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Brianna had been doing well.. and then regressed when Wyatt was born. Now, its hit or miss. Some days are great days, and she keeps her pull up dry, and some days she just doesn't seem like she wants to bother. She TELLS us normally when she has to go potty. To pee, anyway... She has pooped in the potty several times but not with any consistency.
I thought it was her being distracted, but sunday we went to the pool and she told us every single time she had to go, AND pooped in the potty. And she was SO excited and distracted that day.
she lies about pooping in her pull up, too. We'll ask and she'll tell us no. We've explained over and over again to her the concept of lying (for learning by repetition, not while we're angry).. She still does it, down to telling the babysitter that Dallas gave her medicine in the morning (he hadn't) and that she pooped on the floor in her room (she never has!). We reinforce the lying with timeouts. but she still lies.
her pull ups have princesses on them, and she delights in telling even perfect strangers that she doesn't pee on the princesses (THAT'S gotten me some looks).
I get her being distracted, and excited about random things and forgetting to pee. How do I move past that?
AND.. she gets up, goes into the corner, and poops. she's moving away from where she normally sits to go poop. Why can't she go to the potty?
She will do when she is ready. D did the same thing and then one day it just clicked. But there are still days that he has accidents (he does it knowing he has underwear on but just doesn't take the time) But I found once I stopped getting upset/bothered by him doing it he started going 98% of the time in the potty.
The lying thing is her age and I wouldn't stress to much about it. Almost all kids this age do it. I think the more they get reactions from it the more kids like to do it. Plus they're 3-they are trying to distinguish between pretend/make believe and reality.
What if you get her undies with princesses on them? Would she maybe not want to pee in them either?
The lying thing, I agree with Sarah it's normal. I honestly think it's more of the "making stuff up" vs. lying. Veronika would tell my mom she falls off her twin bed where in fact she NEVER fell since we got them the twins in March, and then of course my mom goes on a rant about us needing those rail things they sell, where we clearly don't.
Veronika has been day & night trained for close to a year now. She regressed once about 3 months ago and we did a reward-chart for 2 weeks and she was back to normal.
Keller has regressed a little just recently. He doesn't want to take the time to go on the potty - I think he is trying to get some attention and be a little babyish. Yesterday he was doing his little potty shuffle that told me he had to go, but when I suggested it he said he didn't. Not 1 minute later he YELLS "I have to peeeeee" as he starts peeing all over the chair and floor. He knows how, he's just being stubborn. I am leaving him naked while we're home - and he doesn't have accidents when we're out (convenient huh?). So we're just kinda starting where he learned from the beginning.
I think "lying" is pretty common at this age. And I think it is sometimes either wishful thinking (like when mine say they went to Seaworld) or just b/c it is that stage of development. Do the time outs work for lying?
As for potty training- WE HAVE HAD A BREAKTHROUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The girls are pretty much potty trained!!!! Now, Maya doesn't want to take the time to sit on the potty and will hold it a LONG time. But if I back off and let her be, she will go on her own. They won't poop on the potty yet though. I really thought they'd be at least 4 before they would train!