[Stefanie1023]

I guess it's more whining than anything, but does anyone have any advice for what to do with incessant whining. My almost 2 year old whines a lot, as she has for several months, but now it's every day for longer periods of time. It takes the smallest things to set her off, for instance if she can't get her toy box open, or figure out how to work a certain toy, she just starts up. If she asks for milk and she's already had her limit for the day she flips out. I'm getting to my wit's end with her. I put her in her room yesterday and she just continued to whine. I went in to talk to her calmly about her behavior and she just kept it up. I try to use a calm quiet voice with her but it does nothing, and I've tried ignoring it and it doesn't help. I have a new baby and I'm sure that doesn't help, but she is very nice and gentle with the baby and doesn't show any animosity towards me. Is this just 2 year old behavior??

[dream2bemommy22]

Some of it is the age, some of it could be the new baby ( even though she doesnt show animosity towards him, doesnt mean she isnt affected by his presence)

I dont have this problem with DS, but with DD i did. We just made sure not to give in when she whined, until she asked for it in a correct manor or stopped the whining. We always informed her of the correct way to ask for things.

She will eventually realize that whining will get her nowhere and begin to ask for things more as she can vocalize it better, until then, keep working with her to talk like a big girl, use her words, ect.

Regression is normal after a new baby is in the house, but as long as you keep reminding her how to ask for things in a proper way, she will start to catch on.

[yashobo]

Stephanie: you are definitely not alone. Lolu does the same here although she does cut it out when I tell her to. Also, I make sure I redirect her and encourage her to ask by saying please instead of whining. She does it more with her dad because he asks her what is wrong and pays her attention when she whines. Overall, hers is not as overwhelming but it definitely came with age 2. I know if I have to deal with a baby and her whining I'll probably lose my mind. I hope they all grow out of it soon.

[Stefanie1023]

Thanks for the advice!! I try to ignore it, but a lot of times end up coddling her too much which just shows her attention. She has been a lot better for the past few days, but before we went out of town for Thanksgiving last week, it was daily and just very frequent. It's definitely tough, but I try to include her in things involving the baby, but sometimes she just isn't interested. She loves her little sister and is very affectionate so that I am thankful for! I think it I make a stronger effort to ignore it then she will realize she won't get anything by whining. I guess it's called the terrible two's for a reason!!

[bmarti07]

HI there!

I think some of it is age related but I usually tell Caroline "I can't understand you when you're whining" and have her repeat what she wants. Sometimes it works...sometimes not!