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DH and I are trying to work out the annual budget and figure out what unfun things we have to do (garage roof), things we should do (furnace cleaning), and then some fun things we want to do (zoo trip.)
We think we need to have a week long vacation that includes James this year, especially since I hope to get pregnant this spring, so it will be a while potentially before we'll be able to easily do it again. We've still got going to either the in-laws house in FL or timeshare in Mexico on the table, but we think the costs are just going to be too high with airfare AND eating/sight seeing.
If those don't work out, we're thinking about doing a week long cabin rental locally at a lake with another family over the summer. I put a feeler out to our friends who came over for NYE to see what they think. They've got a little girl a few months younger than James and we really enjoy hanging out with them. If they aren't up for it, we have one other couple with a little girl around a little more than a year older than James we think we'd have a blast with.
(I don't think we'd want to do this type of thing with just us- it isn't far enough out of the norm to feel like something exciting and different for a vacation. I mean really, if we're just hanging out with ourselves and still cooking all meals and doing all the child entertaining with just a lake to add in and then a whole new place to get the hang of, it sounds like more work than fun and we should just stay home!)
I just worry that the idea of hanging out with another family for a week is actually only fun in theory, and that in actuality it is complicated and can mess up a friendship. DH and I took a very quick look at places to get an idea of cost, and we'd look for either a 3 or 4 BR place so that each couple has a room and then the kids can either share or have their own space. We'd want to be lakeside so swimming entertainment is easy-peasy at our fingertips. Both families enjoy good food and drink, and I think we'd do well keeping costs normal- we wouldn't try to one up or go overboard or anything like that. And I love the idea of the kids having each other to play with and having more options for people breaking off for mini-fun, like moms and kids go canoeing, each couple gets a date night, the dads go for a hike with the kids, etc.
Has anyone done this type of vacation with kids around our age? How'd it go? Was this the first time you tried to make it work with non-relatives, or was it already an established group that had hung out together before kids?
We have done this twice with our best friends. We are up each others butts all the time anyway because she is the only other SAHM in my group of friends, and our DHs were college roommates. They're over here every Friday night. The first time we rented a cabin out in the Texas hill country and the second time we all went camping together. You're right that it's not like a normal vacation, there is a ton more work involved.
I will say that I am kind of the planner of the group. Who is taking care of which meals, hashing out what they're going to be (so that we don't have repeats, and can allocate resources effectively), what do we want to do on what days, etc. You really need a planner and really there should only be one. The maker and keeper of reservations and lists.
It is an interesting experience. It is a bit less relaxing because you never fully let down your hair when there are a bunch of other people with you. But it enables you to take a better vacation than you could have managed on your own.
We went to Maui with Ethan's aunt, uncle, and their almost one year old daughter in May. (We are all the same age... just funny generations in DH's fam.) It was great. Of course, we are very very used to each other... they are family. But it worked wonderfully. Each couple got a date night, the kids hung out with each other, it was a win win situation. I'd do it again in a heartbeat!
Never done it. I would totally do it once our kids were older. Right now, day trips or weekend trips are all that will happen for "fun" since I want to actually relax on vacation and my kids would wear me out more right now.
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We rented a cabin last winter for two nights with 5 other couples in a three bedroom too. It was busy the men skied the first dat women the next. We took turns on dinners. It was busy and crazy but fun. I think I rather do one couple nex time.