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For me personally, 35. I noticed a HUGE difference in my pregnancies. Had my first baby at 20 and my second just shy of 30. My first was a lot easier. Second I had less energy etc etc. Hubby and I have already decided that if we have another it has to be before I'm 35.
hmm well when i first started having kids I said i didn't want to have any kids past the age of 30. My mom had my brother at 32, and someone mistook her for his grandma. She was horrified, and I never wanted that to happen with me. But I had Catie at 32 and even though Ken and I are done if i had another baby now I wouldn't be to upset about it. I don't think i'd want to have any kids past 39 though.
Chris mom to 4 girls: Ashleigh, Madisyn, Emely, & Cathryn
I always said I never wanted kids.... then when I got pregnant DH and I talked about how many kids we wanted all together and agreed on 2. I wanted to have or be pregnant with both by time I turned 28, well that happens this August, not so sure I'm gonna me the cut off...
For me, the cut off was 30. I had Kayla at 19 and I was so energetic and popped right back into my pre-preg jeans, my pregnancy was easy, etc...
I had Emily at 27 and it was a lot different. I was so much more tired, the pregnancy was rough and my body took it rougher.
I had Abby 3 months after turning 30 and the pregnancy was so rough, I had 0 energy, it took it's toll on my body.
If we decided to have another, we'd have HAD to have done it before I turned 35, preferably before I turned 33.
It just depends on the person, their energy, etc.. I think someone having their first at 35 would be better than someone having their 3rd, because obviously you'd be worn out from the previous two. So again, it just depends.
I do think it's just gross to see these 50 and 60 and 70 year old women having kids!! Unacceptable in my opinion because it's pretty much guaranteed they will bury their Mom young and that's not fair to them.
I'm torn on this. For so long I believed I would *never* have kids past 30. My mom was 31 when she had me and was just plain NEVER fun to be with as a kid. Now, at 24 (don't hit me..) I don't feel done yet, but know I can't even think about it until close to 30...
Then I see some "older" women, on here and IRL around 40, that are just plain AMAZING mothers.
I guess I agree with the others, if the woman is physically and mentally able to raise, support, and enjoy their child, I don't care about her age.
But, I do agree with Paula, 60+ is just weird..... I'm already having to think about burying my mother, and (knock on wood) that shouldn't be for a while. To have to do it as a child/teen... That would just be devastating...
Nicole: Tom's Wife [5.7.05]; Mommy of Thomas [9.6.05], Collin [1.17.08], & Bailey [10.2.09]
Jumping in on this question after being away for a long time, and lurking some.
I say for me it's 35, I didn't even want to have children until I was 30 and I had my first at 30 and Elijah just after I turned 33. I'm done now. I just felt personally I would be a better mom if I waited until I was done with school and my career was established before starting a family.
BUT my mom had me 5 days before she turned 41. I grew up with older parents and didn't hate it, but sometimes envied my friends younger parents. Don't get me wrong my parents were and are great parents but it's not for me to have kids at that age.