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This is more a rant but I need to get this off my chest. I really hate my neighbor(s). They moved in about a year or so ago. I've never really talked to them or anything except when they came by to say hello when they were going through settlement.
Anyhow, last night they decided to have a party. It's not their first party. They've had several. I'm all for having fun and whatnot. Heck, my in-laws have parties on a semi-frequent basis. However, my in-law's parties only ever go until 10 PM, at the very latest. Usually everyone's gone by 9ish. This isn't the case with my neighbors. They were partying all evening until 2:30 in the frickin' morning. I woke up at 2 am to loud music and laughter/talking. Seriously? Like W T F. So I called the local police department and lodged a noise complaint. This is the SECOND time I've had to do this. The first time was when my mom came to visit in September. You'd think they'd get the hint that having a party for that long is not welcomed. But noooooooooooooooooo. So yeah, went back to bed and finally around 2:40 it died, which means the police probably came and told them all to leave. Thank god. So I tried going back to sleep. Didn't happen. Finally I gave up trying at 4:30 and came downstairs to coupon my grocery list. Seriously, couponing at 4:30 in the morning is not my idea of fun. Oh, and on top of that I've developed a headache from the lack of sleep. Yeah, thanks alot!
Was it not an option to just call and ask your neighbor directly to dial-it down a notch (or two or three)?
We have a neighbor right behind our house with a pool & teenagers. Occasionally their parties can run late. But we have a great relationship with them, where if we call over and ask them to turn their music down, they immediately do and apologize profusely. It's never occurred to us to contact police.
Because we've developed such a good relationship with them, our neighbors usually tell us ahead of time when they're going to have a larger party, and tell us in advance to let them know if it gets too loud, knowing that we have small kids who go to bed early. Some of the time they invite us! And we do go to their parties sometimes... the kids love their pool.
Anyway, my point is just wondering if you might try to get to know your neighbors and then when you do, you could talk about the noise in a friendly way and try to work through it in a civil way where you both can get what you want.
I'm sorry they have been inconsiderate. That really stinks. I hope they get the picture and be more respectful of others. We had neighbors back in AZ that had parties a lot but thankfully they usually quieted down after 10 pm. It's the noise curfew.
I'm really sorry! I grew up near a bar and my mom was always calling them to turn it down. I did have to call the police on my current neighbor. They were playing NPR of all things so loud you could hear it down the block. I would have sent DH over there to talk to them, but he wasn't home and I didn't know when he'd be back home. Now DH is all weird with them because he thinks they are mad at us for calling the police. I'm sure the police didn't tell them it was us that called. Then we have the neighbors that set off fireworks all year long really late at night....oy.
Anyway, I hope you can work something out with them like Kallie suggested, but I know it's not always possible.
I used to have this problem with our old neighbours before we moved. I had gone over repeatedly asking them to turn down their music, they never cared and one time verbally slammed me (nice eh?). I totally feel your pain. I'm more understanding with noise on a Friday or Saturday night, but a week night? Nope. Turn that music down!
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I don't feel comfortable going over there to ask them to turn down their music, which is why I called the cops. They have alot of drinking going on (I can tell by their conversations - which are freaking loud) and you know how drunk people can get. I'd rather not put myself in that kind of situation. Plus, I shouldn't even have to ask at 2 in the morning for them to turn their music/laughter/noise down. I mean, how hard is it to be respectful of the people living around you. They don't even try. They open all of their windows (I guess because it gets hot when you're drunk and there's alot of people) and they sit on the front porch and lawn.
I'm just kind of sick of it, you know. It's not hard to be courteous to those around you.