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I told my family right away, at 4w when I got my BFP. I figure if I did M/C I would need them to be there for me, it's happened in the past and it was nice to have those who love me understand why I was so sad. I didn't tell anyone else until after 10w or so though.
I think i am going to wait until after ive heard the heart beat twice... which would put me at probably around 11 weeks when we tell ppl other than my family, i also told family because they need to be there for me if something does happen... i think after youve seen the heart beat around 10 weeks the chances of miscarrying go down considerably, but i know for some its still happened...
i saw the heart beat at 6w 2d and ended up miscarrying at 11w2d... and i know a LOT of women who saw the heart beat early on and still had miscarriages, so i think the percentage is much higher than the Dr.s really say... at least at 6-7 weeks.. after that it probably drops much lower. thats IMO.
~Em, Married to Matt since 7/3/04. Mommy to Layla 3/29/06, Eva 10/18/08 and Zeke 2/4/11
Yeah I think the % is way higher than the DRs. I would need support if something happened, so I told everyone around 5 weeks. I saw the h/b at 6w5d and again at 10w5d so I'm feeling pretty comfortable now. I'm having another u/s on Wednesday at 11w6d. Once I get through that I think everything will be fine.
Unfortunately, it's never safe. Something can always go wrong. But the odds go WAY down at 12 weeks. After the first 10 weeks, everything that will form is formed, and will only mature for the next 30 weeks. My DR says if you make it through to 12 weeks, most likely everything will be fine.