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I really want to say I'm *done* having kids. I've always wanted 2, a boy and a girl, and now I have a beautiful princess and an amazing little prince.
DH and I had discussed taking permanent measures if I had to have a C-section. I discovered too late that I couldn't have it done there (I went to a Catholic hospital, duh Leslie!) so that was out.
I do not want to go through another pregnancy. My pregnancy with Brianna was tough.. Wyatt's was harder and resulted in me having a c-section, and a preemie.
DH is not at all certain that he's done. Which I don't blame him for.. He's a little bit younger than I am, and Wyatt is his only biological child. He loves Brianna with all his heart, but he's not at all certain that he's done, that he may want another child.
I've asked him about adoption. I wouldn't be opposed to more children, it is the pregnancy bit that I absolutely, positively, DO NOT WANT. I do not want to go through another pregnancy ever again, even if offered trillions of dollars. I felt this way throughout the pregnancy, even before we started trying, that this would be my last pregnancy.
I feel like a horrible wife for saying, 'Hon.. I'm just done with it.' but I've been saying it throughout and then all of a sudden he's not done?!? I'm not angry with him, precisely, but if he wasn't sure 1 step, 1 bio was enough, he should have said something *BEFORE* 2 weeks before I gave birth to this one. Augh!!
I don't want another pregnancy. I absolutely do not want another newborn. This isn't a backlash from Wyatt being difficult, in fact, he's earned the name 'Quiet Wyatt'. He's an amazing baby. I just don't want to go through all of this again, the fear, the paranoia.. the complications with pregnancy.
I just don't know if I'm willing to go through it again, for DH's sake.. and not resent the crap out of it.
*sigh* the meanderings of a hormonal post partum woman.
Hon, we're in the same boat. I've been saying for years - pretty much since things went awry with Danny - that I don't think I could do it again, and that I feel done at 2. DH is waffling, still. I'm sitting here like, seriously? 2 is a perfect fit!
Aww, hugs! I have a friend who feels just like you in that she can't go through another pregnancy. She also said she'd adopt, but just can't put her body though that again. It can sure be super tough on us, and I don't blame you one bit for feeling the way you do even if your DH doesn't feel done. Hopefully you guys will come to an agreement down the road on what is best for everyone.
Hang in there. Maybe give Barrett some time to wrap his head around it all - give it 6 months and tackle the issue again. You've been honest with him right from the get go. He might still be on a The Baby High (cause, seriously - what parent HASN'T been up at 4am with a sobbing baby - or better yet, a puking toddler - and felt absolutely, 1000% confident that they will never ever have another child?)
It took me almost two years to wrap my head around considering a 2nd child after having Jack. You are totally not alone. Hang in there, don't stress about it, and just enjoy what is right now. You guys will make the right decision when the time comes.
I understand your feelings. I'm not sure if I could go through another surgery, but I enjoy (for the most part) being pregnant. Thankfully though, the ACOG issued new VBAC guidelines in July. Could you look at surrogacy?