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Does anyone else? Now that I have experienced pregnancy, birth and all the joy that comes for being a mom my fever is 100% out of control!!
DH and I are "NTNP", but pretty much know due to my PCOS & EBF nothing will happen, so ttc date is set for August 1, 2010..that way if we have to use MA we can do it in Oct, Nov, Dec time frame...but it's killing me not being pregnant!
And I am dying to get the chance to possibly go over due, go into labor on my own and not have any interventions or even an IV. I long for that chance!
and Debbie, you being pregnant soooo does not help my fever
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Ugh...maybe if my pregnancies weren't so horrible I'd be looking forward to doing it again. But right now the thought of being pregnant again freaks me out!
Me Chels. I'm right there with you. I won't do that to Claire & we can't afford it right now anyway, but I really miss being pregnant. And I feel sooooooo good pregnant (all the pain in my back, neck, and leg goes away from the relaxin & junk) so every pain makes me wish I was baking another bun in the oven. Plus my birth was so awful that I too want a do-over. We can suffer the fever together cuz we even though I don't have PCOS, my DH said the only thing he could think of that would be worse than me falling pregnant was cancer - and even that would depend on what kind so there won't be any more babies here for at least a year
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The total opposite happened to me this pregnancy. Before I had her I wanted 6 children total. Now, my want for children dies alittle bit more every day. I love my daughter but I dont think I will try for another one anytime soon or possibly at all.
I do big time...even though I shouldn't. My pregnancy and birth was so smooth and perfect and I so want to do it all again, especially the birthing process. But I know right now, we really can't afford it, and it would be a lot of work. We haven't been using protection all the time though, so I guess we will see.
Heck yea! I have had the fever before I even gave birth. And I've said it before...but literally as I was pushing him out...I was thinking "wow, i want to do this again". I loooooved being pregnant, and giving birth was pretty cool and not nearly as bad as I imagined in my head. We're trying for another! I hope it happens soon. Cross your fingers for me! I want lots of children.
And Chels... I've heard sometimes of people having problems, getting pregnant, and then they figure it won't happen without help again, and boom, they get pregnant. So you never know!
I'm done. Got my girl and my boy....and little to no sleep.....and a body that hasn't yet recovered.....and some areas that will probably sag and not recover........
I'm DONE!!!
That is....unless men can start carrying the babies....then I'm back in
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I was managing my fever okay before Debbie made her announcement, now it's out of control for me too. DH doesn't want another one right now, but he's not preventing it either, so whatever happens at this point I guess.
Not at all!!! DH has it Bad though. I am scared to death of getting pregnant ever again. I had the opposite problem from you though. Instead of wanting a do-over from the horrible birth experience, I'm scared that it will happen again.
my experience wasnt horrible at all..just not what i spent my life dreaming of....i still had a crazy high after it, i just would like to have a chance to get my dream birth - drug free/intervention free/catch my own baby, pull her straight to my chest, hold her while we wait for the cord to stop pulsating...birth
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I do not have baby fever yet ! But I know when we are going to start trying for the next one. I am right there with Chels , I want to catch my baby and hold them until the cords stops and then have it cut. Not to deliver a baby that is not breathing and is blue that has to be rushed to the NICU team. Better luck to us both next time Chels , maybe we can even have our next one on the same day as well
We need a support group. I have it BAD. I think about it all the time, and it's so much worse after actually having him. I mean I knew I wanted a bunch of kids before, but I know even more now that that is what I want. I'm also the world's most impatient person when it comes to getting something I want, so I am super anxious. Argghh.
Is there a blinkie out there to reflect this state of mind?
Also... I wonder... for BTDT moms, does the strong desire to procreate disappear the more you have, or is it something that is always there that you eventually suppress?
We personally do not have a magic number that we would be happy with or that we are set on. So I don't know when I will feel "done". All I know is that I want at least three, and DH comes from a big family (10 kids) and agrees that Kelly should have siblings. We are kinda just going with the flow though and seeing what happens and how we feel as things move along...
Also... I wonder... for BTDT moms, does the strong desire to procreate disappear the more you have, or is it something that is always there that you eventually suppress?
For me, it did die down a bit after each one. I was the same as a lot of you after my first was born. I think about 5 minutes after she was born I turned to DH and said I wanted another one. I was originally planning on having 3 kids, each 3 years apart. I've now had 3 kids in 3 years and I'm debating about a 4th, lol. After my first was born, I think DH and I were both kind of trying without saying we were, you know? Then for the third, we knew we wanted to try for a boy still, but hadn't decided when. I knew I wanted a 3rd, but I wasn't dying to be pregnant yet again or anything. I think the toddler age really is a good method of birth control. For me the toddler years are A LOT harder than the baby age, but I've also had really easy babies.
Now this time I'm totally confused. I feel like a couple of you mentioned that I want to try for my perfect birth. I would consider my first's my ideal birth. I went into labor on my own, everything went smooth, I wouldn't change a thing. My 2nd was induced and I swore I wouldn't induce with my 3rd. Then I let people convice me to go ahead with the induction. So now I feel like I want to try it all over again and this time be able to wait to go into labor on my own. I also want to experience a "surprise." We already have everything for a boy or a girl, so I don't see any reason we would have to find out ahead of time. Now I just need to decide if I'm just wanting the "experience" again or another child - not that I would ever regret having another child, but someday I do feel like I would be happy to just leave me family as it is.
I'm definitely not feverish, but the more I spend time with Patrick and get to know him, and the more I see him becoming a real person with emotions and personality and attitude, the more I see the appeal of doing it again. I loved being pregnant too (until the last month) and would happily do it again, though I'm content to wait a while for now. I want to spend some time enjoying Patrick first.
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If I never have another baby. Im soooo ok with that. Sometimes when I think about my birth, that makes me wanna do it all again so I can really prove to myself that I CAN do it all natural.
I have mixed emotions about it right now. I absolutely LOVE being pregnant and giving birth! I could do it over and over and over! However, I would probably freak out if I got pregnant RIGHT NOW!
Julie, I was like you when I had Tyson. As soon as he was out, I was telling everyone in the room "I want to do this again!" Everyone looked at me like I had 3 heads! I wanted to be pregnant again so bad right away. This time is a little different. I REALLY miss being pregnant and definitely want to do it again, but now that I know what it's like to have 2, I'm not in such a rush for it to happen right away with #3! Also, I think if we have a #3, that will be it for us-not by my choice (dh would be happy to stop now). So, the sooner I get pregnant again, the sooner that chapter of my life will most likely be over, and that makes me sad to think about. Ideally, I would love to have the same spacing between Paxton and #3 as I do with Tyson and Paxton, so that would be getting pregnant when Paxton is 13-14 months. We are not preventing though (I am EBF), so if it happens sooner, I will just go with the flow!
Chels, you never know what can happen! I have a friend that struggled for years to have her 1st baby. She has diminished ovarian reserve and had to go through 3 invitros and 2 losses before she finally had her 1st son. Then, when he was about 14 months old, she unexpectedly became pregnant on their own...something they never thought was remotely possible! She now has 2 boys 23 months apart! I guess sometimes having a baby kicks your body into gear!
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so there won't be any more babies here for at least a year
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