[valandemmy]

does anyone else feel like they are just worrying ALL the time for no good reason? i am just SO tired of worrying myself to death everyday. one day i think i am leaking amniotic fluid, and the next i think i may be going into pre-term labor, and the next i am worried if the baby isn't active enough, he is dead. i was not a basket case like this with emily. i just want to enjoy my pregnancy and be ready to welcome C.J. into the world. instead, i am a nervous wreck!!!! why am i doing this? i just want to be happy

[ch@z]

I'm sorry you're not enjoying your pregnancy as much as you would like, Val. I don't get all that worried, but I sometimes wonder if it's because I'm too ignorant to get worried? KWIM? Like, I would never have worried about losing my mucus plug because until recently I didn't know it existed... haha I definitely worry more when I hear about someone else losing a child, or that someone else feels baby kicking all the time and I haven't felt it at all yet. Maybe you should talk to your doctor if you feel like your anxiety is overwhleming?

[valandemmy]

thanks charlotte i am actually going to speak to my dr about it monday when i go. i think i am having some issues about it, and am afraid that signifies that i will have PPD. i dunno, i just can't shake the constant worry. i think this board has alot to do with it, because of the losses and real issues some of the ladies have, but i LOVE all of you guys, and i hate to leave just because of my insecurities KWIM?

[whalenmommy]

I would definitely talk to your doctor about how your feeling - if JM is causing you more stress though - you may seriously want to consider the option of opting out for awhile for your own well-being - We would miss you terribly - but nothing is worth your health and well-being and that of your precious little boy...

(((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))

you are surrounded by everyones problems its normal to worry the same will happen to you. Try to remember that just because someone here has a problem, does not mean you will! I read somewhere that 95% of pregnancies are low risk or no risk pregnancies!

[Mybubbies]

aww Val, I am sorry you are worried so much. I would def. talk to your doctor. Your anxiety seems pretty high for some reason. It's ok to worry, but when it is obssessive, that can be a problem. I get like that when my anxiety is super high and there is no stopping it! I worry about the weirdest things!

Hang in there and know that YOU are ok right now. Yes, there are losses here, problems etc.. but that is how our world is and that does not mean you will have any problems. Maybe you should take a day or two off JM and see how you feel. Everyone would understand and miss you, but you have to take care of yourself! Hang in there!

[Banned-hopeful4no1]

Val this is the main reason I am not on JM as much anymore.....I always feel like it causes me to worry and honestly Im sik of the worrying...I am not saying that the girls on here that make posts about things they are worrying about shouldnt or that they dont have a reason to worry, I just cant handle it right now, and its definately not healthy for me to be spending all of my spare time on JM or for me to be wondering what someone said to a reply as part of one my exciting highlights of the day...i just cant do it anymore...i still pop in from time to time, just not everyday...

I hope that you can figure out why you are worrying so much. If i were you, i would take like a week off JM and focus on spending time with emily and your hubby and see if that helps you relax...if not then maybe its not JM doing it, if it is, take it easy like I am...you can always email too if you want....we ARE ddb!! Kraceykat@gmail.com

feel better hun, try relaxing, treating yourself to things/luxaries you dont usually do for yourself (hot bubble bath with candles and/or aromatherapy, Tv night on the couch, massage from hubby, a little bit of shopping for YOU, relax and take time to read a book, e tc etc)

hang in there sweetie!

[valandemmy]

thanks everyone : ) i am seriously considering taking a step back from the boards for a while. although i would miss you guys dearly, i just don't think it is helping me mentally right now. especially after the loss of baby grace i'm gonna have a talk with my dr about it monday and see what she thinks

would certaintly miss you if you took a break - but I totally understand. Id like to keep in touch though so if you have a AIM messenger or anything let me know. I will talk to you about positive things only

[mythreesons]

With my first child, I was an emotional mess! I was constantly worrying about EVERYTHING!! I think that it is a pregnancy symptom. If you can, I would highly recommend talking to a counselor/psychologist. I saw one for several months in my pregnancy and it was so nice to have an objective person to tell all of your fears and worries too.

FYI: I did not have PPD after his birth (or any other of my births).

GOOD LUCK!!

[Momma2threekiddies]

Val I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I completely understand if you need to take some time away. This has been the hardest pregnancy emotionally for me as well b/c I know so much more than I did the first 2 times. If you do decide to take a break I hope you come back every once in a while to let us know how you are doing. I also have AIM and e-mail that you can keep in touch with me through...PM me for the info if you would like!

[valandemmy]

thanks guys for all the support. i took the day off yesterday, and came today just to check in. i am going to try to continue to come, and if i see a bad title, i just won't click on it for now, and see if that helps! i can't stay away from you guys lol