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March 31st, 2010, 01:57 PM
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I'm having SO much anxiety about this, so thought I would seek advice from you ladies. At the end of April, DH and I will be going to Washington DC for 2 nights, 3 days with a few friends.

Reagan will be staying with my SIL, who already has two grown kids and loves babies. However, Reagan only sees her about 1x per month - so doesn't know her too well, her house, etc.

Are babies usually flexible with this type of situation? Of course, I'm going to give my SIL a "Reagan crash course" on how to put her to sleep, feed her, etc. but I'm so scared Reagan will be miserable staying with (basically) someone new and my SIL will be miserable too!

Over the next few weeks, we are going to get my SIL and Reagan together so they get to know each other more - but what else can I expect? How can I prepare? Help!
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March 31st, 2010, 02:13 PM
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I think you are doing all you can. Babies are incredibly flexible.
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March 31st, 2010, 02:46 PM
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I was just going to suggest you get them together more to get the baby used to her. most babies are really flexible at this age, just make sure Reagan's routine stays the same
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March 31st, 2010, 02:55 PM
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Could you leave her with your SIL for one night before you leave??

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if possible I think that is a good idea.. just so you can all get an idea of how it will go.
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March 31st, 2010, 04:52 PM
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I would try leaving her with her aunt a time or two to make sure she does ok and to get them better aquainted like the other ladies have said. I wish I had more advice, but I didn't spend a night away from my oldest until he was 4yrs and there is no way I could try to spend a night away from this little guy...heck, it's a chore to even get my haircut, he's such a mama's boy and acts like the world is coming to an end if he can't see me.

Good luck! I think you're back to work right so she is used to not seeing you for periods of time? I'm sure she will be ok
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March 31st, 2010, 05:38 PM
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The first time I left my first one it was with my sister too. I was so worried even though my sister had 2 teenagers and a little girl 2 yrs older than mine. I wrote out every detail of Ava's day and how we do nighttime things blah blah blah. I know for a fact, because she told me later, that she did not follow everything exactly as I said. BUT Ava was fine and they got along great. So my advice is overplan and write everything down if you want, but trust that she is in good hands and she'll be fine even if your plan isn't followed
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March 31st, 2010, 05:39 PM
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I think you having her over so she can see how you do things, etc.. will help a lot. Normally, babies are very flexible with stuff like this. Especially if she's a mellow baby to begin with.
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March 31st, 2010, 07:19 PM
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I would try leaving her with her aunt a time or two to make sure she does ok and to get them better aquainted like the other ladies have said. I wish I had more advice, but I didn't spend a night away from my oldest until he was 4yrs and there is no way I could try to spend a night away from this little guy...heck, it's a chore to even get my haircut, he's such a mama's boy and acts like the world is coming to an end if he can't see me.

Good luck! I think you're back to work right so she is used to not seeing you for periods of time? I'm sure she will be ok
Same here. Jillian will often cry when she can't see me. She's a total Mama's girl. I didn't leave my son overnight until he was about 16 months. He stayed with my parents overnight and had seen them lots. They only live about a mile away.

I'd try leaving her there another night to see how it goes. At least you have some time to prepare!
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March 31st, 2010, 07:57 PM
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I would say if she has a security object to bring it, I know Elise LOVES her mobile it calms her not matter what when you turn it on and I agree write evey thing down and overplan I am sure she will be fine
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April 1st, 2010, 05:45 AM
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Thanks ladies - I don't think I could bear to leave her over there an entire night before I leave. It's going to be hard enough the 2 nights I'm away - but I'll definitely get her over there for some quality time. I'm also probably going to write a mini-book on everything I do for her

She is used to spending time away from me since I work and she is somewhat flexible - sometimes she'll do something wierd like not take a bottle from anyone but me or the nanny... or fight going to sleep unless I'm holding her, but hopefully it will be ok. I'll let you know how it goes!
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April 1st, 2010, 06:05 AM
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If you're anything like me, you'll plan like crazy and bring a ton of stuff and be very anxious and when it's over you'll realize there really wasn't anything to be anxious about. It sounds like you'll leave her in good hands and maybe a practice night would be good for you so you know how you'll feel being away from her. I'm very anxious when I leave my kids so I completely understand.
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April 1st, 2010, 06:39 AM
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could your sil stay at your home to watch her? it might be easier if she was in familiar surroundings.
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April 1st, 2010, 07:06 AM
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I was going to suggest having your SIL stay at your house too since Reagan is familiar with it. Also, I don't blame you for not wanting to leave Reagan an extra night but if you went with her and spent the night too, that might help. Then your SIL can see you do things, Reagan can get use to the place with you there. Honestly though, I think she'll be fine! It'll be you that's worried and missing her, so don't forget to enjoy your time away as well.
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