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I just need to vent a little about Claire's sleep (I know, not the first time, right?!?!).
Claire is over 4 months old now and has yet to sleep through the night- not even close. The best she's ever done was to wake up twice a night. Once at 3 am to eat and once around 5 am to come sleep with us. That only lasted 2 weeks. Usually we're up with her a minimum of 4 times a night. It's been this way since she was born. She has a cold right now, so of course it's even worse. I feel like I am the only one still up this often.
What I don't understand is that for naps and bedtime we can lay her down fully awake and most of the time she will fall asleep after a few minutes without a peep. At bedtime we can even lay her down without a pacifier! So if she can fall asleep on her own, why is she still waking so often at night? What are we doing wrong or missing here?
Like I've mentioned before, Ella was never a great sleeper either, though at this point she was giving us some 8-5's. I thought we paid our dues with a bad sleeper...I am just so frustrated and tired of being tired all the time!
Not sleeping sucks. I'm not sure what advice I have for you, my first son was a horrid sleeper and was up every 2 hrs all night for about 11 months... My 2nd daughter slept like a rock and now with #3 it's kind of both? lol She STTN at 2 months for about 4 weeks and then BAM she got a cold and now we're up 2+ times a night. Luckily she just nurses and goes back to sleep.
I'm hoping someone has some sage wisdom here since I'd love to use it too!
I hope you get to nap at least during the day? I hope things get better! The only advice I can think of are the obvious things, like white noise, or maybe a night light...
Well if she's even getting a 5 hour stretch that's considered sleeping through the night.
I'm up quite a bit with Jillian too. It does suck sometimes but I guess it comes with the territory. DS was never a good sleeper. He is 2 1/2 and he still doesn't sleep through the night. I figure it all comes with the territory and won't last forever
Would you consider co sleeping? Maybe she just wants to be near you. If it gets you more sleep it might be worth it.
are you still nursing at night? do you turn lights on at night when she wakes up or change her diaper? these may all be reasons she won't put herself back to sleep at night. things need to stay dark and quiet and you should let her fuss for a while on her own before you go get her, if you don't already. Don't change her diaper unless she has poop, offer her a paci instead of your breast for every other night feeding unless you think she needs to continue eating at night.
I don't think your doing anything wrong.. Just make sure you stick with your routine and eventually she'll fall into a routine.. I wouldn't advice bringing them to bed with you though.. Just when she wakes up, fed her and put her back into bed.. Do you swaddle? We swaddle as long as we can.. This helped us alot, with both of my kids..
I've seen this formula at the store.. It's designed to help babies feel fuller at night.. Maybe give this a try..
Oh, there's a 2 year old in my DD playroom that doesn't take naps during the day.. But the mom makes her 2 year old have quite time.. She just puts him in his room and he just plays.. This gives her time to relax and take care of her infant..
Most babies don't sleep through the night at 4 months. Kayla slept through the night at 2 weeks, Emily not until 6 months. Abby is still not a pattern, some nights it's all night, others she's up 1-3 times a night. So much goes on in their little minds and bodies it's almost impossible to do the same thing each night for them.
Some kids don't sleep well at all and are still waking at night at age of 4.
I know that many of you may be opposed to this but when Madison was about 4 months old I started sleep training her. I spoke to her pediatrician and she had positive experiences with it, including her own 3 children. Before I started it with Madison she wasn't going to bed until around 11 and then would wake up about every 2 hours after that. Since my husband isn't here and I was her only source of food, it was exhausting to say the least. I knew going into the training that she should have been able to go at least 3 hours between feedings. The first night I let her cry it out which didn't go on too long. By the second night it was reduced by half and then the third night she barely cried at all. Also by the third she was sleeping completely through the night. I also started moving her bed time up 30 minutes until I got to 7, which seems to be the perfect time for her. Now she sleeps from about 6:30/7 till 7 am straight. I'm not sure how opposed to it you would be, but I would highly suggest letting her fuss for a little before going in to get her.
She's only had a handful of 5 hour stretches...ever. Most nights she's down by 7:30, up at 10:30, 12 and 1:30 for pacifier, eat at 2 or 3, up at 4 or 5 to come in to bed with us. Up for the day by7ish.
She is now only FF, so at least DH can split feeds with me.
sorry you're not getting a good night's sleep. Catie still wakes up in the middle of the night to nurse also. Some nights are good (she'll go 5-6 hours) and other nights she's waking every 2 hours to feed. Is there anyway you can nap during the daytime, when she naps?
Chris mom to 4 girls: Ashleigh, Madisyn, Emely, & Cathryn
I too, also did CIO method--but modified.
I would let her cray for 15 min...go in lights off give paci turn on soothing music and rub tummy. we slowly increased making her cry it out by 5 min increments. it took roughly 3 days or so, and she never wakes up during night except when sick. if she gets off schedule it takes one night of doing this again it she is back on schedule. I wouldn't talk when I went in the room...and also decreased what I did, like rubbing tummy, etc.
I can TOTALLY understand. Breckin is a pretty terrible sleeper as well. He had about two weeks where he would sleep 3.5-5 hours straight in his crib, then he would come to bed with us and sleep through the rest of the night. He is teething now so he is sleeping only an hour or so at a time and it is horrible!! I can feel your pain. I really hope it gets better for you
Same here! Is seems to go in stretches i will go 2 weeks with Ellie sleeping 4 or so hours first then up every 2 for me to go in and give her her binky! Last two nights she only got up once to eat and once for a bink tho.. so hang in there!