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Not sure how or when this started but Ellie thinks she can help herself to just about anything.
I don't let my girls eat, play, go or do whatever they want. We have rules and we have boundries.
If they want to have a snack, they need to ask. If they want to watch a movie, go outside, pull out toys from the closet, they need to ask.
I swear this kid thinks she doesn't have to ask anymore. Of course, I have told her differently.
Have you seen the same thing?
With Carrie I have noticed that she wants to be very independent lately. I think it started when we went to kindergarten orientation. Now that she is old enough for school she thinks she is big stuff. For her it's mostly been positive, but I feel like she says "I can do it myself" fifty times a day.
^^ Ditto to Claire. Leah wants to do everything herself, and tells us so, though it's mostly a positive thing - wanting to pick out her clothes and get dressed on her own, brushing her teeth with no help, buckling her seat belt. She has free reign over her toys, but still asks when it comes to snacks, going outside, etc. Sounds like Ellie may be exerting her independence in that way instead.
I do love seeing her become more independent. In many ways it is so helpful and on the positive side as well.
I guess I was so surprised because most of their toys are out for them to play with anytime they want. There are certain ones we have put away. Like Play Do, paints and markers and some games and puzzles. Mainly because they are messy or just have a ton of pieces. Those are the ones she just helps herself to.
I think she has responded well to our talks about boundaries. I first just told her that she needed to ask. Now I've come to realize explaining why she needs to ask has helped.
Not exactly the same, but Reid often thinks he has the same freedoms as his oldest brothers, which he doesn't. There's a big difference between 5 and 11 and while I like to see him want to be one of the guys, he can't do everything his 11yo brother can! So yes, boundaries. Explaining why is always important.
Mom to 4 boys and 1 girl
Ethan asks before he does just about anything. He asks if he can have a snack, drink, watch tv, play with certain toys or watch a movie. He insists on opening his own snacks, drinks and loading a movie in the DVD player. I also hear "I can do it all by myself" 1000 times a day. I love the independence.
See, I am the opposite. Maybe it's because I have a baby and have had a rough time with pregnancy & postpartum but I want the boys to help themselves. Our house is very child-friendly and I can't think of much that's off limits except adult DVDs (those rated PG+ which are on another shelf), which they haven't cared about and they all have a parent lock on the DVD player anyway.
Food, etc. is within their reach and we're fine with them getting toys out as long as they clean them up at the end of the day. We don't have anything too messy for crafts and they know they lose Play-doh if it goes out of the kitchen. It's kind of like the Montessori method where things are accessible to encourage independence. If I had to get everything for them I would go crazy not to mention with breastfeeding and mastitis, I just can't.