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Everyone always has such a different opinion on their inlaws. Do you get along with yours? Do you tolerate them?
I looooooooooooove my MIL. I call her Mom - I actually just got off the phone with her, we just talked for an hour. I love hanging out with her, I love how she shares her opinions without being pushy or overbearing. I couldn't have lucked out with a better MIL. DH's family is the only family I have up here and I am so thankful that I get along with everyone. She is also a NICU nurse (almost 26 years), so ANY little baby question I have, she is the expert. I love that I will have that reassurance and she would get back to me a lot faster than the pediatrician would!
My only complaint is I always have to invite her to do stuff.....I figure that she should know that she is always welcome to stop by when she is town or be included on things! I actually had to tell her that when the baby is here - as long as she calls ahead of time so I can put clothes on, she is more than welcome to come. I actually made her promise that she will come 1 day every week/2 weeks to see Nolan and allow me to shower, do laundry, etc. Knowing that I will for sure have a nap time will be so great.
True story - when I went to look at wedding dresses, I invited her. The woman took us into the room to try on gowns and told me to take off my clothes and put a dress on. I looked at her and said "Just as an FYI....that isn't my mom, that is my future MIL" and the woman was like "OMG! You guys are like mother and daughter!". Hahaha. So that is a little joke between us now - we are closer since she got to see my underwear, .
Can't stand my MIL and the rest of the in laws are nothing to bark about either.
I was just on my death bed, could not watch my 2 year old son due to blinding migraine and horrible coughing/puking fits and my SIL wouldnt come out to watch him. She is only 5 minutes away.
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Luckily DH and I both enjoy our in-laws. Like anyone, they have their quirks at time, but we feel fortunate to both marry into families that are loving and care about us and our LO(s). I don't think I could deal with all the drama that usually occurs in families where people don't get along! I don't deal well with confrontation.
I also have a very close relationship with my MIL! She is just a lot of fun. She is very supportive and loving...she truly seems to appreciate me as a wife for her son, and that it the biggest compliment I can receive. Since my family were always formula feeders, she was my biggest nursing supporter also!
she is also beautiful, as are my two SIL's, who I also love! They are DH's younger sisters...they are 3 and 5 years younger than us!
We are also really close to DH's Grandparents...we visit them twice a month and his Grandma is truly like a real FRIEND to me. I've told her things I've never really told anything else.
My in-laws are wonderful!!! My DH came from a really great family of nice and caring people and I am definitely lucky. I don't think I am quite as close with them as what you are Heather but we are definitely a family. They live about an hour away and will come in town any time we need them to babysit Collin. They are thrilled to have another grand baby on the way too. I am definitely lucky in that department.
Oh my MIL is the salt of the earth, center of the universe and master of all things! No one even poops without her say so and she herself poops giant gold bricks.
Seriously shes the epitomy of BAD overbearing, pushy, intrusive, cranky, emotional, drama queen MILs. OMG. It hurts to interact with her. I so so so so hate any kind of family drama and SHE always is buried six feet under in family drama. Why? She picks fights, picks sides, talks behind backs and causes most of it herself. On top of that she wants to run Ivy's life and hates me because I won't let her be the mom. Shes mean, manipulative, and turns on the crocodile tears to get her way. Additionally she exagerates to the point of making stuff up just to get attention(for example she found out she had sleep apnea and then went around telling everyone she was dying) and she is on and off addicted to various pills and painkillers (seriously, when I had my c-section with Ivy 14 of my pills went mysteriously missing... and I needed them, it was one day after I got home). Then no one is as important or is in as much pain as she is (when I asked about the pills she said "pfft, you only had a c-section. I had a hysterectomy 12 years ago, it was nothing, not painful at all quit being a baby. I actually needed those pills more than you because I hurt my ankle on your stairs").
OK I had better stop there. Needless to say she is kind of a crazy b****. So to answer, NO we don't get along. I pretty much hate her.
I have known my inlaws my entire life. But when you have their first and only grandchild, it's a new way of knowing them LOL. They are great people and I love them, but I'm glad they are 3 hours away. If you know what I mean?
For the most part I love my in laws...it took some time because my DH and I had only been together for 2 months when we got married and so they kinda thought it was to fast but now that I am trying to get them to like me without actually making it known to them that I am trying if that makes sense that it is working and while this will be their 2nd grandchild, they are raising the first so this will be the first that they will actually be grandma and grandpa to and I think they are as excited as we are!
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I get along very well with my in-laws. His parents would seriously do anything for Jon and me. Ever since we lost Katrina, they've even been more supportive and much more caring and always making sure I'm doing well.
They're not your traditional Chinese family, so they welcomed me (a Caucasian girl), very nicely into their family, which I am so grateful for.
They do have their "opinions" on certain things that I don't necessarily agree with though, and they only live about a 5 minute drive away, so I'm curious to see how they'll be when Sweet Pea is born.
My MIL is ok.. in small amounts. But she really annoys me a lot. She is the worlds worse cleaning nazi! When she comes over here, she'll dust check! And even check every room.. who the heck does that?! Her house isn't even as clean as she thinks, even though she cleans ALL DAY LONG she still has dust bunnies under things! I'm sorry but I'm not spending all day cleaning, I have a life! Also, she is very controlling, thinks she's always right and it's her way or no way. We bump heads all the time because when it comes to MY son it's MY way, she's not use to someone else being in control. Not that she'll listen to me, when I tried to get rid of the Binkie with my son at 4months she kept giving it to him! Even would give him a second to hold(we lived with them at the time). Then again at a year, I said NO binkie and she said ok.. he spends the night over there often and we'd catch her giving him them.. so yeah she won that battle and he still has the binkie which annoys me. She always makes me feel like I'm a bad mother, like I have no clue what I'm doing just because he's my first. He may be my first but I did have another kid, I took my brothers kid in from birth until 2years. Of course, she knows better always!
The rest of the In laws are ok, my FIL doesn't talk to me much(Doesn't speak english) but he's nice. One of my BILs I really like, he's so nice to me and always asks me how I'm doing and this pregnancy he's the only one to ask about the baby and how I'm doing.
Ellen-your posts are the highlight of my boring life LOL she sounds like MY mother in law!!!
If your MIL is at all like that: I AM SO SORRY. I REALLY feel for you. I wouldn't wish that shrew on anyone. Shes horrid.
Unfortunately my sarcasm, lack of tact, and inability to filter my thoughts before speaking gets me into lots of trouble.
Anyway I could go on for hours about my inlaws. Don't start an inlaw thread unless you want to hear a lot from me. I always have something I need to get off my chest when it comes to those.... very special people.
My in laws are pretty good. They are supportive and ready to help when they can but they live 14 hours away. My mom in law used to come in between me and hub but she finally stopped when he made it clear that she was not gonna win. When she visits she over endulges the kids but I dont say much cuz she only sees them twice a year. My mom is much better for nursing advice and such.
Ellen-your posts are the highlight of my boring life LOL she sounds like MY mother in law!!!
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My MIL and FIL are great! They have an interesting history together, but you'd never know it meeting them.
My only complaint is that she still calls DH to "remind" him to do certain things. I think I'm more bothered by it while pg. She's very attached and he was the youngest, so him moving 4 hrs away is difficult on her.
He adores his mom and I knew that right away he would be the same with our relationship b/c of it. I know it's b/c of her that he is a fabulous husband and father.
She's thrilled about the new baby and has already started buying clothes and such. (too bad we still don't know the sex for sure) DH says to "let her do it anyway."
I can't stand my in-laws right now. I used to think they were such wonderful people, boy was I wrong! They are controlling, manipulative, and because I don't let them do it to me it causes problems. But so be it, they aren't running my life!
I absolutly LOOVVEE My FIL!!!! And his wife (DH's step mom) But my MIL on other hand, I cant stand her! (neither cant DH for that matter)
My father passed away when I was 4 so I never really knew him, and was raised by an abusive step father, so my FIL fills that void in my life. He knows I think of him as a real father to me. Not just an inlaw!
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I have known my inlaws my entire life. But when you have their first and only grandchild, it's a new way of knowing them LOL. They are great people and I love them, but I'm glad they are 3 hours away. If you know what I mean?
Loved my MIL, had kids...can't stand her now. Actually, I can't stand any of them. They dont' like that I don't let them do things their way with my son. Well, too bad, so sad.
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They are DH's younger sisters...they are 3 and 5 years younger than us! 
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Joel Jr (3/4/10) Born at 8:37 am 5 lbs 8 oz 17 3/4 inches
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