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Is it weird that I want Eli to cry when I hand him to someone else and walk away? Or only want me to hold him? He definitely responds to me and my mom more than anyone else. My mom more than me, I feel like sometimes. But I remember when my nephew was about 5 months was when he wanted only my sister to hold him. Eli's not there yet. Even when I leave him at daycare he's happy just talking to the classroom lady as I walk out the door.
Are your LOs hitting the separation anxiety stage yet? Is it weird that I want him to be that attached to me?
Liv is ok when she gets dropped off in the morning but when I go to pick her up after work I can't go out of her sight without her freaking out until it is time for her to go to bed. It is really sweet but it kind of stinks at the same time because she flips if I even try to pee without her.
this is one of my biggest fears about Monday (aka "d day" for me...Bella's first day at daycare) that she's going to be upset when I leave. I hope that phase stays away a bit longer so I can get more comfortable with the daycare people knowing how to comfort her if she gets upset.
I'm not sure -- and I dread this! I'm away from her ALL day. She sees me first thing waking up, then not again until 4:30 THEN she's in bed by 6:30...So I feel like she won't know it's me or she'll be more happy to see her sitters.
Right now, she's ok and doesn't cry or fit when she is w/someone else -- just those who she's seen before or I'm near by.
I'm the same way-- I definitely want Jax to "want me." I know he is definitely going to prefer DF because he gets to stay home with him everyday. Jax already stares at DF when I'm holding him and tries to get DF attention. I guess I'm jealous in a way of that. It would almost make me feel better about it if Jax would cry for me and only want me to hold him. If you're weird-- then I'm a weirdo with you
Every kid is different. DD#1 started seperation anxiety at 4 months - she cried non-stop for everyone until I came back (even Daddy). Until she was 18 months I couldn't leave her at all because she literally would not stop crying. She was my only baby so it didn't bother me much.
DD#2 never did seperation anxiety until she was 18 months old. We thought we'd missed out on that stage and then it hit us and she only now at 2 1/2 is doing better with it. She doesn't mind Daddy being with her. And with enough warm up time she does fine with Grandma's but she won't go near anyone else as a general rule.
DS - he started seperation anxiety at 4 months (he is so much like his oldest sister it isn't funny). He will tolerate Daddy for about 2-3 hours before he becomes inconsolible which is good because sometimes I just don't want to drag 3 kids with me to the store. Anyone else is no go right now. If a stranger (especially babies for some reason) look at him he starts bawling. Every one at preschool pick up knows to not look at his face or he'll cry and the people with other babies know not to stand too close to me. He is by far the worst with strangers of all 3 of my kids.
I know exactly what you mean and I don't think you're a weirdo
Logan was at my mom's yesterday and I went to get her and the second I saw her she starting screaming until I picked her up, then she was smiling. It made me feel good but also made my mom a little sad!
I feel the same way. Jalen is such a happy baby, he doesn't care who is holding him. Part of me is glad and hopes it helps him become a well-adjusted child (esp in my situation where he has two homes), but another part of me wants him to only want me. One time, when him and Rob were getting ready to leave, he held his arms out to me, but that was it. I really don't even know if he really was, or it just looked like that, but it felt nice.
Chase doesn't have separation anxiety but he definitely prefers to be with me. He is happy with anyone who will sit and talk to him but he is always lookin to see where I am. His smile beams from across the room if I smile at him. Makes me very happy.
Owen has had seperation anxiety since 4 months. If someone he doesn't see very often holds him he gets this look on his face and just starts bawling his eyes out. But in a way I also want him to be comfortable with other people besides me and DH.
He just started reach his arms out to me which makes my heart melt
Katie has probably a dozen people who see her on a daily basis so any of those people can be with her and she is okay, but if anyone else tries to hold her without one of the familiar people in her sight, she goes ballistic.