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  #1  
March 18th, 2009, 07:23 PM
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Im so angry!! My ex-boyfriend who I am still good friends with hits me up every so ofen to talk about life, how things are going with the pregnancy etc. Well he is also expecting his first within the next two months and because of this he considers himself the expert. The thing that is making me angry is that he keeps trying to scare me about weight gain because his wife is 10lbs over what her pregnancy weight should be.

We've been very close since we dated obviously and he knows alot of my history. He actually was with me when I was battling my eating disorder (its been a couple of years that Ive been better). Im trying really hard to get myself excited about the idea of gaining weight or at least accepting it so that I dont end up hurting the baby or myself. Ive been setting small weight gain goals so that at least I know im on track and can stay somewhat in control and every time he talks to me he says something to try and scare me about weight gain! I finally told him that what he was doing was not fair and honestly kind of stupid considering he knows what I've gone through and he had the audacity to call me a b**** for telling him how I feel about it! I've decided I'm just not going to speak to him for a while... he needs to grow up.

Why can't people think before they speak or better yet just keep it to themselves!

Go me!
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March 18th, 2009, 07:28 PM
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What business does he have telling you anything about your weight...pregnant or not? The fact that you had an eating disorder makes it that much worse. I feel bad for his wife if he's complaining about 10 extra pounds.
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March 18th, 2009, 07:29 PM
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Screw him! If he makes you feel like crap, just ignore him.

As far as weight gain- your doctors do more scaring than anyone else. Mine told me to stop eating so much with my last pregnancy because I gained 10 lbs in a month. All turned out fine, the weight came off and I ended up smaller than I was before pregnancy.

Don't stress! Be a happy preggo, indulge yourself every now and then, and screw the scale
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March 18th, 2009, 07:33 PM
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What business does he have telling you anything about your weight...pregnant or not? The fact that you had an eating disorder makes it that much worse. I feel bad for his wife if he's complaining about 10 extra pounds.
He told me she cries at night alot and I wonder if its from him, he used to call her fat when she was a size 5 ... possibly one of the reasons I am NOT his wife lol

(sry im being gossipy now.. bad me)

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Screw him! If he makes you feel like crap, just ignore him.

As far as weight gain- your doctors do more scaring than anyone else. Mine told me to stop eating so much with my last pregnancy because I gained 10 lbs in a month. All turned out fine, the weight came off and I ended up smaller than I was before pregnancy.

Don't stress! Be a happy preggo, indulge yourself every now and then, and screw the scale
I plan on it! If my doctor takes one step in the wong direction Ill tell him how it is too... I don't like doctors much and they certainly dont scare me... After all... I hired him to take care of us, not be my boss lol
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March 18th, 2009, 07:53 PM
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I agree! Go you!!!! Screw the weight...i gained 10 more lbs than i should have by the end too and it came right off! i didn't exercise or anything...just BF.
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March 18th, 2009, 08:02 PM
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I would tell him where he could stick his advice. Seriously. You don't need someone saying those kinds of things to you right now...or ever really.

If he can't keep his mouth shut I'd tell the friendship is done.
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March 18th, 2009, 08:08 PM
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You know, he's the guy that should have to wear one of those pregnancy bellies for 9 months and see how he feels! There is no "set" weight for gaining and each person is different. If you're underweight to begin with, they want you to gain more than "normal". Tell him to STFU and mind his own business! Now be glad he's your EX!
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March 18th, 2009, 08:38 PM
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I am SO glad you're not with him anymore! What a jerk!!
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March 18th, 2009, 08:42 PM
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Doesn't sound like a person you need to be around right now.
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March 19th, 2009, 09:48 AM
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ive always been a weird eater, i would say like a recovering alchoholic who is never quite healed from my own anorexia/bullemia a looooong time ago (13 yrs ago) so its been difficult to see the scale jump up so much for me while ive been maintaining my weight and eating like a bird for a long time. its a strange thing for someone with an eating disorder and its something he is not going to understand...so just take all he says with not even a grain of salt, he must not understand how serious an eating disorder is and how something someone says can trigger a relapse. hang in there and just eat healthy things, that way any weight you gain will be healthy. hugs
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March 19th, 2009, 10:27 AM
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Thats pathetic. You are right. Go you. Someone should put a pregnant belly on him and see what he feels like.
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March 19th, 2009, 10:34 AM
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yeah, it sounds like you need to keep your distance from him for awhile.
That's definitley not what you need to be hearing.

Be prepared to gain weight, but be thankful when you do. You have a
growing baby in your belly to think about, you need to gain that weight!

I'm sure you'll lose it with no problem afterwards. What a jerk!!
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March 19th, 2009, 12:14 PM
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Good for you!

People don't understand it when you are talking about weight and eating disorders! I'm proud of you!
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March 19th, 2009, 04:09 PM
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Ahhh....the beauty in the fact that he is your EX....you don't have to talk to him unless you want to.

Try not to worry about the weight gain during pregnancy. You can worry about it after that baby is safely here. You and the baby need lots of nourishment and most of the weight gain isn't fat!

Take good care of you....
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March 20th, 2009, 03:29 AM
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What a jerk. He has no right to tell you that.

GRRRRRR
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