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we are ttc #2 but it's crazy stressful. did anyone else feel that way when ttc? it's only been 2 months but i feel so depressed when AF comes. the first month we def did it at the wrong time. we did it once the second try during EWCM but obviously it didn't work. this month the babyhopes.com calendar said... Monday 12th December 2011 - First day of your cycle Monday 19th December 2011 - Best chance of conceiving a girl Tuesday 20th December 2011 - A little bit fertile, best chance of conceiving a girl Wednesday 21st December 2011 - Fertile, best chance of conceiving a boy Thursday 22nd December 2011 - VERY fertile, best chance of conceiving a boy Friday 23rd December 2011 - Time to ovulate Monday 2nd January 2012 - A home pregnancy test may work now.
we did it tuesday & wednesday but not yesterday (due to my husband working & my son be awake and about). my EWCM is totally gone today so i'm not sure if it matters today, we still might for good measure...lol i just know it didn't happen and then the TWW kills me.just wanted to vent.
TTC is very stressful as I just went through it. It took us 10 months. I kept trying to tell myself that I had to relax and not "try" but it is so hard, you constantly are thinking about it and then contemplating whether you do or do not have symptoms in the two weeks waiting. After 6 months I got checked out and all was fine with me and then DH got checked out and found out he had a varicocele. After finding out he had a varicocele and then telling myself that nothing was going to happen until he had the surgery and then probably not for 3 months at least after the surgery I literally gave up because I didn't think it would happen without the surgery and finally the month I gave up which was 2 wks before his scheduled surgery was the month we finally conceived. So as everyone has probably already told you before, you have to "give up trying" and just relax.
I dont tend to trust the "callendars" as every womans cycle is different, and varies month to month. But I can imagine TTC is stressful, as Kaden was a suprise baby for us. Good luck with everything, and I am sending baby dust your way!!!
I have never gotten pregnant TTC even tracking things with an RE, Clomid and ultra sound of my ovaries. Scarlett just happened in the course of daily life. But after Scarlett I had three early losses right in a row, when I got pregnant Beau I was a mess. Then came Tessa... whom I am still not entirely sure how that happened as we were using condoms, DH was sleeping in another room and I was EBF. I am inclined to think perhaps we shared soap after 10 days no running water duening the series of blizzard in Feb 2011. So I am inclined to second the relax it will happen group...DH wants his money back from the infertity specialists.
I love my OBs professional advice on this topic: Get the hell off the Internet and stop charting. If you have a known condition, are over 40 or have been trying with zero success for over a year then it's time to see a specialist, but aside from that, there's nothing more that crap will do for you then stress you out and decrease your fertility. You're young, so chances are you're going to be just fine if you just let it happen. Try to remember that the online charts can be helpful, but they're far from the end all be all of your ovulation cycle and create more stress then I think we realize, which can affect your chances of pregnancy. I'm 35 and didn't have my first child until I was 32, and two kids later I'm now ttc a third. I understand how sad you can feel when you get a bfn, and I remember when we were ttc Paddy I was shocked at how obsessed I became with the it all. The month I decided to let go of trying to control something I actually had very little control over I got pregnant, and I have a ton of scar tissue covering my cervix from cervical cancer treatments so you'd think it would create an issue.