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So at play group there are several moms that have toddlers all with in a few months of Elise and one was talking about how they started doing timeouts her daughter is two months younger than Elise
I guess she went in her room and spilled toys and picked up half of them but them refused to pick up the rest so she got a time out
I know not all of us do timeouts yet but would you give a time out for that am I just a big softy I onl give time outs right now when she does things that can hurt herself or others like hitting or thowing things that can hurt. All that being said Elise is well behaved most of the time I lucked out with her
So I guess the question do you give time outs and what do you give them for?
We give them. Lucy gets maybe a minute at this stage and only for really major stuff after a warning.
If she hits Jas, she gets told no and that she does it again she'll go to time out. If she does it again, she gets put into time out. She's pretty good about it and sits there for the whole time. We then tell her why she went to time out and that's it not nice to hit. She then has to go say sorry (hugs at this age) to Jasmine. Then we drop it.
As she gets closer to two the time will extend a little until it is 2min by the time she's just over 2. From then on we do 1min per year of age. Jas right now gets 5min since she's close enough to five and fully understands time outs.
I think I can count on one hand the number of times I've actually had to put either of them into time out in the last few months. Just the warning seems to be enough. I think Lucy gets it from seeing us follow through with it with Jasmine.
We started a few weeks ago.... she stands in the corner after shes been told no, when it is something really naughty or something she will hurt herself/others doing.
At first we had to stand right there and remind her every time she turned around, but now she knows the drill and will walk to the same corner when we tell her to go, and stay there till we tell her to come out.
After about a minute, we tell her she can come out and to come talk to us - and we then explain why she was in the corner in timeout, and why its not ok to do that. then we tell her we love her and tell her to go play.
Last edited by ** Tay **; August 24th, 2011 at 01:40 PM.
Ok I was just wondering, I would never say anything because a time out doesn't hurt the kid at all but if I got my 20 month old to pick up half the toys I would consider that a win
And Elise won't sit there on her own yet either so we still sit there with her and make her stay but she gets the point and we olymake her stay a minute and then explain in simple terms what she did wrong and tell her we love her
We started time outs really early so she knows the routine. She gets 1minute and its going up to 2 soon after her birthday. We are using them more now because we have started the hitting phase. She gets a warning then if she continues she is put in time out. After we explain and then hugs and off she goes.
I kinda think that getting a time out for not picking up the rest of the toys is a bit over-the-top. But that is me being a softy too. Now, if my kid threw a toy at me instead of picking it up...that would call for a time out. But I don't expect that Liam will pick up *all* of the toys he gets out. As long as he helps, I consider it a huge accomplishment.
We do time outs...but I sit and hold him (not struggling). He gets scolded (for hitting, throwing things at people, pulling Julia's hair, or being mean to the dogs) and I sit with him on the dining room chair for a minute or two. I tell him that he can not get down to play and that mommy doesn't like that behavior. He is generally a good kid and gets his feelings hurt easily, so this form of time out works for him. He will cry for a couple seconds, I tell him to calm himself down (which he generally does) and then we go off and play some more. For now it works. I am sure things will change soon enough. But being pretty sensitive, I don't want him to think I am rejecting him, just his behavior.
yes Catie has gotten time outs. I usually send her to her crib for a couple of minutes. She in return throws everything out of her crib, knocks everyone off the dresser that's by her bed and jumps up and down screaming.
She's gotten time outs for hitting, pulling hair, and biting me or her sisters. She's also gotten it for throwing/dumping food and drinks on the floor.
Chris mom to 4 girls: Ashleigh, Madisyn, Emely, & Cathryn
I gave them to Hugo starting when he was younger than Sergio and it worked well, but they don't seem to be what Sergio really needs. Sergio only acts up when he can't have something he wants or he's being made to do something he doesn't want. The consequence is removal from the situation or forcing to go through with whatever it is he didn't want to do and a reward after doing it. He has different issues/triggers so far than Hugo, but most of it is typical toddler stuff and not willful and doesn't warrant a time-out. He doesn't hit or anything like that. His worst fault is taking off his clothes at night when he's not supposed to. (which has the consequence of just having to put them back on)