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This baby will be my second and I am freaking out with this one more than i did with my first! I am sooo scared of adding a newborn to our family... NO sleep...no time with DH.. And Braylin .. I dont want her to feel left out, or think we dont love her.. I dont know.
I was so happy to find out that I was pregnant.. but lately i have been really dreading having a baby.. whats wrong with me. I mean i am happy.. i duno.. maybe its because ive been so sick and everything has been so rocky. Am I alone?
Also if you have already had your second... did it turn out ok?? Did you love you second like your first. Thank you all.. i hope i am not alone.. i feel like a bad mom.
I think that is completely normal! I feel the same way some days. Going from 1 kid to two is scary. I wonder how I'll have enough time and how I'll be able to make it through the day with little sleep. I wonder how Ben will adjust to being a big brother. He and I have a very strong bond and I don't want that to change.
It will all find a way to work itself out. We will all make it work! It's amazing what a mommy can do!
Dont feel bad, I feel the same way. I feel horrible because half the time I dont even want this baby at all. But other times I am happy to be giving Addi a playmate and I know God wouldnt give me anything I couldnt handle.
I think it's normal. I had 9.5 years between my two so I was freaking out like it was my first child all over again. This time I'm not really freaking out yet...however, I'm stressed as it with dh's family drama that I don't have time to think...
I feel exactly the same way. I was so happy when we found out I am pg, but once the news hit we are having twins, I am having mixed emotions about it. How on earth will I do it? I mostly worry about Claudia, she will starting new school around the same time babies will be born, I am just freaking out. I know it will be a huge adjustment. I know we will get through it, it won't be easy though.
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i FEEL the same way and actually think I posted about this last week. I think its an adjustment they all have to make, I think Chase will be a little jealous but with my friends babies, hes do good he hugs them and makes nice I just do't want him feeling left out.
__________________ *~*Mommy to Chase Alexander 4/16/07 & Sienna Skye 10/2/09*~*
looks like several of us feel the same way. i made a post about this a few weeks ago. i really think my son will handle the adjustment well, but it's me i mainly concerned about. i'm worried that cohen will feel like i don't love him as much or something. i have to stop and realize that it's just something that i'm going to have to ride out. things will go the way they are supposed to. i didn't know what to expect with cohen and he's an angel. crossing my fingers that we get that lucky again.
I have such a connection with my son it's crazy. For most of his life it was just me and him. When the new baby comes, I don't think he will be jealous at all. He has so many people around him that love and spoil him, I don't think he's even going to notice. Plus these days, he rather be around my father(his granddaddy) than me anyway.
It's totally normal. When I was preggers with my 2nd, I remember freaking out. Wondering what I had gotten myself into and how it'd be so different now. I wondered how I could possibly love another child as much and how it'd be so hard trying to juggle two kids and share the love and time, etc, etc...
IT'S EASY!!! lol You really don't split the love, your heart actually grows bigger! I swear it's true, you take one look at that little baby and you just feel your heart grow bigger and fill with just as much love for it as your first, without losing love for your first.
Sleeping... ehh.. we have time to sleep when we're dead. Making time for both, well it's just a gradual thing. Of course at first the baby will have more time, because it NEEDS more time. But when things calm down a bit, you just learn to adjust. You don't even really have to try, it just happens and falls into place. Plus, your first can help and be involved and they love it!
With DH, it's the same. You just manage to fit it all in and it's really not hard.
The only real difference is getting ready to go somewhere takes longer. lol
I feel exactly the same way. I've read and heard that it is completely normal and once that little baby is placed into your arms all those doubts and fears will disappear.
I remember a few girls in my first DDC posting the same worries and fears. But as soon as their second baby came they were all completely in love. Reflecting on that really helps me to feel better about it.
Hi! I just wanted to let you know I felt the same way with Owen. I couldn't balance them out at first, because I thought I was neglecting KJ so I wouldn't take care of Owen. Then a couple weeks later I found the balance.