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Xander is into hitting everyone especially in the face. I have gotten to the point of hitting him back lightly though so I know I am not hurting him and he laughs and does it more cause he thinks it is a game.
I slapped his hand but I think that doesn't really help the message of no hitting cause I am hitting him.
I've heard you should get down on their level, be very stern and with Ashlynn (even though she has never done any hitting) we sit her on an area of the couch that is her timeout area. When she gets into something she isn't supposed to we say NO! sternly coupled with Feet on the Floor (for when she tries to climb) or Hands off (because she knows what her Hands are).
When my niece and nephew we would tell them "No! Hitting is bad and not nice" in a stern voice along with a timeout. We stay with them during the time out and when they are so little they get bored quickly and want to play but we sit quietly with them and won't pay them any attention for about 1-2min until they get the message.
I'm planning on buying the Super Nanny book at some point because we used to watch that show and she always had really good tips and tricks. This might also be more of an issue when there are siblings but I can't say that for sure.
To be honest every child responds to discipline in different ways. Some kids find spankings funny, mine do not. We don't spank Abe hard, more of a light tap on his bottom (with a diaper on of course) to get his attention and it really offends him. He knows we mean business when he gets a spanking. When we just tell him no firmly, he literally laughs at us. But coupled with a spanking he gets the message loud and clear. We don't spank for everything either. When he throws temper tantrums I put him on the floor and ignore him. When he throws toys they are taken away. Spankings are reserved for serious matters.
I take her hands and put her hands to her side tell her no and that hurts mommy, if i am holding her i will put her down and not pick her back up until she calms down most of the time that works and she won't do it again if she really wants me or dhto hold her
But i really struggle with things like this as I am anti spanking or anything like that i am to afraid to become my dad as his discipline went wayyy beyond spanking
Last edited by natty; January 28th, 2011 at 01:37 PM.
We have the same problem here! She laughs if I give her a light slap on the hand so I've designated a Naughty Corner! She is not fond of this idea at all so now we use it for everything I think she is really catching on I only let her sit there for one minute because I've heard that you should do 1 minute for what ever year age they are?