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I realized that there is some psychological pressure to do everything right with the newborns/infants/toddlers/children, although it is not always clear what`s wrong and right.
Is the psychological pressure to do everything as good as possible and to protect your own child/children overwhelming?
At which point can this turn into distress and become contraproductive? Do you think this psycholgical pressure can contribute to the development of postpartum depression?
In Germany they automatically send midwifes the first weeks after delivery to the new mothers to check at home at support them there ( once or twice a week ) . They do this even with the second or third child.
Do you think this is an helpful approach?
Personally, I think that a good part of it is socially based. We seem to have very high expectations of parents in general. See the mean mums thread for proof.
imo It should be the basic parents motivation to do the "best" for their child, like protecting, provide safety ect. and not the psychological pressure made by other people and society to do so.
Last edited by elsi2009; May 1st, 2010 at 11:14 AM.
I dont feel I need to do everything right with my kids. I know my parents didn't. As long as I do the best I can and provide the best that I can, they will be fine. But I am not like most people I have learned with my thoughts and feelings about parenting
Nicole: Tom's Wife [5.7.05]; Mommy of Thomas [9.6.05], Collin [1.17.08], & Bailey [10.2.09]