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Are there any rules or expectations that you have for your kids at home that don't necessarily apply at other peoples' homes or out in public?
This stems from something happening with us. The neighbor kid is a year older than Dominic (turning 5 in August.) He uses the word 'stupid' a lot. I have taught Dominic that this is not an ok word to use and he will actually tell me when L uses it. L has used it in front of Dom when his mom & I have been around and I've made the comment that we don't use that word at our house. Since then L has used it plenty more times. If his mom's not around I reinforce that it's not allowed and he'll have to go home if he uses it again. If his mom is around than she says, "L, remember that word is only allowed at our house. You can't use it at other peoples' homes.". Now, I respect her right as a mom to decide what is or is not ok for her kid to say and I do respect her trying to show respect for my rules. But 4 or 5 seems still a bit young to distinguish and keep track of when it is or is not ok to say or do certain things. Isn't that a bit confusing? And the fact that he continues to use it around us, at least once every play date ( which is almost daily) shows that he's not getting it.
My expectation is that if there are rules we don't follow in our own home that are used in another family's home, my kids will respect their rules while we are in their home as guests, and vice versa with my friends children when they come to our house.
We don't use the word stupid either here, and thankfully neither do any of Lexy's little friends. However her one friend is really disrespectful to her mom - screams at her when she wants something and is relentless about it until her mom finally gives up, gets up and gets her whatever she's screaming for (she's 4). Lexy sees this happening, then she will try it with me at home, and it does NOT fly with me. Lately I've been trying to explain to he that just because that little girl yells at her mom, doesn't mean it's ok for Lexy to yell at me.......ever.
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