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Ethan has at least two bad dreams a week which results in him ending up in bed with us. I know that I went through a similar thing when I was his age and I remember sitting in the hall crying for my parents. My mom wouldn't let me sleep with them so my dad ended up sleeping with me in my bed. I don't want to make him feel like he can't come to me for comfort but I do not sleep when he's in our bed. He sleeps right up against me and it's not comfortable. Last night the bad dream was at 1 so it was a long night. Sometimes they happen at 5 and then I don't mind as much.
I think coming to you for comfort and spending the night in your bed don't have to be one and the same thing. It should stop at comfort, especially since you don't seem to be cool with him sleeping in your bed. Comfort him. Give him a drink. Give him a hug. Then gently guide him back to his bedroom. Arrange whatever stuffed animals or night-light he wants in there. Tell him to think good thoughts about the things he loves, but be firm that it's nighttime. He'll know he can come out and get you and be comforted, but won't expect to sleep in your bed either. That is what we do. It works for us.