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July 30th, 2009, 03:45 PM
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My SO told his mom today! He called her, and said "Well I have some good news!" she said "what?". He said "We're having another baby!!". She says "George! I've got so much on my mind right now, don't piss me off!". He says "What would us expecting a baby have to do with what you have on your mind? And why would it make you made?!?!". She says "I have to GO!", and then hung up on him!

So, I will not be speaking to her!!!!!! I could use about five really good swear words right now! And probably make up a few new ones, I'm so mad!!!!!!!! Everyone else, though surprised by us wanting another after swearing off anymore, gave us their warm wishes and congrats. We don't depend on this woman one bit!! She owes us $1000.00, for almost a year now, and just called to see if SO would cosign for a loan for her, again!! Huh!! One time I mentioned her son saying he wanted another, just to "feel" her out, and she said "you guys can't afford another one". WHAT??? We aren't getting public assistance, pay all our bills on time, have everything we need, with a lil left over on the side. With the exception of her watching the kids once every two months, she doesn't help us! The number of kids we have, has ZERO effect on her! Or at least it shouldn't! That's it!!! I've written her off. If she doesn't come up with an apology, I will NOT be speaking to her!! I'm tired of letting her walk all over me!

FYI..There's more incidents that have led up to this point. My DD's Godparents threw a surprise baby shower for me, when prego with our DD. When they called to involve my MIL, she told them she was too embarrassed to go cause we weren't married. This coming from the lady who is divorced, and remarried. A BIG no no, in the Greek community!!
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Karen (34), mom to five (soon six) beautiful children....DS (15), DD (7), DS (6), DS (2), DD (5mos) and expecting baby #6 late May 2014!!!*Please do not mention on FB*




Pregnancy stats for baby #6, due late May 2014:
BFP (approx) 8dpo
(approx) 10dpo= HCG-31
(approx) 12dpo= HCG-123
(doubling time of 22.73 hours!!! )
8wk u/s appt scheduled for Oct. 14th


Prgnancy stats from baby #5:
13dpo= HCG-120, P4-20.5
19dpo= HCG-1427, (P4 was not taken again)
Doubling time = 40.31hrs
27dpo= HCG-19,935
Doubling = 50.47hrs (from 19dpo to 27dpo)
First doc appt & u/s scheduled for Sept 10th


pregnancy stats from baby #4:
12dpo= HCG 112
15dpo= HCG 586
Doubling time= 30.16


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July 30th, 2009, 08:28 PM
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Aw honey I'm so sorry. That sux so bad to have someone who should be an important part of your life be so unsupportive and just downright b****y. I hope everything works out for you guys. Hugs.
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July 30th, 2009, 09:13 PM
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Wow. You were right that it was going to be "interesting" when she found out! I'm sorry she reacted so horribly
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July 31st, 2009, 03:47 AM
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I'm so sorry that she reacted like that but I guess you really know her because that is kind of what you were expecting (not that it still doesn't piss you off)!

It just sucks that she is so unsupportive and gives you guys a hard time!!
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July 31st, 2009, 04:52 AM
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I doesn't matter what other people think. What matters is that you and your SO are happy.
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July 31st, 2009, 06:40 AM
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Thank you all for your support!!! It's amazing how people I've never met, face to face, are more supportive than my children's grandmother! So be it! I'm glad I've made some new great friends, who listen, and who I can listen to!!!

The only good thing, now that the cat is outta the bag with her, is now I can start telling the extended family! The majority of his family is VERY sweet and supportive!! I can't wait to tell them!!
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Karen (34), mom to five (soon six) beautiful children....DS (15), DD (7), DS (6), DS (2), DD (5mos) and expecting baby #6 late May 2014!!!*Please do not mention on FB*




Pregnancy stats for baby #6, due late May 2014:
BFP (approx) 8dpo
(approx) 10dpo= HCG-31
(approx) 12dpo= HCG-123
(doubling time of 22.73 hours!!! )
8wk u/s appt scheduled for Oct. 14th


Prgnancy stats from baby #5:
13dpo= HCG-120, P4-20.5
19dpo= HCG-1427, (P4 was not taken again)
Doubling time = 40.31hrs
27dpo= HCG-19,935
Doubling = 50.47hrs (from 19dpo to 27dpo)
First doc appt & u/s scheduled for Sept 10th


pregnancy stats from baby #4:
12dpo= HCG 112
15dpo= HCG 586
Doubling time= 30.16


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July 31st, 2009, 06:44 AM
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I'm so sorry hun! That is a horrible way to react to the news!
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July 31st, 2009, 06:46 AM
Baby #6 EDD 5/25/14
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Thank you Christine!
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Karen (34), mom to five (soon six) beautiful children....DS (15), DD (7), DS (6), DS (2), DD (5mos) and expecting baby #6 late May 2014!!!*Please do not mention on FB*




Pregnancy stats for baby #6, due late May 2014:
BFP (approx) 8dpo
(approx) 10dpo= HCG-31
(approx) 12dpo= HCG-123
(doubling time of 22.73 hours!!! )
8wk u/s appt scheduled for Oct. 14th


Prgnancy stats from baby #5:
13dpo= HCG-120, P4-20.5
19dpo= HCG-1427, (P4 was not taken again)
Doubling time = 40.31hrs
27dpo= HCG-19,935
Doubling = 50.47hrs (from 19dpo to 27dpo)
First doc appt & u/s scheduled for Sept 10th


pregnancy stats from baby #4:
12dpo= HCG 112
15dpo= HCG 586
Doubling time= 30.16


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July 31st, 2009, 11:50 AM
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What a bat!

I'm sorry she's ignorant. I hope George steps up and defend you (Matt gets torn and I just want to punch him when he acts like that).

It's none of her buisness. If she wants to act like that---go ahead...but she can't complain if come the holidays, you "skip" over her house...

I hope she does apologize though...and sends you a doz. roses too....maybe even a certificate to a spa...b/c all her caddy bullsh$t has caused you to become quite tense and a good backrub would fix it.
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July 31st, 2009, 12:09 PM
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The nerve!!! Good thing she was on the phone and not in person...one of you probably would have socked her! And you would have had a darn good reason too! I'm so sorry you have to put up with this!!! BIG HUGS Karen!!! I do hope she appologizes, but still, I'm sure it can't make up for such a reaction. And like you said, what does it have to do with her as long as your family is fed, clothed, loved and has a roof over their head, right? All she needs to worry about is being a good grandmother...so she needs to start studying up! WOW! I'm so pissed for you!!! Honey, you're allowed to vent here all you want!!! Hope the rest of your day goes much better!!! `
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July 31st, 2009, 05:21 PM
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Thank you Lisa and Ms. Shoe addict! George understands why I'm upset, and is mad too. Unfortunately, he's never backed me up when I've wanted to say something to her. It amazing how he protects her at my expense!!! Not this time though!! I will be a single mom, in a studio apartment, before I allow that woman to ever get away with say anything rude to me again! I'm glad he told her, without me there!!

Ugh! All I know is at some point I have to get over this, enough to be done with it. I think what's bothering me is that my mom passed away a year ago, and I was hoping his mom would be there for me sometimes. Especially now that I'm expecting another baby. I'm scared!!! I know i can do it, but just a lil worried about not having my mom's help, love, and support around. We shall see. I'm pretty tough, so things should be fine!

Thanks again for helping me talk through this, and for ranting and raving with me!! lol! You girls are the best!!
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Karen (34), mom to five (soon six) beautiful children....DS (15), DD (7), DS (6), DS (2), DD (5mos) and expecting baby #6 late May 2014!!!*Please do not mention on FB*




Pregnancy stats for baby #6, due late May 2014:
BFP (approx) 8dpo
(approx) 10dpo= HCG-31
(approx) 12dpo= HCG-123
(doubling time of 22.73 hours!!! )
8wk u/s appt scheduled for Oct. 14th


Prgnancy stats from baby #5:
13dpo= HCG-120, P4-20.5
19dpo= HCG-1427, (P4 was not taken again)
Doubling time = 40.31hrs
27dpo= HCG-19,935
Doubling = 50.47hrs (from 19dpo to 27dpo)
First doc appt & u/s scheduled for Sept 10th


pregnancy stats from baby #4:
12dpo= HCG 112
15dpo= HCG 586
Doubling time= 30.16


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August 2nd, 2009, 01:22 PM
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That is so frustrating, and rude!!!! I am so sorry she can't be excited for you!
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August 2nd, 2009, 02:05 PM
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Im sorry you have to deal with this. Just try and sit back and not thinking about the neg things. I am soo happy for you! I hope that congrats made you feel a lil bit better...
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August 2nd, 2009, 03:40 PM
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Wow that stinks that she was being like that.. I have been down that road with my MIL with the baby that we lost, so I am holding off telling them right now... I totally know how you feel, but unfortunately I can't just brush mine off cause I love my FIL... I think maybe she was just having a bad day... You are right though she does owe you a nice apology.. HUGS hun..
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August 2nd, 2009, 03:55 PM
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Thanks ladies!

She called SO yesterday, and he told her that we can't make it to the Baptism (she's baptizing her SIL's grandson). He told her that he can't take off work now cause they're short staffed and it's too much for me to go by myself. She tells him that I should drop the kids off by SO's father and his wife. SO says that it's too far outta the way, and not happening! He asked her what she called for, and she said she forgot. He had to let her go cause he was at work.

I got mad at him and said that he shouldn't tell her that it's too much for me to take the kids to function! And he should've told her I don't want to go now because I'm tired of being disrespected and then biting my tongue. He said he didn't want to get involved. Well, as far as I'm concerned, she already involved him with her ignorant reaction about us expecting. Ugh! NO FREAKING SUPPORT!!
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Karen (34), mom to five (soon six) beautiful children....DS (15), DD (7), DS (6), DS (2), DD (5mos) and expecting baby #6 late May 2014!!!*Please do not mention on FB*




Pregnancy stats for baby #6, due late May 2014:
BFP (approx) 8dpo
(approx) 10dpo= HCG-31
(approx) 12dpo= HCG-123
(doubling time of 22.73 hours!!! )
8wk u/s appt scheduled for Oct. 14th


Prgnancy stats from baby #5:
13dpo= HCG-120, P4-20.5
19dpo= HCG-1427, (P4 was not taken again)
Doubling time = 40.31hrs
27dpo= HCG-19,935
Doubling = 50.47hrs (from 19dpo to 27dpo)
First doc appt & u/s scheduled for Sept 10th


pregnancy stats from baby #4:
12dpo= HCG 112
15dpo= HCG 586
Doubling time= 30.16


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August 3rd, 2009, 04:35 AM
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Pretty tough situation! I'm so sorry it has to be that way! But we're here for you whenever you need us! And no matter what, I'm sure your family will be happy and healthy with or without her support. I just wish you felt that you and SO were on the same side of this issue...it must be very hard for both of you! Big hugs!!!!
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August 3rd, 2009, 06:06 AM
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Ugh!!! I hate it when men cannot stand up to their mothers!!! I'm sorry hun. That's one thing about greek MILs - they can be VERY overbearing!
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