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I dunno why but I really can't stand when guy's mothers try to push you naming the baby on them...its like I only met this woman once...her and my b/f aren't close..and she's like "well my middle name is Ann so I would like that a lot if you'd name her after me" what a nerve of that woman..I don't even know her like that!
If anything I'm giving my daughter my grandmothers name who basically raised me, and I have her name too which is Marie (as my middle name) so his mom can kiss my ##### seriously...she's being named after me and my grandma, not some woman I met once, I don't really care what she says or my b/f says for that matter...
I know I'm not the only one who deals with this crap...my mom don't call me up like "yeah name the baby after me" cuz my mother isn't a self centered b.i.t.c.h obviously...and feels I should name the child what I want. I would never tell my daughter she had to name her kid after me, thaz just plain rude. I have to go over her house and meet his grandparents and eat dinner with all them, and if she asks Imma tell her, "I'm giving her my middle name..." if she don't like it tuff s.h.i.t I know I sound like a #####, but seriously, I grew up from the time I was 16 til now believing I was infertile, because my endocrinologist told me I was, and I never expected to have a baby and now some woman I just met is got the nerve to tell me what I'm naming MY kid...
And my b/f sorta mentioned it and I told him I hated the name Ann...and it sounds dumb with all the names I like....and he agreed...so when we go over there for dinner he better not punk out and tell her we are, cuz I'll be like "say whut....no we ain't.." I don't think she wants to get embarassed that way so if I was her I'd keep my mouth shut...
It just really pisses me off, I don't know where some people get off thinking that their all high and mighty or something...my mom and I are like best friends, really close, and she never once mentioned anything about me naming my daughter anything about her at all...I just look at the way other people act and it makes me sick like do they have no shame? I would never have the balls to tell someone that...
and my b/f like sees his mom like twice a year if that and they email each other...he don't even talk to her on the phone and she's acting like she's some big deal...ugh it just makes me so mad! Sorry guys I had to vent..
Well, I can't really say this has happened to me, but I would just politely tell your boyfriend's mom that you already have the baby's name picked out, but thank her for her "suggestion." Polite, tactful.....and hopefully she'll understand and just drop it.
My mother-in-law has never once egged me about baby names and neither has my mom. So, I guess DH and I lucked out there!
It is totally ok to vent & I have to agree w/ you. A child should be named after someone you admire or b/c it is family tradition IF you as the mom & dad want to. That is the key here. This is your child not theirs.
My boyfriend's crackhead of a so-called mother tried to pull the same crap. When we told her I was pregnant, it was only the 2nd time in my ENTIRE life that I had even seen the crazy lady. Not to mention her & Eddie are NOT CLOSE and he hadnt seen her either.. she decided that she wanted me to name the baby "Halley" or Haleigh or however it was susposed to be spelled, Hallie, Hailey.. I just looked at her like she was stupid and said "no, I already have a name for our daughter." And, I did. Haizy. Which was the name I had picked out BEFORE I ever got pregnant, I suggested it to Eddie when we FIRST discussed having kids and we picked it. Haizy doesnt have a middle name, which his mother is not happy about, and she was also never baptisted, which his mother is also PISSED about.
As far as Im concerned, she can curl up into a ball somewhere and rot.
We dont speak to her and she isnt allowed to even see Haizy. She doesnt even know Im pregnant again that we know of.. the best thing I ever did was cut that crazy bat out of our lives..
we don't have the first name picked out cuz that is just something that seems so difficult for me, like thats going to be her name for the rest of her life so I better pick something I can live with and hopefully she'll like also lol...not like anyone has a choice what their named but still...but yeh I'll let her know I like my middle name and thats what its going to be...she'll prolly try to bring it up around his whole family like trying to put me on the spot but honestly I'm pregnant and I don't care what a bunch of people I don't know think at this point in my life...
Good luck with it. I know dh's mom wanted us to use her mn for our child if we were to have a girl. I was okay with it at first and we do have alot to do with her but then his cousin "stole" the name we liked with it so then I just axed it all together. Especially when I just didn't feel close to her. I just didn't think it was fair to name my child after someone in his family I wasn't close to and not mine which is where I would rather honor someone if I was going to name after someone.
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Good luck with it. I know dh's mom wanted us to use her mn for our child if we were to have a girl. I was okay with it at first and we do have alot to do with her but then his cousin "stole" the name we liked with it so then I just axed it all together. Especially when I just didn't feel close to her. I just didn't think it was fair to name my child after someone in his family I wasn't close to and not mine which is where I would rather honor someone if I was going to name after someone.[/b]