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THis happened on Sunday and it still pisses me off to think about it. Everyone went to my grandma's house for her bday. My mom asked if Billy could have some cake. I said yes. After a little bit, DH told me that he thought Billy had enough cake and shouldn't have anymore. I told my mom and she stopped giving it to him.
So fast forward to 10:00 PM and my son is going nuts! His legs are going a mile a minute in his crib. He is kicking me while I am changing him. Well, it isn't until then that DH tells me that my mom also gave him cookies and Hershey's kisses. My poor son was on sugar overdrive.
I am pissed at my mom for giving him all that sugar and I am mad at DH for not telling her anything when he saw it.
Most of all, I am so mad at myself. I didn't know about all the sigar so when Billy would not stop kicking me as I changed him, I yelled at him. When he continued, I put him in his crib and not in a gentle motherly way. I feel so **** guilty about doing that to my son. I feel like a terrible mom for losing control like that especially when it was something my boy couldn't help.
Maybe it's just because I have 3 and am use to "sugar highs" but it wouldn't bother me. The rule is "Grandma gets to spoil". It's in their job description.
As for putting him in his crib, well.. sometimes they need it. It's a safe place, so don't feel guilty.
Really Jennifer don't be so hard on yourself. We all have angry not so lovey dovey moments with our kids. It's just part of parenting. I promise it won't scar Billy for life. He knows how much you love him. The older he gets the more relaxed you will become with the whole mom thing, the guilt will fade pretty fast in the future.
Now you know tho if grandma is around there might be sugar involved if it's a party. Just part of grandma spoiling. You're doing great with Billy!! He looks like a super happy little guy so don't beat yourself up (or hubby either for not telling you, men don't think lol).
Thanks for calming me down ladies. You are right. It is a grandma thing to spoil. I think it was me being hard on myself. I don't like how I lost control when I got mad, especially when it was something out of my son's control.
Last edited by *Jennifer*; March 8th, 2011 at 02:33 PM.
Maybe it's because I'm a first time mom, too, but I would have been upset as well. I feel like at this age Levi doesn't understand when he's being spoiled. If he's being spoiled, I want him to know he's being spoiled and its out of the ordinary. I don't want him just expect extra stuff because grandma or whoever is around.
This is a little different, but my MIL has gifts for Levi every single time we see her. It annoys me because I'm the one that has to exchange it if it's the wrong size or find a place for it on our toy shelves. He doesn't even understand that it's from his grandma or that it was a present. It bothers me that it becomes a hassle to me instead of something special to him. If he was 3 or 4 and she was doing the same thing, I could understand.
I'd be sad if I yelled at Levi, too, only to find out that it wasn't really his "fault" he was acting that way (I have). We learn from those times to handle the situation better if it happens again. It's part of being a parent (especially for the first time). HUGS!
HUGS! The people at the library today probably think I shouldn't be allowed to have children because I was so short with them and looked like I was on a war path instead of enjoying our time there. We definitely all have bad moments as parents, but you learn and grow from them. Next time I'm in a nasty mood we won't go to the library.
My parents spoil the kids too and sometimes I get upset because I'm the one who has to deal with it (whether it be sugar or toys). My mom was so mad at me a couple weeks ago because I gave away a toy that she bought for Cohen's birthday because he was misbehaving (long story). But at the end of the day, I AM THE PARENT, and I decide what is best for the child. If they don't want me to give away the stuff that they give him, they can keep it at their house (basically I was sick of him not helping me pick up his toys - FYI since his toy was given away he's been a new child). Likewise with your mom, you can tell her that she can give him all the sugar she wants as long as she's prepared to watch him over the course of the next 12 hours while it works its way out of his system.
I'm just sort of venting my hormonal pregnant attitude in your post Jennifer. Feel free to ignore all my nastiness