[sweetmelissa]

So when DH & I got married we decided that Easter was the one holiday that we would have at our own house just our little family. We bounce back and forth between our parents houses for every other holiday so Easter was just ours.

Well last year DH's grandparents were in town so we invited them over for dinner. Which ended up being this huge fight because then Dh's parents were mad they didn't get invited. So it ended up with dh's grandparents, his parents, my parents, our siblings + his brothers girlfriend. Yeah so much for just having his grandparents over.

Now his parents are trying to get us to go to his Aunt's house for Easter dinner. We hardly ever see his family up north so I said yes... Well now its we leave at 5pm on Friday and don't get home until 5pm on Monday.. Oh and his parents are driving with us. Umm wait no. Now I'm regretting saying yes. So I told DH that we can't do this. We always do our own thing that weekend and I didn't mind agreeing to dinner but I didn't agree with the whole weekend.

So now I said something to MIL that we are not going after all. Well now she started with "well we can't go if you don't drive" and "they were looking forward to you going".. Yeah well thanks but no thanks.

Ugh sorry just had to get that off of my chest.

I completely understand and agree with you. I would say the only thing that jumps to my mind on this occasion is that you originally said yes, so it is likely that someone would give you a hard time about not doing it. But I understand why...because it turned into a whole weekend, and now you want to go back to doing your own thing. Family plans sure can get complicated sometimes...especially when family members aren't very understanding :-(

[sweetmelissa]

Thanks. Yeah things got tricky with MIL about it. But thankfully I just got a call that Rachel has an eye appt on the 25th at 10am... We would have to leave at 4pm on the 24th to get home by midnight and then get up at 6:30 to get ready, get Troy & Lilly to my parents house and get on the road by 8.

I had completely forgotten about it so thank goodness the office called to remind me. So MIL is a bit more understanding now.

[MomOf2Boys&aLaney]

I'm glad it worked out for you.. but, I completely understand wanting to spend a holiday with just your family. Holidays get so hectic and it seems like the fun can be taken out of them w/ all of the running everywhere.

[Mars]

I'm glad you stuck to your plans. It's important for a family to have holidaysby themselves as well without all the other relatives around. You spend some with everyone and you spend some by yourselves.

[Mom2twolittlemen]

I would be totally irritated too..... I don't mean to sound cold to them, but they are just going to have to find a new ride. I think she is trying to leavea guilt trip on you!

[katiebug02]

I'm glad things worked out in your favor. I stress so much over holidays and get fed up with all the traveling so I understand why you changed your mind. I LOVE being at home with just DH and the kids on the holidays.

[sweetmelissa]

Thanks ladies. Holidays are a hectic for us because DH's parents always insist that we spend it with them. Never mind that we may already of had plans. I also ask DH to call him parents & ask them what their plans are at least three weeks in advance and they always tell us "we don't know. They are incapable of making any kind of plans. Then after we call them several times & get the same answer we make plans. Then the day before the holiday they call and say okay our plans are this.... Then we're like its too late. We made plans. We called you to see what you were doing you would never give us a answer on if you wanted to do it with us or not so we didn't plan on you coming/going ect.

And this isn't just with holidays with everything! They will call us at 9am "hey lets go to Busch Gardens today".. Um well sorry but were already on our way to the pool or beach or ect. Then they get all mad at ME like its my fault because DH wasn't much of a planner before we got married.

[Zoostergirl]

I am not a last minute sort of person, and that would definitely be a challenge for me.