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Stealing this from Ella's PR. Let's say you find out today that your LO was switched at birth (ok, homebirthing moms just imagine this, please ). Would you want to switch kids back, keep the one you have, share custody with the other parents of both children, something else? Does the age of the child when you discover the switch make a difference, say if you found out at 3 months versus 3 years versus 13 years?
The age of the child would DEFINITELY matter to me. If we found out when they were a newborn, I'd probably say we should switch them. If I found out now, when Josiah was almost 4, there is no way I could send him to live with somebody else. He is too attached to be pulled from his environment and placed somewhere else. I think in a situation like that, I would want shared custody.
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I don't know I would probably want to have something to do with the other child, but my gosh i love my kids sooo much it wouldn't matter to me if they weren't mine, I couldn't live without them...
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LOL Darci, I was thinking there are some days I would trade Jackson! Not really, but he's been trying lately. I'd have to figure something out, because I love this kid way too much to imagine having to figure out how to share him with yet another family! But I'd also want something to do with my biological kid as well.
I'd want shared custody, almost like an open adoption arrangement going both ways. I agree with Sarah, age definitely does matter. These kids are my kids now, I have raised them and been their Mama.. with a newborn, yeah we are attached, but still in the "getting to know you phase." Not that I would have no feelings about it, I would be deeply hurt, but I think I could switch them back if I knew I'd be able to see the child I had taken home from the hospital grow and develop as well. But at the point where both of my kids are now, no way, I'd want it so I am the adoptive mother to them, and given my biological child for an open adoption to the other couple.
I think. LOL. Who knows in a true situation though!
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It's hard for me to try to think about that. I can't imagine giving Abby up. She's our daughter and always would be even if we found out she isn't ours genetically. Being a parent is not about the DNA. But, it would bother me knowing that there is a child that is "mine" that I've never met too. Ack. NO answer. I can't figure it out. lol
I do not want to even THINK about this! Good thing our hospital has super tight security. A hospital in our state (on the iron range) did switch babies for one feeding lately, but the moms went home with the correct babies.
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I think up until the time of the first smile - 6 weeks old or so - I'd trade back. But at this point I couldn't trade either of mine. I'd almost prefer not to know my biological child... What if I don't like how the other parents are raising him/her??? I'm selfish & I'd want it my way. Ignorance is bliss, right? Idk
I've been thinking about this question since the first time I saw the TV show Switched at Birth. I still don't have an answer. I honestly don't know what I'd do.
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). Would you want to switch kids back, keep the one you have, share custody with the other parents of both children, something else? Does the age of the child when you discover the switch make a difference, say if you found out at 3 months versus 3 years versus 13 years?
I would probably want to have something to do with the other child, but my gosh i love my kids sooo much it wouldn't matter to me if they weren't mine, I couldn't live without them...
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