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wclark602002 · #1 January 30th, 2011, 08:41 AM

i remember reading that you were gonna start weaning will after yall got into the house...have you started yet?hows it going?ive finally gotten sari down to maybe 1-2 a day and sometimes i can convince her not to nurse at all during the day IF i can keep her busy.but the nights...its just not working...she still nurses at LEAST every 3 hrs if not more(usually more) at night.are you having any luck?

MoonMom · #2 January 30th, 2011, 10:31 AM

it's really slow going, but I think we are making some progress. On the weekdays the rule is no nursing once we're out of bed. So there is usually a nursing right when he wakes up. Then we do the morning routine with no nursing, and I go to work. We are trying to get him back in his own bed, but he almost never goes the whole night. Once he's doing that I'm hoping we can cut out the morning nursing, but he still needs to nurse at night to fall back asleep, and co-sleeping is just too convenient. So when he wakes up in bed next to me, he kind of demands it.

I don't pump anymore so by the time I get home I usually do need to nurse, to relieve the fullness. But that's getting less and less, so hopefully I'll be able to go longer soon.

Now what I'm trying to do is cut out any nursing that happens in between me getting home and bedtime. Some days we can do it, if I keep him distracted with toys and snacks/dinner. Other days I'll give in and let him nurse, but I try to distract him as much as possible while he's actually nursing (tickling him or reading a book or playing with something where he can't see it) to keep those sessions short.

So that's 3 nursings per day (wake up, get home, and go to bed), sometimes 4 if he needs one in the evening before bedtime. Weekends usually have one more because I'll nurse him at naptime too.

Night weaning is nowhere in sight. I figured I'd work on day weaning first because I know night weaning is going to be WAY harder.

#3 January 30th, 2011, 12:23 PM

Night nursing at this age must be so tough! You all are very patient mamas!

wclark602002 · #4 January 30th, 2011, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ANGWife

Night nursing at this age must be so tough! You all are very patient mamas!

lol...somedays it aint easy i think its such routine now that it doesnt really bother me anymore..i just dont wanna be doin it forever KWIM?

Melissa1983 · #5 January 30th, 2011, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ANGWife

Night nursing at this age must be so tough! You all are very patient mamas!

No joke! Major kudos to you mamas who are still nursing! I'm enjoying my much needed break before April

ShannonMVT · #6 January 30th, 2011, 06:14 PM

I did opposite, night weaned first but he still nurses a few times during the day. I'm not co-sleeping though so that probably makes the night weaning easier.

MoonMom · #7 January 31st, 2011, 05:39 AM

Believe me, if I thought he could handle it I would be going way more aggressive with the weaning. But I know he's not ready, so I'm just taking it slow and hoping he'll get through this mommy-clingy phase soon!

Nykoal · #8 January 31st, 2011, 07:52 AM

WTG ladies! Maddie night weaned on her own around 14 months so nursing during the day is fine by me. I couldn't imagine still getting up at night to nurse. Kudo's ladies!!!! We're down to a few times per day but on my days off she'll camp out at the boob if she could.

Cari24 · #9 January 31st, 2011, 08:59 AM

Wendi and Renee, we should start a support group! I was JUST having a conversation with my husband about how "its probably time" to wean her (his words). But i have no idea how I would go about doing that when some nights she nurses every 3 hours, even every 2 hours. She is just a horrible restless sleeper and once she starts thrashing around, the only thing that calms her back down is nursing. She is usually only about half awake (eyes still shut) and she will start saying "more milk more milk more milk). Some nights she will go 6-8 hours, and for awhile that was becoming the norm, but lately her sleep is a disfunctional MESS. She has now decided she is against going to bed in the first place. From about 6 moths old until last month she would nurse and they go to bed still awake and fall asleep on her own without a peep. Now she nurses and then I put her in her bed and she SCREAMS endlessly. If she's super tired she'll fall asleep nursing, but thats rare. I've cut back her nap and made it earlier - I even experimented with no nap but that was a nightmare. But, anyway, nursing is a more important part of her bedtime routine than ever before. And she seems to want it more during the day than less. Most days she nurses only at naptime and bedtime, but she will ask for it many more times. I tell her no milkie and try to distract her with something else. Most of the time that works, sometimes it doesn't.

This is all new to me. My son at this age was nursing once a day, at bedtime. I would have been willing to continue that for a while longer. Or like Nicole, just during the day. i would have no issue with that. But I feel like the only way I'm ever going to get her to stop nursing at night is to wean her, but i have no idea how I'll do that when she's soooo dependant on it. I told hubby that it seems to me like I'm going to need to continue until she is old enough to understand some kind of a reward system...go x number of days without nursing...get a prize, something like that. Otherwise, I have no idea!