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Well Monday night I had some slight red bleeding. I had lifted some really heavy things out of the car so I thought it was just that. I laid down and then the next morning I had some more bleeding but it was getting darker so I thought maybe I just had a SCH. I took it easy yesterday and didn't lift anything including Landen. The bleeding continued but I kept telling myself I didn't have cramps so I should be fine as long as I take it easy. Well at 2am I woke up this morning with severe cramps, felt as strong as labor pains and I started passing lots of blood, more than I was comfortable with. I got scared when it was way more then I expected but I wanted to wait till the doctors office opened but the pain got too intense and then I worried about an ectopic since I hadn't had an ultrasound yet so I called the on call nurse who told me to come to the ER. They then sent us to the Ob department for an official US where they confirmed I had lost it and it probably stopped growing a few weeks ago. I decided to just go through with the D&C instead of trying the medications to make me cramp more since I was already in so much pain. I never expected a miscarriage to be like this. I expected some increased bleeding but this was excessive and the pain got so bad. The thing that sucks the most is that we waited to so long to tell everyone and on Christmas I was 10 wks so I thought I would be okay so we told my whole family and then just a few days later I have to go back now and tell them all that I miscarried. It took us 10 months to conceive this one, I am just hoping it doesn't take that long to conceive the next. I am just glad that DH went through with his surgery even though we were pregnant because now we don't have to wait longer for him to do that now. Miscarriage is one of those things were you really don't understand it until you have gone through with it. I have had a lot of friends that have gone through this and I always felt sorry for them but I never thought it would feel this bad.
Oh Lindsay, my heart is aching for you... I'm sorry about your loss. I hope you are able to find some time to heal emotionally from this because I can't imagine having to jump back into work after losing your little angel. And when it comes to family maybe you could share this with one or two people on each side and ask them to spread the word... I can't imagine that any female member of your family would refuse a request like that, whether they've suffered a similar loss or not. Hugs from DC.
That's so hard, Lindsay! I am sorry you have to go through this. It truely isn't something you understand until it happens to you, and I really wish I would never have understood it. It will happen for you, I just know it! I really do believe that miscarriages are Gods way of making sure we get the perfect baby for us and make us stronger. Hopefully it will happen fast for you this time! After my m/c I got pregnant in 2 cycles... so it can happen!
Oh gosh Lindsay, I am so sorry for you I am holding back the tears. I have never experienced a miscarriage myself, but I can only imagine the physical and emotional pain.
As far as telling your family - I am a BIG SUPPORTER in telling people as soon as you find out, because every pregnancy is worth celebrating! It is a baby! And his or her life was precious for the time it was alive on earth. Besides, I've never understood that theory unless you really think you would have been able to keep the pain of a miscarriage to yourself. I can't imagine going through that and not telling anyone, having to keep it to yourself. But I totally agree with Jill's suggestion - ask a couple from each side to spread the news so you don't have to.
Just take care of yourself. I didn't realize DH still went through with his surgery, so that's great. I'm sure you'll get pregnant faster this time. hang in there. HUGS.
__________________ "....in every victory, let it be said of me....my source of strength is Christ alone."
I am so sorry for your loss. I know nothing I can say will make you feel any better about losing your sweet angel.
It is completely unbelieveible looking back on it now but I had Ten years infertility before I concieved Quinn and Quinn was seven when I concieved Scarlett and I had three losses between Scarlett and Beau, who are 23 months apart.
I'm so sorry to hear that, sweetheart!! I know how you feel though I had just told everyone (and had a huge fight with my sister over the pregnancy) when we lost our baby November 2010. It did not take us long at all to conceive again....I think it was like 4 months later that I found out I was pregnant with Zoë (means life by the way)....granted it took us even longer to tell people I was pregnant again....we had her right around the time we lost our other baby so I will always consider her our Thanksgiving miracle even though she was born a few days after Thanksgiving!! I'm so sorry for you loss and I really hope that you don't have to wait long to get pregnant again and that the next pregnancy goes smoothly....(((HUGS)))
I'm just now seeing this... I'm so sorry.. I lost a baby at 11w2d... It is desperately hard to go through what feels like labor and know that there is no baby at the end of it.. Its been a little while since your post..how are things going for you now...?
~Em, Married to Matt since 7/3/04. Mommy to Layla 3/29/06, Eva 10/18/08 and Zeke 2/4/11
Things are going okay. I am getting antsy for my body to get back to normal again so we can start trying but I have no idea how long that is going to take. I took a HPT yesterday at 1 1/2 wks post D&C and it is still very positive so I guess will continue to have to wait more. Hopefully it doesn't take too long this time to conceive again.