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I would just like to add something in regard to those who oppose the Babywise and PDF method...that just like with any parenting method, the most important thing is to follow your instincts and use common sense....and I'm sure there are parents out there who put the strict guidelines of a schedule over the natural needs of their child, which is incredibly sad and the main reason there is so much arguing over this method. Aiden is the happiest, most well adjusted kid I know and I successfully bf him to my goal of one year.
I also don't believe that the AAP is the "end-all, be-all" reference for how you should raise your child. If you're thinking politically, I'd probably seem like a walking contradiction b/c for the most part, I used the PDF method, but fed on demand up till 6 weeks, and also wore my baby in a sling. AND I put my babes to sleep on their tummies
Bottom line is that I believe everyone should be able to decide for themselves how they want to raise their kid, and the government should get the heck out of it.
That said, thanks again to all of you for thinking of me, I have my ultrasound this afternoon and I'm going to try to focus on work until then so I don't go crazy worrying.
I agree with you! Just as there are tons of different personalities in the world, there are also tons of different approaches to childrearing. What makes sense for some isn't right for others. I often find it frustrating that parents (and oddly, women seem to be the worst offenders sometimes) seem to like to tear each other down and criticize each other's choices rather than supporting one another even when we make choices that are different. I see this all the time with respect to birthing choices, labor/delivery practices, and child rearing. It saddens me a lot.
Futermore, I totally agree with you in that the AAP is not the be all end all on how to raise children. Just as ACOG is not necessarily always in line with best practices for pregnancy and delivery. So often with AAP, guidelines are issued with respect to aiming to "protect" babies/children but frequently seem as though they were writen from the perspective that we parents have no common sense, and couldn't possibly figure out what is best of our own individual, unique circumstances.
Now, see??? I am ranting along with you! Don't even get me started on the ridiculousness of my hospital's L&D/ maternity ward policies! Today at my midwife appoitment I asked if I could ban the nursery staff from attending my delivery! LOL!
Good luck on your appointment! I am thinking of you!!!