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January 19th, 2010, 06:00 AM
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I'm a bit of an old woman I guess and I read Dear Abby every day, this was a question today and I thought it was appropriate here :

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Dear Abby: Please settle a dispute between my wife and me. One of her co-workers, "Cassie," is eight months pregnant and also overweight. My wife saw her and said, "Wow, you've gotten as big as a house!"

Cassie told her she was hurt by the comment.

In my wife's opinion, what she said is not uncommon when said to a pregnant woman.

I think the comment was inappropriate. What do you think?

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Gainesville, Fla.

Dear Needs a Mediator: I agree with you. No one, pregnant or not, wants to be told she resembles an orca.
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January 19th, 2010, 06:12 AM
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I agree it's not "nice" to tell someone they are huge but I also agree saying "you're so tiny" can be just as upsetting... I like to stick with "you look great" since big or small I think all pregnant women are beautiful!
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January 19th, 2010, 06:13 AM
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Just goes to show you what may be common sense to most people is actually debatable to some....

I'd slap someone if they said that to me.
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January 19th, 2010, 07:29 AM
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I agree that you have no idea what a woman wants to hear so I think it's best to stick with you look great.
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January 19th, 2010, 07:45 AM
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I used to comment when people were small because i figured it could only be taken as a compliment but i now i think that could be irritating as well. I agree sticking with comments like "you look great" is the best thing to do.
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January 19th, 2010, 09:40 AM
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um. yeah. comparing someone to a house, or a whale, or a cow, is just an insult..

Saying "wow you've blossomed since becoming pregnant"

or "My, your belly has grown "

or something to that extent is different..

wording, means ALOT in how you want something to come across.
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January 19th, 2010, 10:26 AM
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I don't see how saying someone looks small is offensive in the least, but I still stick to "you look great" because people get offended by things I don't understand

You look like a house, on the other hand, is just blatantly wrong.

My thought is that if you wouldn't say it to a non-pregnant person, you shouldn't say it to a pregnant person. Even though pregnant people are supposed to get bigger.
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January 19th, 2010, 10:28 AM
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I'd be pretty pissed if someone said that to me.
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January 19th, 2010, 11:13 AM
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Is it wrong that I am laughing my butt off at that "Dear Abby" letter? Who really needs that to be mediated???? How do you think that such a comment is acceptable??? What a hoot!
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January 19th, 2010, 12:33 PM
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My friend told me i had got "massive" since the last time she saw me then quickly pointed out she meant my bump and not me.. but i did take it the wrong way at first so i think it's best to stick with "you look great!" lol
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January 19th, 2010, 02:24 PM
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I find it surprising that the wife thought it was an appropriate comment to make. A woman should know better. The appointment scheduler at my office today asked me when I was due and then said "Wow, you've got that much longer?!?" I kinda took that as similar to "you're huge!" Oh well.
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