[SweetBaby]

I was just curious if our board is going thru a funk?? I see so many unanswered post. We have very few new post. I would answer them but I am not all that good with words. Many of you ladies give much better replies than me.

[MoonMom]

I think it's probably natural for posts to eventually start dropping off. I know for me, in the beginning when I had no clue what I was doing, this board was a lifesaver in terms of advice and support. But as Will gets older and I gain more experience, I don't need it as much. Plus with moving and holidays, I just haven't had much time!

[Nykoal]

PR's get like that with time. People get busy, get pg and join other DDC's and stop in on occasion. It's also the holidays and things die down at that time too. I'm sure come Monday things may pick up a bit.

[Melissa1983]

I'm feeling that too. I'm starting to think everyone else has a life but me, haha. I think a lot of the girls have gone to facebook only too.

[Hailee&Nevansmommy]

Yeah ... i noticed that too.. but i guess when you look at the even older PR's , they are even less active.

Hopefully we all still drop in and keep in touch though for a while.

[Doodle_Jr.]

I've been lurking more than anything. Honestly, I really don't feel like I fit in. Lila is not walking and not talking and I have a hard time relating to most of the posts. I have some major concerns about her development and I don't like talking about it because I don't like hearing stuff like "Don't worry, she'll be fine." We have also been unsuccessfully TTC and sometimes I feel like a lot of the posts here belong in a DDC and not a PR. I've never mentioned it but we are receiving Early Intervention for her and right now it's for speech and physio. Well, there it is. I am having a really hard time posting this and I don't want anyone to be mad about how I feel. I am happy for everyone and everything that's going on but most of the time it just makes me want to cry.

[Cari24]

Originally Posted by Doodle_Jr.

I've been lurking more than anything. Honestly, I really don't feel like I fit in. Lila is not walking and not talking and I have a hard time relating to most of the posts. I have some major concerns about her development and I don't like talking about it because I don't like hearing stuff like "Don't worry, she'll be fine." We have also been unsuccessfully TTC and sometimes I feel like a lot of the posts here belong in a DDC and not a PR. I've never mentioned it but we are receiving Early Intervention for her and right now it's for speech and physio. Well, there it is. I am having a really hard time posting this and I don't want anyone to be mad about how I feel. I am happy for everyone and everything that's going on but most of the time it just makes me want to cry.

Awwww...I'm so sorry you're having a tough time. My fingers are longing to type "don't worry, she'll be fine". I don't know why, but that is what comes to mind first. I think its because most of the time, they do catch up and are just fine. But of course we don't know the exact situation with Lila and what her therapists are telling you, so of course you don't need/want our opinions. I don't think your feelings will make anyone mad. I think we would all like to know how we can best support you. At least that is what I want to know. I would like for you to be able to share with us about how Lila is doing and not feel like we are going to judge somehow or say something innapropriate.

As far as the ttc - I know several of the girls here have been through that and surely understand very much how you feel. I just want you to know that I have noticed that every time someone announces their pregnancy they receive a kind congratulations from you, and each time I see that I think about how that must hurt you because I knew you have been ttc. I have a dear friend who has been ttc since before I got pregnant with Ella, and I have sadly been kind of putting off getting in touch with her for a while now because I don't know where she is with her ttc journey and I have some of her baby things that I borrowed that I need to return, but don't want to cause her pain by confronting her with those things. It can be so hard to know what to say or do to help someone without hurting them. Please don't be afraid to let us know how we can be more supportive.

As far as the playroom, I thought things were just quiet because of the holiday weekend. I hope!

[SweetBaby]

Originally Posted by Doodle_Jr.

I've been lurking more than anything. Honestly, I really don't feel like I fit in. Lila is not walking and not talking and I have a hard time relating to most of the posts. I have some major concerns about her development and I don't like talking about it because I don't like hearing stuff like "Don't worry, she'll be fine." We have also been unsuccessfully TTC and sometimes I feel like a lot of the posts here belong in a DDC and not a PR. I've never mentioned it but we are receiving Early Intervention for her and right now it's for speech and physio. Well, there it is. I am having a really hard time posting this and I don't want anyone to be mad about how I feel. I am happy for everyone and everything that's going on but most of the time it just makes me want to cry.

I am so sorry. You fit in here perfectly! You do not have to worry about that. I am sure if any of us could say the perfect thing to take the burden away we would.

I dont know if I am going to be putting my foot in my mouth but I really have good intentions when I say this. I do not want to offend you. I know how we want the best for our children. I had incident with Derek shaking and trembling alot. The doc wants to send him to nuerologist in December. It is just plain scary. My whole point in sharing this with you is that at the end of the day your baby girl is loved and healthy. Things could be worse. Even with Derek (which he has stopped the shaking episodes) in my heart I have faith that God has his hands wrapped around him and will protect him. In Lila's case it is just going to take time. Which God has given you plenty of! Thankfully!

On TTC: girl I am 7 months pregnant and scared to death! I know that does not help you on wanting another baby but I have my hands so full right now I am going to have to take care of this next child with my feet! I wanted a child for years before Derek and had years of disappointments-I had actually given up. Started making plans to do all this fun stuff (which required not being pregnant) and low and behold I show up pregnant with him. It will happen when you least expect it. Plus you still have a lot to look forward to with Lila-she will take her first steps and you will appreciate that more than any of us did!

[Nykoal]

Andrea...I can really relate with how you feel left out. I felt like that with Mak's PR and stopped posting because even now she's not on the same page (but getting better). I remember she was one of the last kids to walk, never talked, and was late with other things. I started to feel jealous, in a wierd way because all of the other babies seemed normal and my girl wasn't on the chart for some things.

I knew deep down that something was different and nobody would listen to me. Even IRL people were telling me everything was fine, she was just lazy, give it time, etc and I just wanted to scream and claw their eyes out.

I'm proud of you for sharing about Lila's early intervention. That's awesome that she's starting. I've always thought being proactive was better than being reactive. You definately fit in here. In fact, I wish more people would share their struggles instead of hiding them. I think if more people opened up others would feel like they fit in. Nobody has a perfect life (but we try to give that appearance).

I'm sorry TTC'ing is becoming a hard thing. I still remember those dark years of TTC'ing and feeling like it would never be my turn.

[Melissa1983]

I try to stay away from posts that talk about where our children are developmentally too. I just don't want to compare Micah to anyone else, and either think he's ahead or behind. I don't want to be sad if other kids are doing more.

[MarieJ]

I find PR's dwindle off as kids get older or new sibs are introduced, people are spread pretty thin. My kids are also behind developmentally, which is why I came to their DDC, vs their actual PR's. I also hear you on the TTC thing-my heart broke each and every time anyone announced a pg on my DS1's PR.
Take a big breath, and know that we are here to support each other.
((hugs))

[ShannonMVT]

big Andrea. I know there have been times that I felt bad reading posts about what other kids were doing when Matthew just wasn't there yet. So I can imagine it does make you feel even worse to read the developmental posts. I hope EI helps Lila make progress with her walking/talking.

And I really feel you on the TTC. Even though I'm happy for others getting pregnant, it does hurt to feel like you are getting "left behind". I feel like that a lot on the boards. It's just not fair that it has to be so hard for some of us.

[Andrea1122]

Originally Posted by Doodle_Jr.

I've been lurking more than anything. Honestly, I really don't feel like I fit in. Lila is not walking and not talking and I have a hard time relating to most of the posts. I have some major concerns about her development and I don't like talking about it because I don't like hearing stuff like "Don't worry, she'll be fine." We have also been unsuccessfully TTC and sometimes I feel like a lot of the posts here belong in a DDC and not a PR. I've never mentioned it but we are receiving Early Intervention for her and right now it's for speech and physio. Well, there it is. I am having a really hard time posting this and I don't want anyone to be mad about how I feel. I am happy for everyone and everything that's going on but most of the time it just makes me want to cry.

Oh Andrea im so sorry your dealing with all of this.. Im so glad that your getting Lila help.. I wish more than anything i would have realized that my DD had so many delays at this age. I think, well maybe she wouldnt be struggling so much now.. But i pray that with some help Lila will catch up.. As for the TTC im right there with you. Every new BFP i see i cant help but feel sad for myself. We have been activly TTC for almost 7 months, but never pervented since Logan was born(but DH was deployed for 6months)... Anyways, i just want to say im thinking and praying for you! I hope to still see you around the PR, Logan needs his b-day buddy...

[Hailee&Nevansmommy]

Originally Posted by Doodle_Jr.

I've been lurking more than anything. Honestly, I really don't feel like I fit in. Lila is not walking and not talking and I have a hard time relating to most of the posts. I have some major concerns about her development and I don't like talking about it because I don't like hearing stuff like "Don't worry, she'll be fine." We have also been unsuccessfully TTC and sometimes I feel like a lot of the posts here belong in a DDC and not a PR. I've never mentioned it but we are receiving Early Intervention for her and right now it's for speech and physio. Well, there it is. I am having a really hard time posting this and I don't want anyone to be mad about how I feel. I am happy for everyone and everything that's going on but most of the time it just makes me want to cry.

awww i hope everything turns out very soon .. Nevan doesnt talk either... he barely says anything at all... but i know he can hear.. and understands.... so im just trying my best to try to teach him sounds and words and stuff and waiting.

[Doodle_Jr.]

Thanks everyone. I took her for her 18 month appointment today and I feel a little bit better. There are certain things that I can't worry about (because I can't change them) but hopefully they turn into nothing. Only time will tell. I wouldn't be worried about her speech so much if it was just the speech. My doctor said that lots of kids are perfectionists and it's likely that she won't attempt to walk on her own until she knows that she can do it better than crawling.

Anyway, I was thinking today that maybe we can start posting stuff about different activities we are doing with our kids. Like different crafts or games or stuff like that. I would like to see what other people are doing because I feel like we do the same thing here at home all the time. My dayhome provider is amazing and she does so much with them and then I feel bad because at home we don't do that kind of stuff (and also because I am obsessing about what she is not doing instead of enjoying what she is doing.)

[Nykoal]

That's encouraging to hear Andrea!

Great idea about the activity post. With Mak I didn't do much and felt guilt over that and blamed myself for some of her delays. Then I realized that she wasn't ready. I was reading her cues and as she's gotten older her interests have been peaked. I'm really seeing the differences between Mak & Maddie. Maddie is ready for things a lot sooner than Mak was and I've come to realize that I was beating myself up over something I couldn't control.

You mentioned a few weeks ago that Lila took a few steps, how's she doing? Mak was much like Lila. She's a perfectionist and wouldn't walk until she could do it perfect. One afternoon she just got up and walked across the living room and dining room and looked like she had been doing it for months. I was shocked.

Please keep sharing how she's doing. She's very much apart of our PR.

[Melissa1983]

Originally Posted by Doodle_Jr.

Anyway, I was thinking today that maybe we can start posting stuff about different activities we are doing with our kids. Like different crafts or games or stuff like that. I would like to see what other people are doing because I feel like we do the same thing here at home all the time. My dayhome provider is amazing and she does so much with them and then I feel bad because at home we don't do that kind of stuff (and also because I am obsessing about what she is not doing instead of enjoying what she is doing.)

I LOVE this idea! Now that winter is approaching, I need some indoor activities that we can do. Right now, Micah's big thing is playing with the wooden blocks. He loves it when you build it so he can knock it over. He also loves to mix things around in my tupperware and we pretend we're making soup and feed each other. Neither things are real time consuming though. He's definitely not into coloring, so that's out for us right now. I've also be thinking about building a fort with a sheet or blanket over our dining room chairs so we can play in it or crawl around. Hopefully you guys have better ideas, because we'll be going stir crazy in no time!

[Doodle_Jr.]

Originally Posted by Melissa1983

I LOVE this idea! Now that winter is approaching, I need some indoor activities that we can do. Right now, Micah's big thing is playing with the wooden blocks. He loves it when you build it so he can knock it over. He also loves to mix things around in my tupperware and we pretend we're making soup and feed each other. Neither things are real time consuming though. He's definitely not into coloring, so that's out for us right now. I've also be thinking about building a fort with a sheet or blanket over our dining room chairs so we can play in it or crawl around. Hopefully you guys have better ideas, because we'll be going stir crazy in no time!

That sounds like fun! I threw a quilt over Lila and I last night like a fort and nearly threw my back out. She loved being under there, though! I might have to modify it to a seniors version.