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April 19th, 2009, 05:03 PM
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My mother thinks she is the centre of the universe and the world revolves around her. Like yours she also pushes herself on me. I really don't need her to call me 5 gazillion times a day. I'm a big girl now.
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April 19th, 2009, 05:58 PM
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its hard i know.
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April 19th, 2009, 07:01 PM
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Oh trust me, I get it. I didn't get along with my mother for EIGHTEEN years of my life. I lost her when I was 19, so regardless of how much she grated my nerves, I miss her lots- but I get where you're coming from.

Your mom reminds me of my MIL, except she didn't give birth to me and wants to be my best friend and all I want to do is tear her head off.

Wish I had some advice for you!! Some moms are just overbearing. They mean well, but they don't know when to quit.
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April 19th, 2009, 07:22 PM
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((hugs)) She might be trying to re-connect with you now that you're pregnant. Having a daughter pregnant apparently brings back all the old memories and feelings, and sentimentality.

Having said that, it would be very hard to deal with. I don't get along very well with my mother either (although we're both trying hard for my daughter's sake) and it would drive me absolutely bonkers to be in that situation - especially if I was hormonal. Thinking of you!
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April 20th, 2009, 04:15 AM
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I don't think you are bad at all for feeling that way girl!
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April 20th, 2009, 05:32 AM
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My mom and are pretty close already despite the fact that we didn't get along when I was younger. Right after I got knocked up she went a bit off the deep end though. Texting me a million times a day and going crazy with facebook and myspace messages. I had my sister tell her to back off. I think it hurt her feelings but after we talked about it she seemed to understand. Well she backed off a bit anyway.
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April 20th, 2009, 06:11 AM
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I lost my mom a little over a year ago...there isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss her. Yes, there were days that we drove eachother nuts, but, she was always there for me. She was one of my best friends.

I feel bad for you and i wish you didn't feel this way. It must be very hard. I hope you guys can work out a relationship that works for both of you. Thinking of you...
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April 20th, 2009, 08:59 AM
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my mom acts the same way. dont get me wrong i love her to death. but she is always doing things to push me away. ive come to ignore it!
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April 20th, 2009, 09:13 AM
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You are not horrible at all. My mom and I are close, but I don't share personal things with her. My brother, on the other hand, does. They have a different relationship. Not better or worse, just different.

Now, if my mom just invited herself over and then expected me to go to her house for dinner after, well....things wouldn't go so smoothly. It sounds like you mom has no value for your time....very inconsiderate IMO.
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April 20th, 2009, 09:20 AM
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I don't think you are horrible. I think those are normal feelings to have. It took a long time for my mom and I to get to a place where I could stand her. Now we are much better. We get along great.
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April 20th, 2009, 10:54 AM
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Wow do I completely understand! Before I was pregnant with my first, my mother and I ABSOLUTELY DID NOT get along. At all. I moved out of the house when I was 20 because we fought so badly. For some reason, when I got pregnant (and it was an unplanned, out of wedlock pregnancay, no less) my mom all of a sudden wanted a close relationship with me. I resisted it because I didn't trust her - she had done this to me in the past, want to be close and then blow up at me. Over time, we did become close, somehow. And it has only gotten better with time.

I think there is just something about pregnancy that mends all the hurt feelings and brings a mom and daughter together. For now, take your time and keep your distance, I bet over time things will get better! *HUGS*
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