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August 22nd, 2011, 04:42 AM
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My baby sitter first told me that she was moving and then that didn't happen so I gave her the benefit of the doubt and let her stay.

Well I get a face book message on Friday while I am working stating that I am taking advantage of her by not paying her enough,(she set the $ amount not me), feed and dress the kids, spend time with them as much as her own. Umm isn't that part of watching the kids. She offered to come to my house not me so it isn't my fault you got kicked out of your current house and now have to drive further.

So she basically quit on me. I was going to fire her once I had another person.

She told me she would stay until I found someone but I got another face book message yesterday (Sunday) that she was starting work with her grandfather and won't watch my kids.

So she basically left hung and dry. What happened if I didn't get the message on my phone yesterday I would have been waiting this morning for her and she wouldn't have showed.

No offense to any young mothers here but this is the last time I get someone that is only 21 years of age to watch my kids. Just shows her maturity level that she can not call me and has to do everything through face book.

She knew I was upset when she did it the last time., I guess she can't live and learn.

Thanks if you got this far. I just needed to get it out.
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August 22nd, 2011, 06:35 AM
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Very, very irresponsible of her. She sounds very child-like and unable to deal with confrontation, to have to do all that through FaceBook.

Even at 21, I would never have dreamed of quitting on someone like that. I have always given a month, if I know I am going to have to leave a job. I feel like especially with childcare, the more time the parents have to find someone else, the better. I even "trained" my replacement at one of my nanny jobs...which worked out great for transitioning.

Have you figured out what to do yet? I mean, you are sorta stuck with no childcare and a job. Just wondering if you have good back-up or if you are scrambling to find someone to care for the kids? I hope that things work out better with a new sitter. There is such a wide variety of caregivers out there, I hope you don't let her ruin a possibly good situation with someone who might be young as well.
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August 22nd, 2011, 07:22 AM
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Thanks for the response. She is being very childish I have tried calling her so we can talk like adults and she ignores me and sends me right to voicemail.

We are scrambling I have no one to watch the kids. Today my FIL is watching the kids but that is it.
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August 22nd, 2011, 07:34 AM
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thats just wrong. And I have to say you can't blame her age. I started babysitting for 2 kids when I was 15, it led to me being a full time nanny for them and their new sister the following year when I dropped out of school to get my diploma early. Just 16. I nannied for them for 3 years. When I left them it was with a MONTH's notice. Yet, when my 30 something y/o sitter was watching Thomas when I was in school full time she just called me one morning, 10 minutes before I was supposed to be there saying not to bring him and that with me paying her so little she couldn't do it any more-like with your situation, she set the price.

Anyway, it sucks you have to deal with this right now. Seeing as she is a mother herself, she should have acted with some sort of decency and shown you respect. I hope you are able to find someone/something trustworthy quickly.

Sorry if I just seemed like a snot. I'm a bit sensitive when it comes to being assumptions about young women.
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August 22nd, 2011, 07:42 AM
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Nicole and Ashley, I didn't mean it in any way to offend any of you guys. I was just pissed and it came out. I know everyone is different and not all would just leave me hanging.

Sorry if I offended you I didn't mean to do that.
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August 22nd, 2011, 08:21 AM
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no not at all, like I said I'm just sensitive! It was wrong, and I'd be pissed as well. When you take a job watching someone's children, you need to be responsible and treat those children like your own. Plain and simple. And if you need to stop, you do it like you would at any other job.
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August 22nd, 2011, 09:28 AM
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okay thanks Nicole.
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I'm sorry Cathy. I'd have fired her long ago, just didn't get a good vibe about her.
I was a young Mom, and would never have done that. I watched kids all the time. I treated those kids just like I would my own.
However, after being older now.. I can see how that behavior that she has shown is childish. 10 years from now she probably wouldn't handle the situation like that. You kind of learn how o handle situations more appropriately with age. So I don't think her young age has any effect on her parenting skills or nanny'ing skills but it definitely does with her over all maturity level.
I hope you find someone you can trust and that is dependable. If you were closer, I'd watch them for you!
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I would be pissed too so irresponsible and not even to talk to you and send you a fb message
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I would have been really mad too. She was wrong to screw you over like that. I'll laugh if she ever has anyone call you for a recommendation for her. I hope you can find someone else soon.
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August 22nd, 2011, 12:21 PM
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Thanks Ladies.

Paula I wish we were closer. I think Breana and Emily would get a long well.
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I would have been really mad too. She was wrong to screw you over like that. I'll laugh if she ever has anyone call you for a recommendation for her. I hope you can find someone else soon.
This made me giggle.
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August 23rd, 2011, 05:17 AM
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I thought the same thing but I highly doubt she will have someone call me
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August 23rd, 2011, 05:25 AM
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I found someone that we like and I am 100% sure it will work.
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August 23rd, 2011, 05:55 AM
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I'm glad you found someone!!

I know how stressful finding new childcare can be. Echo daycare provider decided that she wouldn't take her for this year, but didn't tell me until I called to ask for her provider # to fill out an application for a childcare grant. Luckily I had plenty of time before school started, but I couldn't find one before the grant app was due. I really could have used that extra money too.

On a side note, I like her new provider WAY better!
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August 23rd, 2011, 06:11 AM
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Glad you like Echo's provider better.
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I am so glad you found someone so quickly!!!
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August 23rd, 2011, 10:44 AM
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Awesome that you found someone!!!

And I wanted to add that you, in NO way, offended me with the age remark. I will fully admit that plenty of young folks are not capable of handling adult relationships or responsibilities. Which is sad, but the age of responsibility is increasing across the board and I can certainly understand where her age had a role in that drama. She was acting like a teenager!! Where some folks never act like teenagers (even when they are), some folks can't seem to leave that stage behind (I know 30-something moms who are still in that realm...which is certainly sad).

But I totally got where you were coming from and that it was a huge frustration point for you that she treated you that way. And seriously...ignoring your phone calls??? That is like a pre-teen! I hope your new person works out so much better
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August 23rd, 2011, 12:28 PM
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Thanks. I just wanted to make sure that no one was offended.
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August 23rd, 2011, 01:04 PM
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Wow.. I can't imagine the stress you had.. I'm so happy you found someone else to watch your children..

I sometimes have to scramble to find someone to watch Adriana when schools shut down for snow days.. I get a bit stressed seeing if there's a space availible at the center A.J goes too for my daughter.. But that's nothing compared to what you went though.. I can't even imagine..
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