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July 8th, 2009, 08:43 PM
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when i first found out i was pregnant, a friend of mine offered to throw me a shower. My sister hadnt mentioned anything to me about a shower, and I honestly wasnt sure she was going to. Well at about 5 months my friend offered again, my sister hadnt said anything so i said go for it. So today my sister leaves me a message that says "I really hate baby showers so i was wondering if i could do a co-ed party for you." well the shower that my friend is throwing already has a co ed component to it so 2 showers would be redundant. basically it really has to be one person or the other throwing it. I told my sister my friend was already putting one together. she did not seem upset but who knows. what would you do, should i let my sister do it, or let my friend? her message kind of hurt my feelings.
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July 8th, 2009, 08:59 PM
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I'd let your friend do it since your friend seems to be much more excited about throwing it for you. Then let your sister know that she can talk to your friend if she wants to help, but that ultimately, you gave your friend the go-ahead.
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July 8th, 2009, 09:23 PM
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I think you should go ahead and let your friend do the shower. I would ask your friend to give your sister a call and see if she wants to help with anything, like decorations or something.
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July 9th, 2009, 03:58 AM
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I think you should go ahead and let your friend do the shower. I would ask your friend to give your sister a call and see if she wants to help with anything, like decorations or something.
I agree...
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July 9th, 2009, 04:11 AM
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I would definitely ask your friend if she would include your sister in on the planning. Maybe your sister just assumed she would be the one throwing it for you and thats why she didn't ask you. If there is a problem with her helping your friend out I would just explain to her that she never mentioned it or showed interest in doing it so you assumed she didn't want to. Either way, I hope its a great shower !
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July 9th, 2009, 05:45 AM
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I agree with all of the above.
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July 9th, 2009, 06:17 AM
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I agree. Let your friend go ahead and do it. Maybe let her know that your sister is interested in helping and give your sister your friend's email or phone number and let them handle it from there.
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July 9th, 2009, 06:32 AM
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I would go ahead and let the friend take care of it. Since your sister didn't seem to mind that much. No matter what it's going to be a good time since everyone is going to be talking about the baby. The same thing happened to me the other day... I felt really badly for my sisters, but they didn't speak up sooner, so my aunt starting taking care of stuff.
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July 9th, 2009, 06:41 AM
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I agree with everyone else.

I'm sorry her message hurt your feelings. Is she the "type" of person who would throw a baby shower for someone else? I know that my friends don't ever look to me for baby or bridal shower planning because I'm just not that kind of girl. I don't know her but maybe her message was just her way of putting her shortcomings out there.
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July 9th, 2009, 07:38 AM
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I think you should go ahead and let your friend do the shower. I would ask your friend to give your sister a call and see if she wants to help with anything, like decorations or something.

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July 9th, 2009, 08:27 AM
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I'd definitely let your friend do it as well, since she offered first.
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Seems like your friend is more willing and on the ball about it to me... maybe suggest your sister help her with it?
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July 9th, 2009, 01:10 PM
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thank you ladies for your thoughtful advice i appreciate it. Ill tell my sister and my friend about my sister helping. My sister is just a very non girlie person, she just doesnt coo over babies or weddings, she is kind of an ice queen...(but that is just her, shes always been that way) plus she never wanted my husband and I to get married so sometimes i think she is still upset. thanks ladies!!!
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July 9th, 2009, 01:53 PM
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Yeah I'd definitely just let your friend do it. It sounds like she's doing it because she wants to and your sister would only be doing it out of obligation which won't be fun for anyone.
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I agree wit the other ladies I would see if your friend could include your sister
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July 9th, 2009, 03:11 PM
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let your friend do it, sounds like she would enjoy it more anyway
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July 9th, 2009, 07:40 PM
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July 9th, 2009, 07:51 PM
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I'd let your friend do it since your friend seems to be much more excited about throwing it for you. Then let your sister know that she can talk to your friend if she wants to help, but that ultimately, you gave your friend the go-ahead.
Ditto.
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