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How was the transition going from 1 to 2? Brendan will be 2yr9mo when this LO is here, and I am hoping he will understand what is going on when the bean arrives. Is 1-2 easier then 0-1 since there is already a little routine and such? Any tips/advice will be LOVED
Keira was 2 years 11 months when Owen arrived, and honestly the transition for us wasn't that bad at all.
She knew what was going on, she knew that she was going to have a new little brother and she was more independent at that age so that made things much easier too.
We just prepared her as much as we could and things couldn't have gone any better. I also tried to keep her routine the same as much as possible.
So I don't have any real advice for you since it was pretty easy for us.
Considering we are not TTC for another 3-4months or so here, well, Sam will be 3yrs old when baby #2 arrives. I think thats a good age difference because they are old enough that they understand whats going on, and they are not too young that they start acting all crazy and wanting more attention (compared to an 18m old lets say), ya know what I mean? I always said I wanted kids 2.5-3yrs apart because I like that timing. My brother and I are exactly 2.5yrs apart (almost to the day) and I love that!
Well Addison will be 2 on Sunday and I figured it would either go the way of indifference or she would strike out. So far, she could care less about anything and wants nothing to do with her brother. She won't even touch him! I hope when we get home, it will be easier on her since she'll be more in her element. I would rather her ignore him than hit him though!
My girls are 18 months apart and as far as them getting along goes, it's been wonderful! Teagan seemed to completely understand that the baby was in my tummy then she came out. She loves her baby sister soooooo much!! She has never been jealous AT ALL. She tells her that she loves her, hugs, kisses, shares....
To be honest, I do get overwhelmed sometimes bcs Teagan is still so needy, but it gets better by the day. I'm sure that my lack of sleep makes my fuse much shorter. Best of luck!
Hmmmmm. How to answer this.....
For us, Troy was 2 years 11 months when Will was born. Troy wasn't a problem at all. He got it and was more helpful than anything but Will was a very very challenging baby and I got gallstones on top of it when he was just a couple weeks. For me, the first few months were hard because I was emotional, sick, having to hold him all the time and trying to deal with his issues. Troy was ignored, but he was okay with it because he got to watch A LOT of tv. I sucked. However, after the first few months, we finally got into a routine.
I don't want to scare you and debated posting but I wanted to be honest. If I were you, I would ask for help the first few weeks--mainly with letting you get time with Brendan or someone being able to entertain and play while you are dealing with the new addition.
Going from 1 to 2 was by far the hardest transition for us. Our girls are 19 months apart, but the age difference didn't really have much to do with it. Rebekah was a HARD baby. She screamed all the time. I was actually really glad that we had them so close together b/c it took away a lot of the jealousy issues. Sarah never remembers being the only one. In her eyes, she has always had her sister and they get along very well. Your routine will not stay the same. Sometimes you have to juggle naps around a little so both of them are asleep at the same time so you can rest... and sometimes that isn't very easy to do! A lot just depends on the personality of your toddler and newborn on whether it will be easy or more difficult. Micah was a hugely easy baby so the transition from 2-3 was a breeze. But then my older two could occupy each other and didn't need as much attention from mommy. Whereas when you are going from 1-2, the older child doesn't have anyone else to play with, so they do demand a little more of your attention.
Johnny is about three months old now, and the transition going from 1 to 2 has gotten a lot better. Lorelai has always been super sweet to him...always giving kisses and petting his head, but she gets really jealous if one of her grandparents or John pays more attention to him than her.
I'm sooo glad that we transitioned her out of the crib way before the baby came so we didn't have to worry about that. I think he'll be at a good age to where he'll understand what's going on and he'll be helpful.
Lore is a very smart sensitive 2 year old. He knew what babies were early on and from the time I looked pregnant we taught him that baby Hope was in mommy's tummy. He gave kisses and tried to feed goldfish said sorry for kicking her if he did.
He was wicked excited at the hospital. he instantly understood this was the baby that was in my tummy. Coming home together was stressful for 2-3 days because you couldnt take your eyes off one of them of Lore would be all over her in the bassinet, carseat, swing crib, etc.
the worry went away as we taught him to be gentle, where to touch her, when to leave her alone and when he could help us. He helps with diapers, wants to hold her, kissing her, says "night night baby" when she is in her bassinet, helps carry the infant carrier.
I think its a matter of knowing how your toddler will learn best. Rather than telling Lawrence no, I have to tell him what he can do, or that we have to do X before you can do Y.
this all said Lore is in daycare for 1 more week before I am a SAHM of 2. I have done solo meals and bedtimes and you just got to go with the flow
Thanks girls. I babysit Brendan's cousin who is the same age as him 5 days a week, I was considering quitting that right before I am due but now I am reconsidering that. Maybe having Kaitlin will actually be a good thing for Brendan so his days are somewhat the same, and he has her to play with while I am doing baby things. I think he'll need the extra attention too, but I am a little nervous about being able to do with breastfeeding and all. I think babywearing is a must for #2 lol
Well I think I have an extreme case so I don't think it will be this hard for most people. Blake is a very intelligent, vibrant, active, independent and demanding toddler. He doesn't want to sit and wait around for me to nurse the baby, kwim?
Hudson, while such a sweet smiley baby, has major reflux and tummy issues. He has spent the past 10 weeks crying and not sleeping at all. Now that we've got his meds figured out I think he will be the best baby. Anyways, it's been hard. The hardest thing I have EVER done in my entire life. I do think it will be easier, I pray anyway. They are 20 months apart.
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I will say since I'm not holding bishop at the moment that my transition from 1 to 2 was easier then 2 to 3. Maybe because of the age spacing and how independent Gage is. It helped that he'd go do his own thing and I could tend to Dane.
Now Dane and Bishop are 21 months apart and its been a struggle. 2 kids who still need full needs met by me. I have a harder time that way and even with Gage's help.
Gage was very much prepped for Dane's arrival. He looked forward to the baby and everything did great after he was born. Dane loves Bishop but he's just almost 2, so he still needs me.
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Young Bird 1/4/06 - Little Bird 11/28/08 - Baby Bird 9/1/10
We are trying to add #4 to our family! Please don't mention this on facebook or our blog though
Keira was 2 years 11 months when Owen arrived, and honestly the transition for us wasn't that bad at all.
She knew what was going on, she knew that she was going to have a new little brother and she was more independent at that age so that made things much easier too.
We just prepared her as much as we could and things couldn't have gone any better. I also tried to keep her routine the same as much as possible.
So I don't have any real advice for you since it was pretty easy for us.
Ditto all of this. The only thing we did different was that we gave Ben a doll (as real as possible) so he could get used to the idea of being extra gentle with something. Now Daniel has claimed that doll for his own. It's so cute. They both love her.
you may not want to read my post but you asked and i will be honest.
1 kid is a piece of cake. i still have a hard time with the adjustment from 1-2. everything is much harder. it isnt double the work, its triple or quadruple. but then again, mine are 14 months apart. emerson is a demanding, very energetic kid. she has been jealous since the MOMENT she saw suriah. seriously...check my fb to see the video of her seeing suriah for the 1st time. its not sweet...its awful. she used to attack me whenever i nursed suriah.....literally. she would hit or kick or pull suriah by the hair to try to pull her off my lap. its gotten a LOT better but she still gets jealous sometimes...where she decides she "needs" something right as i am busy changing suriahs diaper or bfing her.
getting in and out of the car is also a huge process. napping and bedtimes are a process as well because suriah doesnt take as long a nap as emerson so if put them down in the same room together, then when suriah wakes up, emerson will wake up and not get a good nap in and be exhausted. so i have been napping suriah on the couch in the living room for a while, which is not a safe or good option.
i am easily frustrated...someone ALWAYS wants my attention. i dont have enough patience and i am overwhelmed by the daily routine of dealing with the,...feeding 3+times a day, bathing them, napping them, changing them into clothes then into their pjs at night, doing laundry, etc. its never ending and it just repeats again the next day. and the next day......and on and on and on.
granted....my experience is also probably tainted by the fact that i am a single mom. i might feel different if i had someone to help me with routine or do baths for me or whatever. but for me, its been hard. iwish i had known how hard it was going to be so that i could have enjoyed having only emerson a little more...
Going from 1 to 2 was easy for us, but they were nearly 3 years apart. The next one will only be 31 months younger than Corbin, so they will be a little bit closer, and that does worry me a bit. However, Corbin is a very easy kid and not very demanding. That said baby #3 could be very difficult!
I am happy to hear the good, bad, and ugly. It will paint me a realistic picture of having two. All I know about right now is the whole babysitting thing right now. But that's completely different, because deep down Brendan KNOWS that is not my baby, you know? But they do seem to have sibling rivalry a lot. I have to say, when Kaitlin goes home ( i have her 12 hours a day....yeahhhh) things INSTANTLY become easier for me, even though she isnt even that difficult of a toddler. Ahhhh I just hope I have the age difference working for me and not against me!
thanks kit kat for the fab siggy
MEG, mama to Blake (11/18/08) and Hudson (08/11/10)
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