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With the kids, we plan to educate them before it would ever be a concern. Since I was just 13 the first time I got pregnant and Tom was 16, we are hoping to teach them everything we can re: sex and pregnancy. The boys I hope to teach, if it happens, the need to be 100% supportive of whatever their girlfriend decides. Teach them the options she has, and if she keeps the baby then they will be expected to finish school, work, and support the baby and mother in all ways-financially, physically, emotionally. Tom and I will of course help and support whatever the mother decides while keeping any possibly harsh thoughts or opinions to ourselves.
Bailey-again, teach her what options she has and what goes into each of those options. Then support whatever she decides, hope that the father is willing to step up to the plate, talk to him/his parents if need be.
We would make sure they know that the child is their responsibility if they decide to keep and raise it themselves, but do as much as we can to help.
Nicole: Tom's Wife [5.7.05]; Mommy of Thomas [9.6.05], Collin [1.17.08], & Bailey [10.2.09]
I too plan on educating beforehand. Now if Billy came home and told me his gf was pregnant, I would immediately call the girl's parents and ask to meet with them. After that...well drawing a blank there. I do know one thing for sure. If she decided to keep the baby, I would make darn sure the baby gets the proper love and support from his/her daddy and daddy's family. Also, I would make sure the girl knows that this baby is not just hers, but my son's also and he will have appropriate parental rights no matter where the relationship goes.
Of course this will be done after I wake up from fainting on the floor after a fit of hysteria.
So I was never informed by my parents but luckily had enough common sense to know how to get birth control on my own. First I would try and teach my girls to try and wait but I will make sure they know how birth control works and where they can get it. I was 17 when I started having sex and there was no talking me out of it.
Now if one came to me and said they were pregnant I would make sure they know all of there options were And try to het them to do what was best for the baby