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April 29th, 2010, 03:38 AM
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Do you think couples that marry young are destined for divorce?
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April 29th, 2010, 04:05 AM
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I think any marriage takes work, honestly and love. I do think being young can make it harder, however I think with hard work, trust, honesty and love, it can be a long, happy, healthy marriage.
I got married when I was still a senior in highschool, and DH and I just celbrated our 12th wedding anniversary. Has it been easy? H*ll no! Anything worth anything isn't easy. If I knew then what I knew now, I'd still do it all over again!
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April 29th, 2010, 04:18 AM
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great response! I have only been married for 4+ years, (5 on May 7th ) And it has been hard, I had even walked away right before our 1st anni. As I had a moment where I just wanted to be a typical 19 year old. It only lasted 3 weeks, got that out of my system quick.

It all depends on the couple IMO. Some people are just destined for divorce, no matter the age. And some couples are just meant to be, of course they need to put the effort in.


As for the question, no I do not think young couples are destined for divorce, though I think statistically, the rates are higher for young couples. But in most of those situations I don't think 'those' couples should have gotten married in the 1st place
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April 29th, 2010, 05:06 AM
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I don't think so. Like everyone said marriage takes work and it isn't a piece of cake.
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April 29th, 2010, 09:25 AM
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well being one that married young I will say no and now we have been together alomst 8 years married for 6 of them. But like it was said all relationships require work
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April 29th, 2010, 12:41 PM
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I agree with Paula that it can make it harder but it doesn't necessarily mean that you're doomed for divorce.

I got married at 20 which is fairly young by today's standards. In September we'll be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary and we'll have been together for 12 years.
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April 29th, 2010, 12:46 PM
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i don't think all couples no matter the age are destined for divorce, i think young couples get caught up in the "idea" of marriage that they think "they" wont go through any hard moments well when it comes upon them without any support from anyone it fails but at any age any relationship takes time, love and patience
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April 29th, 2010, 03:44 PM
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Nope. Age really doesn't matter when it comes to how hard someone is willing to work on their marriage. I guess by standards I got married young. (I was 22) Our 4th wedding anniversary is next month and we've been together 7 years on the same day. I figure with what we have been through in our first 7 years, the next should be a breeze.
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April 29th, 2010, 04:15 PM
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I really don't think age matters. DH and I have been together 5 and half years... married for almost 3. It hasn't all been easy but I feel like we are really strong. We have been through SO much and everything makes us stronger. We were 23 and 24 when we got married. I can't say how it will be in 20 years but I will say that I love him more each year that goes by

I think one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high is because people get married for the wrong reasons. People feel like... well we have been dating for so long... what's the next step? People also have unrealistic expectations for marriage. They think it wont take work, that somehow problems you had while dating will just magically go away once you are married.
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