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Today we went back on the list at our agency. We told them to call us if they need a home for any boys age 0-3. However, we let them know that we are really interested in adopting and would prefer calls about boys who are considered 'legal risk', meaning for various reasons they are not as likely to be reunified with their bio families.
It may be a long wait - 6 months to a year perhaps, but I'm really in no hurry. Life is pretty good and easy right now. But I know our family isn't complete yet...
We're also willing to do respite and short-term foster care in the meantime, which should keep life exciting.
Please say a prayer that the right little boy will find his way to us.
But we said no. I hate saying no. Even if I know that it's probably for the best.
It was a 2 1/2 yr old girl. She needed to be moved tomorrow into a pre-adoptive home because she isn't being well cared for in her current kinship foster home. She has sickle-cell disease, which is really the reason we said no, although our hearts are set on a boy as well.
It's so tough to make a life-changing decision in 10 minutes or so. Daryl and I talked about if we would have said yes if it was a boy with sickle-cell or a girl who was healthy. It's just impossible to know how things will work out down the road. And it's hard to trust my gut because it wants to say yes to everything. Even right now I'm doubting as to whether we should have said yes.
Blah! It helps a little venting about it though. So thanks for listening.
And it's hard to trust my gut because it wants to say yes to everything. Even right now I'm doubting as to whether we should have said yes..
Oh Jess, , find it in your selfless heart to know you are doing the right thing by saying no. It must be so very hard to say no when you are always thinking about other people. Glad you shared and vented here.