[jstroube]

Just a little background because I was a little vague while being upset. I have had four miscarraiges in the last ten years, the last two in the last 18mos. One @ 7 weeks the other @ 13 weeks. Unknown reason.

Also my daughter was on time, but my son was born @ 37wks 5dys. My water broke @ 37wks 2dys.

So I finally got in for my first appt., yesterday. She says my EDD is 3/7/2010. That makes me 13wks and 4 days! Farther along than I thought. Which is good. The baby's heart rate was 173!! I was very excited to hear that. But I am still unnerved and anxious. Also by this time I usually gain about ten pounds and when they weighed me I had lost three. She put me on zofran for morning sickness. It was strange to hear her say Zofran was "da bomb".

We had a long discussion about my history and she told me I would be EXTREMELY lucky to make it to 37wks. She said that at 24wks when the baby is viable they want to put me on Terbutaline to prevent pre-term labor. I guess hearing the N.P. say that so early on scares the pants off me.

I am pretty upset because I feel like my body just gives out when I am pregnant. Of course I need to remember that the baby is great and healthy, but at the same time I am scared beyond belief that my uterus is going to give out. It also sucked to hear her say that my DH and I could NOT be intimate. Because I have such an irritable uterus, she told him that by us doing that it was basically forcing a Charlie Horse in my uterus and could cause me to start contracting.

She was also concerned that on the U/S I had in the ER on the 12th, there was a small subchreonic hemorrage (sp?) meaning a small bleed in the uterus which was not connected to the placenta. This is REALLY unnerving considering my history of Angels.

I also have sciatica which she said will get worse, WOO HOO!! So I am confined to the couch and bed per DH's orders and the Dr. said depending on my level of comfort she will likely put me on disability after my next appt. on Sept. 28th. I have my NT test tomorrow so hopefully that goes well.

Thanks for letting me shed a couple tears and worries.

[happymom2Logan]

All you can do is take at a day at a time.... as long as the news is good I wouldn't think that far ahead, it will just add stress though i'm sure it'll be hard to not too.

[szczepanski]

Lots and lots of hugs to you.

As scary as it all is to take in, you should be relieved that they are being as proactive as they can be to keep both you and baby safe. Try to just take each week as you can.

I wouldn't worry about the weight loss or weight gain - every pregnancy is different! I'm pretty sure I still haven't gained any weight (I'm also overweight too) so its not horrible to have lost 3 lbs. I'm sure you will make it up as the weeks progress!

[3and_justme]

Be strong & thanks goodness they are being precautious, better to know these things upfront & be prepared then to take any chances w/so much at stake. best wishes!

(((HUGS))) Can you fill me in on your history? How early were your other kids? Do you need a curlege (sp? lol) Every day you are pregnant is great for your baby, so try to focus on "today I am pregnant, and all is well". Also, have you ever read "the secret"?

Put to the universe that your baby WILL stay in there until full term. Don't doubt it. If you find yourself doubting it, reaffirm that your baby WILL be full term, your pregnancy WILL be normal and uneventful. Picture it. Believe it. I do believe there is truth in this thinking, as long as you believe it. It's not easy, I know. I am trying to do this with my blood pressure and my antibodies. I have a lot of doubt stemming from fear. But I just try to cross out the negative thoughts with positive ones. GL!

Lisa

[Ryleeroo]

Just wanted to say Sorry stay strong and try not to stress yourself out! I dont know much about what your going thru, but want to give your support!

[leaz]

Well, we can be SCH buddies because I've got the same thing! Scary huh!
I must have missed some previous post of yours about WHY they don't think that you'll carry to term? What leads them to believe that? Also, remember that they HAVE to tell you the worst of the worst - mostly to cover their booties in case something happens you can't come back and say you weren't told. That's what I think anyway. Remember too that the worst of the worst doesn't happen often!!!!

[highriskmommy]

Big hugs to you!!!

I am also in a simular situation. All of my issues come from my bad cervix though. I will be getting my cerclage in a few weeks to help keep my cervix closed so I can stay pregnant. I will be on besrest following the cerclage untill about 36 weeks. At 16 weeks I will be starting the P17 shots to help with contractions and if it doesnt work I will be put on something else. And no sex for me either.

I am wondering if a cerclage maybe an option for you? Maybe you could talk to your Dr about it. It sounds like most of your troubles are with your uterus but a cerclage could be extra back up to keep you from dilating.

Take things one day at a time. Set small goals. For me my 13 week cerclage is my first goal and then 21w3d is my second because thats when I lost my son. 24 weeks will be my third because at that point the baby can possibly survive outside of me. Every week after 24 is also a goal because the baby has even greater odd's.

Stay stronge momma and we are here for you!

[jjjmommy]

It can be so scary. I also have PTL issues, but they don't know why. With my daughter I was 3 cm dilated at 24 weeks. It was bedrest from there on and the best news that I can tell you is that she ended up not coming until 42 weeks, LOL! On another side not, I grew up in Antioch all my life and lived there until I was 19 which is just a couple towns over from you. Small World!

[PterodactylMommy]

That is a crazy Dr. apt. I am glad that your baby is fine though! Seems like you have a good plan set in place though and your little bean will prevail!!!

[jstroube]

Originally Posted by morebluethanpink

(((HUGS))) Can you fill me in on your history? How early were your other kids? Do you need a curlege (sp? lol) Every day you are pregnant is great for your baby, so try to focus on "today I am pregnant, and all is well". Also, have you ever read "the secret"?

Put to the universe that your baby WILL stay in there until full term. Don't doubt it. If you find yourself doubting it, reaffirm that your baby WILL be full term, your pregnancy WILL be normal and uneventful. Picture it. Believe it. I do believe there is truth in this thinking, as long as you believe it. It's not easy, I know. I am trying to do this with my blood pressure and my antibodies. I have a lot of doubt stemming from fear. But I just try to cross out the negative thoughts with positive ones. GL!

Lisa

They have not said anything about cerglage (sp?) I normally can keep my cervix closed. It is my uterus that does not tolerate pregnancy well and it seems to get worse with each pregnancy. I had p/t labor w/ my son @ 32 wks. There was no stopping it when I went into labor @ 37wks 5dys.

Thank you for the encouragement. My MIL said the same exact thing to me. Love her!

Originally Posted by leaz

Well, we can be SCH buddies because I've got the same thing! Scary huh!
I must have missed some previous post of yours about WHY they don't think that you'll carry to term? What leads them to believe that? Also, remember that they HAVE to tell you the worst of the worst - mostly to cover their booties in case something happens you can't come back and say you weren't told. That's what I think anyway. Remember too that the worst of the worst doesn't happen often!!!!

I added a little bit of an edit to the original post. I have pre-term labor issues mainly. My uterus is constantly contracting and mostly braxton hicks, but my son tried to come out at 32 wks the first time. I am really glad she was super straight with me. I would rather know and completely be upset for a few hours than not really know whats going on and be suprised down the road and devastated.

[SingingMama]

I will pray for you.

Do you actually dialate when you contract? In some of my pregnancies my uterus is irritable. With my fifth baby it was DEFINITELY irritable. I contracted all the time. But I went in a few times and I was never acually dialating so I started ignoring them completely. I went in one time at 31 weeks. I had been contracting regularly for over 24 hours and they started getting closer together, so I went in. The moniter picked it up, and it was every 2-3 minutes. But my cervix didn't change and the ffn came back negative. They said to "come back if they become less than 5 minutes apart". What do you DO with that information, when they SEE you're contracting every 2 minutes???? So I decided to ignore them.

I went in at 33 weeks beause I failed a nst so I was sent to l/d. The nurse was like, "are you contracting?" I said "no" because everyone else ignores them, so why acknowledge them? She hooks me up to the moniter and in the time she was asking the other "basic" questions I had about 5 contractions. She said, "OMG! Do you feel those?!" I said yes. She said, "you said you weren't contracting! OMG you shouldn't be having this! It's too early to have your baby!" I said, "eh, no one else is worried, so I give up."

Sure enough, nothing came of it. They stripped my membranes at 37 weeks, nada. Induced me at 38 weeks, and it took 7.5 HOURS! That kid did NOT want to come out! lol

Lisa

[LovingMyBoys]

Everything crossed that although you have been given this news, that this pregnancy is long an uneventful for you. I think you should ask about the cerclage for sure though.