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I'm a bit of an old woman I guess and I read Dear Abby every day, this was a question today and I thought it was appropriate here :
Dear Abby: Please settle a dispute between my wife and me. One of her co-workers, "Cassie," is eight months pregnant and also overweight. My wife saw her and said, "Wow, you've gotten as big as a house!"
Cassie told her she was hurt by the comment.
In my wife's opinion, what she said is not uncommon when said to a pregnant woman.
I think the comment was inappropriate. What do you think?
-- Needs a Mediator,
Dear Needs a Mediator: I agree with you. No one, pregnant or not, wants to be told she resembles an orca.
I agree it's not "nice" to tell someone they are huge but I also agree saying "you're so tiny" can be just as upsetting... I like to stick with "you look great" since big or small I think all pregnant women are beautiful!
wife to Craig 5/28/2002 mom to Aliya 3/31/2004 and Liliana 4/6/2010
I used to comment when people were small because i figured it could only be taken as a compliment but i now i think that could be irritating as well. I agree sticking with comments like "you look great" is the best thing to do.
My friend told me i had got "massive" since the last time she saw me then quickly pointed out she meant my bump and not me.. but i did take it the wrong way at first so i think it's best to stick with "you look great!" lol
I find it surprising that the wife thought it was an appropriate comment to make. A woman should know better. The appointment scheduler at my office today asked me when I was due and then said "Wow, you've got that much longer?!?" I kinda took that as similar to "you're huge!" Oh well.