise while pregnant, then whatever weight you gain is weight you NEED to gain.
Oh, Jill. What am I going to do with you? You are way, way WAY too hard on yourself and if it was anyone else writing this post you'd tell them the exact same thing.
From what I've read, the *ideal* pattern for weight gain is to put on 3-4 lbs in the first trimester and a lb a week in the 2nd tri. That's what it said in What to Expect While Expecting. You're eating healthy, and you're GOING TO THE GYM (I can barely force myself to go for a walk right now). You still look AWESOME and you're doing everything you can to give your baby a healthy start. So stop worrying so much!
I know it's hard seeing that scale go up. I gained a whopping 45-50 lbs with Logan because I ate everything in sight once my morning sickness was gone. So when I got down to 128 it was really hard to see that scale start going back up. ESPECIALLY since I have a wedding coming up!!
But really, it'll be okay. There's a bunch of us due around the same time and we'll all get back into the swing of things as soon as these little ones arrive. Just keep doing what you're doing and it'll all be just fine, I promise.
Jill its important to think about this from a healthy place. When I was pregnant I carried a ton of water weight. I lost most of that before I left the hospital. If you continue to obsess like this then its really not helping you or the baby. I just worry that you will over exercise or not eat enough when it fact all it could be is water weight. I think just being healthy and enjoying the pregnancy is really what is important here. In the end you will be able to lose the weight because you know how to do it. If you were eating twinkies and crap all day then I would be concerned... I highly doubt you are.
Thanks, you guys. The rational part of my brain keeps checking everything like "When To Expect" and BabyCenter and stuff, and going "Nah, nah, it's cool, it's all good."
I eat when I'm hungry. (Except for last night when I dove into a bar of jalapeno Jack cheese. MM!) I'm trying my best to get to the gym. I'm halfway - all I can do is keep doing my best and eating right and hope that it comes off easily when I'm done.
Thanks for letting me vent - you guys always make me feel better!