[Banned-sunshinegrl9090]

My OB says that once you see the heart beat at 8 weeks that you are at the safe point. I have heard 12 weeks...Anyone have any advice?? I don't know when to tell the fam

[sandyjoys]

Once you see the heartbeat on an ultrasound the chance of miscarriage goes down to 3-5%, if you feel comfortable with those odds, then go ahead and tell people.

[Banned-sunshinegrl9090]

thanks...i defiantly feel comfortable with that!!

[tyggrlili25]

Ive heard the same about the heartbeat. but ive also heard at 9 weeks when your baby becomes a fetus..and ive also heard 12 weeks so
*sigh* like everything else in pregnancy its confusing lol

[Taramomof3]

I have always been told 12 weeks so that is what I am going by especially since I misscarried at 8.5 weeks.

[Proudmommyof3]

Ive already told everyone but Ive always believed once u hear the heartbeat but my doc told me the other day the first 12 weeks are crucial

[luvmygirls]

I'd say 12 weeks. I think most m/c happen before then. I know that they say once you've seen the hb your risk goes down considerably, but last time I saw the hb at 8w and m/c at 8.5w.

Chances of m/c drop dramatically, but the possibility is always frighteningly there. Everyday gives a stronger and stronger chance

[Banned-sunshinegrl9090]

thanks ladies...I am 9 weeks now and so I guess I will wait the 3 weeks *sigh* It is just a hard secret to keep!!

[LVZ]

My OBYGN told me yesterday that if you are able to see the heartbeat at 7 weeks your odds of a m/c drop to 4% and after 10 weeks it drops to 1%.

[lovely_22]

I told my family right away, at 4w when I got my BFP. I figure if I did M/C I would need them to be there for me, it's happened in the past and it was nice to have those who love me understand why I was so sad. I didn't tell anyone else until after 10w or so though.

Heather

[tryingforanother]

I told my family right away, at 4w when I got my BFP. I figure if I did M/C I would need them to be there for me[/b]

We told our families right away also....for the same reason....that and we were just so excited. Good luck with whatever you decide...

[keekopeeko]

I think i am going to wait until after ive heard the heart beat twice... which would put me at probably around 11 weeks when we tell ppl other than my family, i also told family because they need to be there for me if something does happen... i think after youve seen the heart beat around 10 weeks the chances of miscarrying go down considerably, but i know for some its still happened...

i saw the heart beat at 6w 2d and ended up miscarrying at 11w2d... and i know a LOT of women who saw the heart beat early on and still had miscarriages, so i think the percentage is much higher than the Dr.s really say... at least at 6-7 weeks.. after that it probably drops much lower. thats IMO.

~Em

Yeah I think the % is way higher than the DRs. I would need support if something happened, so I told everyone around 5 weeks. I saw the h/b at 6w5d and again at 10w5d so I'm feeling pretty comfortable now. I'm having another u/s on Wednesday at 11w6d. Once I get through that I think everything will be fine.

Unfortunately, it's never safe. Something can always go wrong. But the odds go WAY down at 12 weeks. After the first 10 weeks, everything that will form is formed, and will only mature for the next 30 weeks. My DR says if you make it through to 12 weeks, most likely everything will be fine.